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collegegirl

10-11-2005, 10:33 PM

Please tell me that I am not the only one. There are times that I get into a youth group, and I feel so left out because I am not one of the "popular" ones. :confused: :drowning: I can never seem to fit in. I open my mouth, and then proceed to find out that my size 7 foot is now a size 16 and in my mouth, and my face brings a new definition to fire engine red. I feel so inadequate, and then horribly stupid on top of it all. I then re-live the embarrassment of a thousand deaths when I am trying to go to sleep at night. I just want to hear it from others, that I am not the only person who feels like this.

primrose

10-12-2005, 05:05 PM

believe it or not ur not the only one that feels like that, there r times when l wish the earth cld jus open up and swallow me, but the best thing to do is pray about to God coz He answers prayers

annalisa

10-13-2005, 10:55 PM

You are definetly not the only one to feel that way. I am one of those girls that are not in the "in-crowd". I think it is probably because I am so insecure. Don't take me wrong, but maybe you think you aren't "Good Enough". My problem is that in my youth group, there is alot of pretty girls and i am just not one of them. So, i just try to remember that it is what is inside that counts. Your beauty comes from within. So my advice to you is.. just be yourself. No matter what, your uniquness is what counts.

collegegirl

10-14-2005, 12:27 PM

When I am with my true friends, I am totally myself. I don't really even think about who I am. I become practically unconscious to myself. But when I am with the others like you described, the pretty ones, I am more conscious of myself. Just like everyone, I think that every other girl is pretty. I have a friend who really encourages me, though. She constantly tells me that I am gorgeous, and that I am perfect. I really appreciate her, because I know that she is a true friend. I try to think about myself as a Christian young lady, and a daughter of Christ, but still, sometimes....

annalisa

10-17-2005, 05:27 PM

An a+ to your friend! She is definitely a true friend. I guess we all have feelings of inferiority. (Did i spell that right?) Anyway, there are always going to be the popular ones and the not-so popular ones. I know the girls at my church ( and even the boys) tend to form cliques and they tend to shun me away. But remember, those people aren't the kind of ones you want to spend time with anyway. But keep looking up and give your friend a hug for me.

collegegirl

10-18-2005, 03:12 PM

I will. I will have to stretch, because my friend is in South Carolina, and we are about 6 hours away. I know that there are others out there that do feel like me, but sometimes you just have to hear it. Not many people feel the need to take time to get to know someone. It helps being in a small church, because generally the youth are so desperate for fellowship that they have open arms to whoever walks in the door. Then to get shunned when you go to a bigger church is hard, especially when all you want to do is to have fellowship. It's not fun, especially when all you have for youth at your church is your brothers and sisters. :fencing: :fencing: :fencing: I wonder how many others out there have only their siblings for youth at their church?

Unregistered

10-18-2005, 06:02 PM

I wonder how many others out there have only their siblings for youth at their church?

One would be me, it was just me and my sister for 10 yr's at our church
then there were some girls that would come on and off like come in
the morning and not at night or not at all, so you really cant build a friends ship off of a once in awhile meeting and still we've been going there
13 years and it's still me and her, now we have a lot of little
kids but not teenage youth but now me and my sis are 19 and 20
so i don't know if you could call us "teenage youth" LoL

collegegirl

10-19-2005, 12:07 PM

I would still call you youth, just not quite so much teen-aged... :)
I feel where you are coming from. I was raised in a home church most of my life, and it is hard to make friends with people who don't make the effort to be a friend. I am sure that there are others who feel the same way that you and I do. If you need an email pal or something like that, you know, just some Christian youth to "talk" to, let me know. You should be able to contact me by going to the C's on the contact list, and find my name. There should be a way to email. Who else is out there?

grits99

11-01-2005, 03:25 PM

I know what you mean and yes their are people that the only fellowship is their brothers and sisters .Cause I am one of them . I am the oldest of 4 kid . We have been in the message for 15 years and just recently started to vist different church with youth . We have just started going to different youth camps . So don't give up and alway be open for new friends even if they don't what nothing to do with you at first .Keep trying and you will do well . Believe in yourself and be confident in the Lord .He will help you throw the hard times expetionly with friends. He has always come throw for me. Lord Bless

