How do you know who the right one is??

[God'schild]

this probly sounds weird and is probly weird as well.

But i've been asked this questions many times
"how do i know when the right comes?" (single) i tell the people that ask me that it takes prayer and seeking God.

I know who my right one is i've been praying for a while though some people might think this is weird that i know.
All i can say is that it takes prayer and seeking God.

How do we know who the right person is??:confused: :confused:

[Philippe]

If another brother come and tells you that he wants to knows you more?

And if he told you that he loves you?

And if he told you that he believe that God has shown him that you are her wife and might even share something with you that would seems that only God could have done that?

On the other hand, if years passes and the brother never shows you interrest, would you wait on him forever?

And if he finally get married to someone else what would you do?

I do believe it can be from God but on the other hands I knows some situations where someone think to know that another one is its mate and that other person also believe to knows but it is not the first person. And both are sinceres...

[God'schild]

true very true..

i can't explain what i'm feeling it's way to hard to get people to understand.

[Philippe]

In another thread, you mention that the boy is supposed to come and ask the girl...

Since you know the boy, how do you behave with him? Do you show him some interrest or you are able to hide it and want the Lord to show him?

How much are you talking to him? Are you friends?

[God'schild]

In another thread, you mention that the boy is supposed to come and ask the girl...

Since you know the boy, how do you behave with him? Do you show him some interrest or you are able to hide it and want the Lord to show him?

How much are you talking to him? Are you friends?

We're close friends
Seem like God brought him at exactly the right time when i needed him.
I'm myself when i am around him. We don't see each other due to living in difference provinces.

[levicollins]

My personal thoughts on this issue....

There is someone in this world that is perfect for you. God has a plan for who that is, and when you will meet them. As far as knowing if he/she is right for you...just pray about it and wait. Dont rush into anything. There is really no way of knowing...until God shows you. Savvy? God Bless !
: )

[JoeC]

If another brother come and tells you that he wants to knows you more?

And if he told you that he loves you?

And if he told you that he believe that God has shown him that you are her wife and might even share something with you that would seems that only God could have done that?

Quick interjection.

It needs to be a revelation on the girl's part too. I've heard Brother Barry Coffey preach on this time and time again, so it does apparently happen. Guy feels that he has a revelation and tells girl. Girl has no revelation. Brother Barry's advice? Get a revelation yourself and don't let yourself be swayed by some one else's revelation. I concur.

[blessed]

Quick interjection.

It needs to be a revelation on the girl's part too. I've heard Brother Barry Coffey preach on this time and time again, so it does apparently happen. Guy feels that he has a revelation and tells girl. Girl has no revelation. Brother Barry's advice? Get a revelation yourself and don't let yourself be swayed by some one else's revelation. I concur.

Amen Brother.... that is so true.

I had a similar experience, boy gets revelation that he is to marry girl, girl don't like him, boy tries to convince girl... In the end boy backslides.. lucky for girl, she was not swayed by his revelation. I believe that the Lord will reveal to the girl if the boy is for her. So girls don't go on someone else revelation.

[AndrewMichael]

I am one to say don't act in any way outside of a God sent revelation, relationships are far too dangerous to act otherwise.

I have had ever motivator outside of revelation (ie, good feelings, good friendship, right timing, short string of events that make sense) but I knew that God had not told me to act by a revelation. I did otherwise and I reaped for two weeks straight the feelings of confusion, distress, and downright sadness. Do NOT flirt with the devil on this one at all. We need to have a revelation to the same magnitude of when we got the Holy Ghost (and if you don't have that revelation don't even THINK about a relationship, again, I have had personal experience here too). In all honesty, just wait for God to open the door. Sounds so simple, but that is one issue that I have always had a problem with, and my heart has been thoroughly smashed many a times because of it.

Pray and find a revelation, either yes or no. Don't assume otherwise.

[Gen]

THE.STATURE.OF.A.PERFECT.MAN_ JEFF.IN V-2 N-18 SUNDAY_ 62-1014M

8-5 A young man asked me the other day, said, "You think I could--ought to get married, Brother Branham, to such-and-such a girl?"
I said, "How much do you think of her?"
He said, "Oh my, I just love her."
I said, "Well, if you're not going to live without her, you'd better marry her then. But if you can live without her, you better not, so the... But if it's going to kill you, you better--you better go ahead and get married." I said. And so what I was trying to get to him, this: that if you love her so much... Now, right now before you're married, everything's just fine and dandy. But after you get married, then the toils and trials of life come in. That's when you've got to be so in love that you understand one another. When you're disappointed in her, or she's disappointed in you, you still understand one another.



:)

[Babyruth]

Quick interjection.

It needs to be a revelation on the girl's part too. I've heard Brother Barry Coffey preach on this time and time again, so it does apparently happen. Guy feels that he has a revelation and tells girl. Girl has no revelation. Brother Barry's advice? Get a revelation yourself and don't let yourself be swayed by some one else's revelation. I concur.
You are 1000% right brother! Leah and I know a few people that have had "revelations" at certain places, where the word latte fits, :D, and they have all proved to be wrong. So, don't trust anyone else's "revelation," get your own and pray!

[Philippe]

Well, It's easy to say something when you are still young... but when one get older, sometime he can get to a point that it seems to be impossible to ever get married and that can last many years.

[Sara]

Quick interjection.

It needs to be a revelation on the girl's part too.

Amen! (and to the quote Gen posted too!) My pastor preached about this LAST NIGHT. Hehehe... and he said this: "God will not show him she's for him without showing her that she's for him. He can't do that." And it's so true... when He does show you, HE SHOWS YOU. You just can't miss it. First there's a lot of praying to do... a lot of fasting and seeking the Lord... then comes the vindication. God will show you if he/she is the right one for you.

And suddenly...

You just don't care about anyone else... but him. (OR HER.)

And...

Ahhhhhhh...

:love:

Nevermind!

Hahaha, jk...

JUST KIDDING.

STOP THINKING THAT!!!!!!!!!!

My goodness...

[blessed]

Well we can see that you got your revelation. :D

[Unregistered]

As a teenager, there were times that I have thought how much I want to spend my life with some girl that I had been very fond of. Then I come to find out that is not really God's pathway for me. Then if I am not really sure that person is saved, I pray sincerely for their soul because if they are saved then I will be able to spend eternity with them. Trillions upon trillions of years living in joy, peace, comfort far away from this "pest house". I am married now and my wife and I have a great relationship but it also feels like we are 2 oxen pulling a heavy plow together. It is because there are responsibilities, pressures and sorrows in this life. Marriage is a good thing but nothing compared to our Christian fellowship together in eternity. Look for Christ and cry out for the souls of those who are meaningful to you and God will give you all you have need of.

[Sara]

JUST KIDDING.

STOP THINKING THAT!!!!!!!!!!

My goodness...

I quote myself.

[HotShot53]

I quote myself.

Quote yourself all you want, it doesn't mean what we are thinking is incorrect ;)

[already bought]

Well I am not in a relationship but I do have something to say. One thing is sometimes I think we think we know who it is. We really need to pray about it and be open to Gods will and be willing to go His way. What I mean is that you like the person so much you are willing to let them go if there is someone that would make them more happy.

In a relationship its not about you its about the other person. Get to a place where you could and would be soo happy weather its you or weather it is someone eles. I know its easier to say than to do, but then after you get to a place, truly get to a place where you can be happy for them either way then God will work it all out.

And if your a guy and you are neutral about it ( that dosn't mean you still can't like her) and you still like her then approch her and go from there. Or talk to, if she has a brother, or one of her friends, and find out if she is intersted in you and then go from there.

And what ever you do guy or girl treat the other person with respect and don't stalk them. WE know that God has to do the work but also we have to do something to. Be willing to go what ever way, become neutral, that you will be happy because the other person is happy.

[PianoMan79]

Good points. I have often wondered how to handle the "competition" aspect - when another person is interested in the same one you are. It always seems to happen that way for me, so maybe that is God's way of telling me to wait.

[AlanaH]

You are 1000% right brother! Leah and I know a few people that have had "revelations" at certain places, where the word latte fits, :D, and they have all proved to be wrong. So, don't trust anyone else's "revelation," get your own and pray!

Same here. I don't know how many times I have heard an older girl pop out with "I had a dream last night and now I know who it is." A few months later, a girl visits from somewhere and poof! Her "dream" guy becomes history. :) Haha, I just caught the double meaning...
But anyways, then the girl has another dream and now it's somebody else.
I'm sorry, but I don't think that's what the word 'revelation' really sums up. I have talked to some of my married friends and they say that there just came a point where they just knew. It wasn't a big thing, they just knew.
And about the 'don't trust anyone and get your own', amen, amen amen!
I've had several fathers and mothers approach my parents and casually mention 'how nice it would be if our kids ended up married someday." I'm an only child, so I know who they were mentioning.
News flash: I don't really 'like' their son and I know that he doesn't 'like' me. It's like, c'mon folks, haven't you got something better to do than matchmake for your kid??? PLEASE LEAVE US ALONE!!!!!! We'll find each other eventually IF we're supposed to....I'll be hiding under a rock somewhere in the Amazon... heehee...

[AlanaH]

Quick interjection.

It needs to be a revelation on the girl's part too. I've heard Brother Barry Coffey preach on this time and time again, so it does apparently happen. Guy feels that he has a revelation and tells girl. Girl has no revelation. Brother Barry's advice? Get a revelation yourself and don't let yourself be swayed by some one else's revelation. I concur.

I've had this happen....when I was age 11 and he was like 20......my my my.

"Will you wait for me?"
"Well, I'm only 11...the real question is whether you want to wait for me. I'll be ready in like, 15 more years. Oh yeah, and by the way, I want a really expensive wedding. Maybe you could start saving up now...???"

Sorry, but that WAS a funny conversation. Poor guy. :012:

[HotShot53]

I've had this happen....when I was age 11 and he was like 20......my my my.

"Will you wait for me?"
"Well, I'm only 11...the real question is whether you want to wait for me. I'll be ready in like, 15 more years. Oh yeah, and by the way, I want a really expensive wedding. Maybe you could start saving up now...???"

Sorry, but that WAS a funny conversation. Poor guy. :012:

Lol, if those were your real ages, then he deserved it ;)

[AndrewMichael]

Guess I can't help but put something here...

Ya, I have never understood the "I had a revelation that we are supposed to be together" and then go and telling the girl which is just to submit to your revelation, even though she doesn't even like the guy at all, or is 11 like the above situation.

I believe that the revelation comes on both sides, or not at all. If God didn't have love for us, then how could we have love for Him (maybe you see the comparison). It wouldn't make sense for God to give the revelation on only one side. I tend to believe it is just the guy getting ahead of himself. I have thought a couple times that I found "her-the ONE" (...dum dum dum), but I never said a word to her about it.

And we can always rest assured in that "If it is meant to be, God will make the way." Like everyone says, you find them when you are not looking, and I believe that is so because then all the glory goes to God. He put you together, you didn't put yourselves together (thus having no reason to fulfill Matthew 19:6, or Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder, and no reason to give God the glory for your mate.)

Main thing, don't "look" ... you'll never find them that way, But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (Matthew 6:33 for those who need the reference).

[joris]

I've had several fathers and mothers approach my parents and casually mention 'how nice it would be if our kids ended up married someday." I'm an only child, so I know who they were mentioning.just... be glad you were born now, not like a few hundred years ago :); that used to be a very common thing :y10:

[BroTrevor]

Main thing, don't "look" ... you'll never find them that way, But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (Matthew 6:33 for those who need the reference).

While I sort of agree with this, it is true that we should seek first the kingdom of God, I do have to say one thing. There are guys who would like to get married, but in process of "seeking first" they totally isolate themselves.

Let me put it this way... if you are a deer hunter, and want to shoot a deer, every now and then you must go to the woods and sit in a tree with your bow. Or you'll never get a deer.

Translation: Being at least sociable in the company of the opposite gender never hurt anything.

[Sara]

"Oh yeah, and by the way, I want a really expensive wedding. Maybe you could start saving up now...???"

Sorry, but that WAS a funny conversation. Poor guy. :012:

Yeah. I want a really expensive wedding, now that you mention it. :chris:

Don't we all? :)

(THEN AGAIN, there are those who just want to get married period so, yup. Hehehe...)

Except Ruth.

HEY!

Whatever happened to Ruth???

[AndrewMichael]

Translation: Being at least sociable in the company of the opposite gender never hurt anything.

Well ya BroTrev, I mean living in a cave usually isn't where God wants you. And I do firmly believe in fellowship, even if with the opposite gender, but with the vast supply of "wife hunters" and what have you, I do believe we ought not to be trying out the whole field, constantly seeking for "the one" and instead looking for friends in Christ and let Him add anything to that, not ourselves.

Absolutely we should be in fellowship with other believers, thus being in fellowship with Christ (us being His body), and still putting the kindgom first (Luke 17:21 Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.)

As we know, in most things the extremes are not where its at, but right down the middle... (of course, staying in God's Word)



One last thing, I heard this from Gen yesterday, and I don't think I will ever forget it.

We look at our hand. We know that it's a part of us, without a doubt. Our mate is OUR other half, as much a part of our flesh as our hand, it should be that obvious if we are really seeking God's will regardless (maybe not in a day or a month), but in time, it should be that easy to recognize and hold firm that this is what God has put together. BroTrev might actually be able to add to this statement, having obtained "the one!"

[Babyruth]

Yeah. I want a really expensive wedding, now that you mention it. :chris:

Don't we all? :)

(THEN AGAIN, there are those who just want to get married period so, yup. Hehehe...)

Except Ruth.

HEY!

Whatever happened to Ruth???
I'm here! I've been gone from here for a while. I'm trying not to spend so much time on the Internet, and this past week was church camp, so I've been gone.

[JoeC]

Translation: Being at least sociable in the company of the opposite gender never hurt anything.
The man speaks truth!

Seriously, at least having friends with the opposite gender is a great boon. You don't even have to have marriage in your mind. On the other hand, I think it unhealthy to keep your friendship base entirely with a single gender. That's just for practicality purposes. When you do get married, it would be helpful to know a little about the other sex! Also, I think that relationships with both guys and gals helpd to balance a person socially.

[marichino_freedom]

I agree. I like it because there's stuff that I can turn to my guyfriends with, and then I have my girls to talk about pretty much everything else with! It was always fun for me to play soccer & stuff with my guy friends because the girls never wanted to play.

But, then when your lifelong friends are in serious relationships, that sometimes poses a problem if they are the opposite sex. My very good friend got married to a girl we went to school with, and then she wouldn't let him talk to me anymore (or anyone else for that matter).

so, sometimes it's hard to be friends with the opposite sex.......

[God'schild]

I agree. I like it because there's stuff that I can turn to my guyfriends with, and then I have my girls to talk about pretty much everything else with! It was always fun for me to play soccer & stuff with my guy friends because the girls never wanted to play.

But, then when your lifelong friends are in serious relationships, that sometimes poses a problem if they are the opposite sex. My very good friend got married to a girl we went to school with, and then she wouldn't let him talk to me anymore (or anyone else for that matter).

so, sometimes it's hard to be friends with the opposite sex.......

yea it can be hard..

I can talk to guy friends easier then i can with girl friends.. i don't know why that is but it is that way..

we're each made different and we're all special in our own way.

[HotShot53]

I pretty much talk with whomever will say something back to me ;) Currently, that is mixed between guys and girls... and while I assume communication with the girls that eventually get married will slow down once they do, I don't think it will stop altogether, since like half of them already like someone else that I know of ;)

[azurity]

I agree. I like it because there's stuff that I can turn to my guyfriends with, and then I have my girls to talk about pretty much everything else with! It was always fun for me to play soccer & stuff with my guy friends because the girls never wanted to play.

But, then when your lifelong friends are in serious relationships, that sometimes poses a problem if they are the opposite sex. My very good friend got married to a girl we went to school with, and then she wouldn't let him talk to me anymore (or anyone else for that matter).

so, sometimes it's hard to be friends with the opposite sex.......
I don't have alot of guy-friends, but I reckon it's pretty hard when they get a girlfriend or get married, and their girl doesn't want them to talk to any other girls.

It's kinda dumb... like this real jealous spirit. I've seen it a few times. Fair enough being protective & all. But getting mad at someone for talking to another girl? Or for having a girl's phone number in their phone... when they've been friends almost their whole life?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think sometimes people just get over zealous.

[Babyruth]

I don't have alot of guy-friends, but I reckon it's pretty hard when they get a girlfriend or get married, and their girl doesn't want them to talk to any other girls.

It's kinda dumb... like this real jealous spirit. I've seen it a few times. Fair enough being protective & all. But getting mad at someone for talking to another girl? Or for having a girl's phone number in their phone... when they've been friends almost their whole life?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think sometimes people just get over zealous.
That, or girls and guys are too friendly to begin with, and once a couple gets married, each realize how over-friendly they were with the opposite sex, and don't want it to stay like that, thus making others think they are over zealous.

[jtucker]

I don't have alot of guy-friends, but I reckon it's pretty hard when they get a girlfriend or get married, and their girl doesn't want them to talk to any other girls.

It's kinda dumb... like this real jealous spirit. I've seen it a few times. Fair enough being protective & all. But getting mad at someone for talking to another girl? Or for having a girl's phone number in their phone... when they've been friends almost their whole life?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think sometimes people just get over zealous.


i see your point about the jealousy thing, but i myself see it this way, if someon and thier wife are to fellowship with other gender people they shoud do it together not only as an accountability thing but to keep everything open and approrpiate and to keep a jealous spirit form even creeping in!

[marichino_freedom]

the funny part about all of that though is that he and his wife live in CALIFORNIA, only half a country away from me! They have lots of problems anyway. I wish the best for them and I don't want to come between them, so I stopped calling. He calls to say hi once and a while, but like i said; i dont want to be the source of their problems or just an addition

[azurity]

I'm thinking of a certain situation.

A certain guy I know was mere aquaintances with a girl. They were never even interested in each other. They would see each other maybe a couple of times a year. They had each other's email addresses, but hardly chatted, and each other's mobile numbers, but never spoke. They've known each other for well over 10 years.

The guy gets married, to a girl he hasn't known near as long. One day she goes through his phone, and sees this girls number. So she yells at him for even having her number. And yet the same girl doesn't understand why her husband doesn't like her having long phone conversations with guys she was previously friends with.

When is it taking it too far?

[marichino_freedom]

I would definately think that would be over the line

[AgapZoe]

Good points. I have often wondered how to handle the "competition" aspect - when another person is interested in the same one you are. It always seems to happen that way for me, so maybe that is God's way of telling me to wait.

-You are right Nick....and yes,God has His ways of telling us to wait and well,it only takes that Power of The Holy Ghost to help us discern when He's telling us to wait,pursue,step back--you know!

What I can say on this thread is that 'We shall Know' when the right one comes!
As for me,I believe I know whom it is but he doesn't know...or maybe even him he knows and well,he thinks I do not know..interesting,right?(That's about two people,no one else can ever understand it.)..we are great friends and from the way we talk,we are both not yet ready for a relationship and so in the meantime,we are both praying and seeking God's Perfect will! It doesn't matter how long it shall take,as long as he's Mr.Perfect Eternal Mate,why worry about it...when he shall see that the time's come,I believe he shall let me know as that's his job! Ever heard of the Bride looking for the Bridegroom? (maybe thru prayer..otherwise,it's the groom's job.)
What am saying in all these words is: Thou Shalt Know! In the meantime,serve God..seek Him and be sure that He's the one doing it all for you as well,marriages are made only in Heaven! Strong covenats indeed,not worth messing around with,right saints?
Bye!

[jtucker]

I'm thinking of a certain situation.

A certain guy I know was mere aquaintances with a girl. They were never even interested in each other. They would see each other maybe a couple of times a year. They had each other's email addresses, but hardly chatted, and each other's mobile numbers, but never spoke. They've known each other for well over 10 years.

The guy gets married, to a girl he hasn't known near as long. One day she goes through his phone, and sees this girls number. So she yells at him for even having her number. And yet the same girl doesn't understand why her husband doesn't like her having long phone conversations with guys she was previously friends with.

When is it taking it too far?

I think it is taking it to far when either person from the marriage talks to another bother or sister on a personal or private way that is excluding the husband or wife from the equation, I don't believe it is appropriate for a wife or a huband to act as that sister in your example did. I feel that it is okay to have brothers and sisters phone numbers in case for like prayer requests or maybe a brother calls another brother and asks for his help, but if married people are talking to others of the opposite sex outside the marraige on a private personal level i feel that,that is going to far.

Yes they may be members of the church or whatever but as a married couple you have a responsibility towards one another to CARE for one another, and to have conversations as the sister did is disrespectful to the husband.

The scripture tells us that husbands love their wives and wives respect your husbands. She is not staying inside her role as a wife therefore making her marriage at that present time unlawful. Her actions thus causes a rift between the two not only physically, mentally, but also spiritually.

The brother who is talking to this sister on the phone for hours, needs to back off and realize he is planting seeds of doubt, confusion, and distrust in that husband. This outside brother needs to go to that husband and respectfully and humbly apologize to him and repent. he needs more over to never call again and talk to that sister!!!!!

[joris]

Ever heard of the Bride looking for the Bridegroom? (maybe thru prayer..otherwise,it's the groom's job.)I guess that sort of makes sence... now why don't I like that? :sad:

[HotShot53]

I guess that sort of makes sence... now why don't I like that? :sad:

Lol, I'm with you there... oh well, I suppose when "the one" comes along we shouldn't have toooo hard a time talking to them, hopefully...

[JoeC]

There's just too many girls on planet earth. ::no::

[JMC_785]

LoL, how do you figure O' scholarly one?

[blessed]

There's just too many girls on planet earth. ::no::

Is that a bad thing for you

[joris]

Lol, I'm with you there... oh well, I suppose when "the one" comes along we shouldn't have toooo hard a time talking to them, hopefully...hopefully ;)

[HotShot53]

There's just too many girls on planet earth. ::no::

Lol, I know what you mean... it'd be much easier on us guys if there were only like one or two possibilities, then it wouldn't be too hard to figure out which girl to pursue ;)

[Babyruth]

Lol, I know what you mean... it'd be much easier on us guys if there were only like one or two possibilities, then it wouldn't be too hard to figure out which girl to pursue ;)
Oh brother! What are we going to do with you? :confused:

[HotShot53]

Oh brother! What are we going to do with you? :confused:

Lol, I don't know... tell me when you figure it out ;)

[God'schild]

my my

are we in a boat or what... can't you boys decide on a girl.

someone told me awhile ago "that the right one could've come along and you missed the right one because you had your eyes only on one person or weren't even trying to find the right because there were to many guys/girls on earth and you didn't know how to go about talking to that person"

Thank God that with praying on my knees and seeking God since i was 15 for my future husband(i know that sounds dumb and maybe even stupid) but i started praying for him when i was that old that God would somehow keep and protect him and that he would be filled with the HOLY GHOST.

my cent worth.

[HotShot53]

my my

are we in a boat or what... can't you boys decide on a girl.

someone told me awhile ago "that the right one could've come along and you missed the right one because you had your eyes only on one person or weren't even trying to find the right because there were to many guys/girls on earth and you didn't know how to go about talking to that person"

Thank God that with praying on my knees and seeking God since i was 15 for my future husband(i know that sounds dumb and maybe even stupid) but i started praying for him when i was that old that God would somehow keep and protect him and that he would be filled with the HOLY GHOST.

my cent worth.

Lol, I don't think I'll miss them for that reason ;) And starting to pray that young isn't stupid at all... my brother met my sister-in-law when she was 15, almost 16....

[Babyruth]

Lol, I don't know... tell me when you figure it out ;)
Well, in some countries they might suggest shooting you, but here in America... :D

[PianoMan79]

Well, in some countries they might suggest shooting you, but here in America... :D
I think there is a law against that sort of thing. lol

Anyway, back to the topic. I know there have been girls who have been interested in me, but there have been times when I failed to realize it because I had my heart set on someone else, then later I looked back and thought I might have missed an opportunity.

[EllyMae]

Well, I don't think you did miss an opportunity Nick... Either those girls you found out liked you, wasn't the one for you, or it's just not time yet. So, no worries... :)

[JoeC]

Thank God that with praying on my knees and seeking God since i was 15 for my future husband(i know that sounds dumb and maybe even stupid) but i started praying for him when i was that old that God would somehow keep and protect him and that he would be filled with the HOLY GHOST.

That's very commendable. I hope my future wife is out there praying for me - Lord knows I need it! :D

[God'schild]

That's very commendable. I hope my future wife is out there praying for me - Lord knows I need it! :D

I don't know who she is but i'm sure she is praying for you..

[joris]

are we in a boat or what... can't you boys decide on a girl. decide on a girl, me? no... ;)
what did you mean by deciding on a girl by the way? someone told me awhile ago "that the right one could've come along and you missed the right one because you had your eyes only on one person or weren't even trying to find the right because there were to many guys/girls on earth and you didn't know how to go about talking to that person"do you think so? I find that a strange idea
oh I don't have eyes like that on anyone... not at all trying to find Thank God that with praying on my knees and seeking God since i was 15 for my future husband(i know that sounds dumb and maybe even stupid) but i started praying for him when i was that old that God would somehow keep and protect him and that he would be filled with the HOLY GHOST.not stupid at all;
it makes me think of, first time in that youth group (even before ever going to church for real), they were talking about praying for future husband/wife - and prayed too, I guess
at the time... I was hardly used to prayer, a lot less about speaking openly in a group and not at all used to worshipping Lord -- I was sort-of quietly watching and listening back then

[redeemed]

i heard a story about a mother and praying for her daughters future husband. she started praying the day her daughter was born to keep and protect her daughters future husband

[AgapZoe]

:cool: :cool: That's pretty cool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'll do that for my daughter(s) and son(s)...too-God willing!

[azurity]

You guys are all so awesome. When all the rest of the world is talking so filthy... you're hear, talking about praying for your future partner.

If that isn't beautiful then what is?

I pray sometimes, too. That where ever he is... God keeps him safe. And away from other girls. Yup, I'm a jealous girlfriend already... *grin*

[God'schild]

i heard a story about a mother and praying for her daughters future husband. she started praying the day her daughter was born to keep and protect her daughters future husband

that's cool...

[AgapZoe]

You guys are all so awesome. When all the rest of the world is talking so filthy... you're hear, talking about praying for your future partner.

If that isn't beautiful then what is?

I pray sometimes, too. That where ever he is... God keeps him safe. And away from other girls. Yup, I'm a jealous girlfriend already... *grin*

Aaaha!ha!ha!ha......................you're funny girl!
-I too pray for mine...for God to keep Him away from all manner of evil and to guard him safely till the day he'll see it a Total revelation and appropriate time to let me know that it's TIME!! I am sure it won't hurt if I suggested this one: "Why don't we take on the initiative of genuinely praying for one another's partner too as we pray for our own? Hmm? I believe we all want the very best of heavenly marriages for each one of us over here on this ship,right?
...God bless!:)

[God'schild]

Amen!!!:)

God bless you..

[AlanaH]

i heard a story about a mother and praying for her daughters future husband. she started praying the day her daughter was born to keep and protect her daughters future husband

My mom did that with me...still not hitched tho...but who knows, maybe someday...
And I don't think that it's dumb to pray early. A lot of the couples in our church knew about each other when they were like 14-16. My own parents knew when they were 14 and 17, so hey. And there's my cent worth.:)

[AlanaH]

Anyway, back to the topic. I know there have been girls who have been interested in me, but there have been times when I failed to realize it because I had my heart set on someone else, then later I looked back and thought I might have missed an opportunity.

If she is the right one, she'll be back...

[God'schild]

i think God is learning me to be patient and wait for God to open the door in his time, not mine.. With God's Help i will be patient untill he opens the door..

Somehow i think Girls are more patient then guys i could be wrong but somehow i think i'm right on this one..

[Philippe]

i think God is learning me to be patient and wait for God to open the door in his time, not mine.. With God's Help i will be patient untill he opens the door..

Somehow i think Girls are more patient then guys i could be wrong but somehow i think i'm right on this one..

Since I'm older than you and still single, God is also learning me to be patient :) .

As boy should normally do the first step, then they should be more active searching the right one while girls wait more passively in a sense.

Also, I think that it is more a need for boys to be married than for girls. The woman was made for the man.

[God'schild]

Also, I think that it is more a need for boys to be married than for girls. The woman was made for the man.

true..

Brother Branham says the greatest thing outside Salvation is having a godly wife(for the guys)..

But still the girls have to be more patient because they carry the child for 9 long months then on top of that they have to go through sleepless night and they stay home with the children and that takes alot of patients exspecially if the children are grumphy.. So girls are more patient then guys..

[AndrewMichael]

true..

Brother Branham says the greatest thing outside Salvation is having a godly wife(for the guys)..

But still the girls have to be more patient because they carry the child for 9 long months then on top of that they have to go through sleepless night and they stay home with the children and that takes alot of patients exspecially if the children are grumphy.. So girls are more patient then guys..

WO WO!! how did you make that jump? I don't even think Houdini could have made that leap!

There is no real comparing of patience between men and women. Noah's wife had to wait nine months for their children, while Noah waited 120 YEARS for his promise. Again, you see I'm making the same jump right back at ya. We ALL need patience, real Godly patience, and what our gender is really doesn't matter. We are all called to be like Christ and have perfect patience towards God, I don't see how we can have gender apply to this.

[TommyLewis]

Andrew...I'm not sure houdini was that exceptional of a leaper...he was an amazing escape artist...but I believe his vertical was somewhat ordinary...Maybe someone like Carl Lewis, or Michael Jordan, would work better here...:laugh:

On the subject...patience is crucial on both sides; impatience leads to people getting the wrong one the vast majority of the time...

[AndrewMichael]

Andrew...I'm not sure houdini was that exceptional of a leaper...he was an amazing escape artist...but I believe his vertical was somewhat ordinary...Maybe someone like Carl Lewis, or Michael Jordan, would work better here...:laugh:

On the subject...patience is crucial on both sides; impatience leads to people getting the wrong one the vast majority of the time...

As in even with his "magic" he still wouldn't be able to make that jump, considering the preceding leap was about like jumping from Lima, Ohio to El Paso, Texas!!... simply beyond any human capabilities.... *nods*

[blessed]

We are all required to have the same level of patience and the is God's patience.

[eagleendtime]

I haven't read all this thread. So if someone else sent this quote, it will be redundant. But part of the Gospel is to bring these things to our remeberance.

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This is an awful strong thing. I didn't know how to bring it out. What'll I do when I got men and women setting in my congregation, some that's been married twice or three times? Good men, good women, all mixed up, what done it? False teaching. Exactly,not waiting on the Lord. "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder..." Not what man joined together, what God joined together.
When you got a direct revelation from God that's your wife and the same thing, that's yours the rest of your life. See? But what man joins together anybody can put apart. But what God joins together no man better dare to touch it. "Whatsoever God joins together," He said, "let no man put asunder." Not what some half-drunk magistrate, or something else put together, or some backslidden preacher with a bunch of creeds in a book that'd let them do anything in the world and the Word of God laying right there. See? I'm talking about what God joined together.

No marriage license, not even a God sent minister, puts people together. It's God alone. We can have false leadings, our hearts may actually love someone, and things can look like it is suppose to go that way, and it will fail. What are we suppose to do with a revelation, pray, read your bible, (since we now have tapes - listen to them), and consult your Pastor.

I have found, that if I have put in the sincere prayer, and followed that above formula as Bro. Branham laid out (note I added tapes), God has never failed to answer me when I have consulted with my pastor. It ended one false revelation many years ago, concerning who I thought was the right one.

[NeedGod]

i like this whole thing about patience. I am single and happy and have been so for a while. Now, people look at me and wonder. But you know what, I have been in failed relationships and I know just how nasty things can get if both parties are not yet filled with the Holy Ghost. It can get real ugly. Its hard and seemingly impossible especially when all your friends are in relationships or even engaged but WAIT. It pays

[AlanaH]

I know kinda what that's like too, so that's why I am waiting! The guy may be the right one, but this may not be the right time!

[marichino_freedom]

my very best friend and i have talked about getting married, but it wouldn't be until after i was done with college, which is perfectly fine with me.

[joris]

my very best friend and i have talked about getting married, but it wouldn't be until after i was done with college, which is perfectly fine with me.well, what if God told you today go! you need to be in that relationship, now?
just... oh well I wouldn't be too happy about something that sudden either but; just... God may plan things different

[BroTrevor]

God may plan things different

tis true... tis true...

[marichino_freedom]

oh i know, but as of now......... thats where it stands

[HotShot53]

my very best friend and i have talked about getting married, but it wouldn't be until after i was done with college, which is perfectly fine with me.

how much longer till you are done college, though?

[AndrewMichael]

how much longer till you are done college, though?

Just to bring in someone who could relate...

I have been faced with this question, "Should I even consider a relationship being in college?" At my recent position, I stand at a no. God works through His Word, as we all know. But a man that can't take care of his own house is worse than an infidel, and being in college really doesn't leave a lot of work time and family running time, and I prefer to be BETTER than an infidel! :ok:

I see that God starts our family, we are merely submissive to His leading. I believe God gave us a brain for a reason, and yes, I do think we should be willing to accept His will regardless of our circumstances/will, but I believe a family will be ready to become one before God would ordain it so, in a perfect will type setting (Lord fogive me if I'm wrong). Really just my opinion, don't have a lot of quotes for that.

[marichino_freedom]

how much longer till you are done college, though?


winter of 2007/2008

[TommyLewis]

We each have to find the leadership of the Lord...both in terms of who and in terms of when...
We can set up rules like not until I finish high school...not until i finish college...not until I finish college and get a good job...not until I finish college, get a good job, and pay off my student loans etc... All of those are logical...but may not be God's will for your life...I think if we trust God He will direct us on these things...

[marichino_freedom]

well, if it happens, it happens.

i'm just saying that its been discussed

[eagleendtime]

it's good to set goals and have plans.

But when is it good to get to married? does it matter to provide a house or a place to live? Have a steady Job or career? When is the right time? Finish college?

Let's put it this way, if your single and no one of the opposite sex, you love and can't live without - then go on with your plans and goals. But if you can't live without them - then yesterday was probably soon enough to get married. In that case forget the other nonsense, for they may never happen.

Life will go on easy till that one day when someone will catch your attention then watch out. It might be slow or quick. Jacob worked seven years for his bride, but Isaac had one sent to him. Ruth worked in the field of her's (might be the sister next door).

I have been around for a while and seen good plans and goals go out the window. Couples struggle with the husband going through college. Marriage is a struggle and a fight, but worth it. or dirt floors. Bro. Branham best couple was in a rail box car.

[HotShot53]

Bro. Branham best couple was in a rail box car.

Some people forget that too much...

[EllyMae]

We each have to find the leadership of the Lord...both in terms of who and in terms of when...
We can set up rules like not until I finish high school...not until i finish college...not until I finish college and get a good job...not until I finish college, get a good job, and pay off my student loans etc... All of those are logical...but may not be God's will for your life...I think if we trust God He will direct us on these things...

I agree...

And eagleendtime, I think you made some very good points :)

[marichino_freedom]

it's good to set goals and have plans.

But when is it good to get to married? does it matter to provide a house or a place to live? Have a steady Job or career? When is the right time? Finish college?




It IS a struggle (more often than not) when both people are in college. He is done. I'm not yet. Of course a home matters, and I already know providing is not an issue. Same with having a steady job (on both parts). I guess you just KNOW when the right time is.

[cherry]

Bro. Branham best couple was in a rail box car.

So do you think a girl that has been raised in a wealthy home would go for that? Should a guy even try? Or is it completely wishful thinking. Granted, maybe not a box car but something in that arena.

[eagleendtime]

Love knows no boundaries. Rebecca may not have been from a wealthy family but did it without no talking or seeing.

Hope - Bro. Branham's first wife was willing to leave a very good home to go be with Bro. Branham.

I believe it is possible, but it would be a challenge.

How about this, would a young women marry a man far older than her?

What are the limitations to marriage? Too far apart in age. Too much difference in social standings. With Love and God behind it, I don't think so.

[HotShot53]

What are the limitations to marriage? Too far apart in age. Too much difference in social standings. With Love and God behind it, I don't think so.

Things such as that can put more strain on a marriage than is there naturally... so before it's really considered, it should be made doubly sure that the other person is really willing to do something like take a major step down in their standard of living, and be willing to live on a strict budget... it's overcomeable, but like any potential marriage, should only be considered with a ton of prayer

[eagleendtime]

exactly, a ton of prayers, hours on bended knees.

For each marriage has it's own set of problems. Obstacles each must be willing to set aside.

Whether it's money, age, country, education, so on and so on.

If it's the right one, Love will be there and God will be behind it.

[God'schild]

Amen!!!!:)