I will. I will have to stretch, because my friend is in South Carolina, and we are about 6 hours away. I know that there are others out there that do feel like me, but sometimes you just have to hear it. Not many people feel the need to take time to get to know someone. It helps being in a small church, because generally the youth are so desperate for fellowship that they have open arms to whoever walks in the door. Then to get shunned when you go to a bigger church is hard, especially when all you want to do is to have fellowship. It's not fun, especially when all you have for youth at your church is your brothers and sisters. :fencing: :fencing: :fencing: I wonder how many others out there have only their siblings for youth at their church?

collegegirl

11-01-2005, 06:11 PM

It is definately one of those hard testing times for sure, as I am positive you very well know. I am glad you are getting to visit other churches where there is other youth. One thing for sure, not having something just makes you appreciate it that much more, like fellowship with others your age.

blessed

11-02-2005, 11:00 AM

There is no one my age except me in my church the rest are a couple years younger, so im in a league all by myself.

Sometimes you really need friends to talk to that is why one day i just sat down in front the PC and said im going to find some site today where i can chat with believers. Then i came across this site and im really glad that i did.

Lord Bless u all

collegegirl

11-03-2005, 10:38 AM

We are really glad that you have found this site. Not being near a whole lot of youth has led me to appreciate this site, and the fellowship that I have gained from it. Thank you so much everyone!

blessed

11-04-2005, 08:14 PM

You are welcome collegegirl and thank u all for being my friends u have made me fee reallllllll welcome here.

collegegirl

11-07-2005, 12:40 PM

I'm glad. I am glad I have found this site. Otherwise I wouldn't have met you all. :D

blessed

11-07-2005, 09:16 PM

Where is ChristianSamauri? :think:

collegegirl

11-07-2005, 10:53 PM

I know, he hasn't been on in a little while. :time: :no-no-no:

marichino_freedom

11-14-2005, 08:59 PM

sometimes i feel like that too...but i am a HUGE nerd, so sometimes playing that up helps...just be yourself, there's nothing better! i didnt grow up in a "church" home....i was raised catholic by my dad, and my moms family is pentecostal (they are divorced), so I've had a mixture....I've only recently come into the church and sometimes its really tough meeting new people because you want to make a good impression on them, but then it gets to the point where it's like: "who am i trying to impress? i should worry about what anyone else thinks. so what if i dumped a large bowl of ice cream down the front of my shirt!"

:harhar1:

blessed

11-15-2005, 07:33 PM

so what if i dumped a large bowl of ice cream down the front of my shirt!"

:rofl: so Did u :D

marichino_freedom

11-16-2005, 07:18 PM

not me...(at least i dont think so...)

but as an example (but if it did happen to me, it would give me something to laugh about later)

:harhar1:

blessed

11-16-2005, 11:22 PM

im sure u will keep us informed if that ever happended to you or anyone here of that matter

collegegirl

11-19-2005, 01:21 PM

I have never really spilled ice cream down my shirt, but I have done some pretty dumb things, for sure. :rolleyes:

morning_mist

11-19-2005, 05:40 PM

Being in the popular group is not always a big issue in the philippines however I do understand how you feel cause during my school days...we were always an oddball, my sisters and I, cause we are wearing skirts or dresses when going to school and having long hairs. What I did was I would normally focus more on the academic side and by God's grace, I excelled in that and they would notice me more for that instead.

I can say right now that I am glad to be an oddball, I am not bothered by it anymore not like when I was still studying cause peer pressure was really frustrating if you would let them upset you.

collegegirl

11-20-2005, 07:05 PM

Peer pressure can cause you to do things that you would have never dreamed that you would have done. I enjoy being an oddball for the most part, but I am thinking about just making up a brochure about why I wear skirts and long hair, instead of explaining it. :rolleyes:

morning_mist

11-22-2005, 03:32 PM

you're absolutely right...it is hard explaining it and pretty hard for them to understand too :D

collegegirl

11-22-2005, 05:48 PM

Isn't that the truth. The one I get alot is about the hair. "Well, you could just trim off the dead ends to help make it healthier". I tell them with a straight face, (because this is true) "Your hair is dead when it comes out of your head anyways." :rolleyes:

blessed

11-22-2005, 07:35 PM

I tell them with a straight face, (because this is true) "Your hair is dead when it comes out of your head anyways." :rolleyes:
:thumbup: I like that one can i use it

collegegirl

11-23-2005, 08:03 PM

Well, it is totally true. Most any beauty book will tell you that.

marichino_freedom

11-23-2005, 09:59 PM

i get that alot from my mom and my dad and stepmom (about trimming). my stepmom is always like "you would look so cute if you just cut it up to your shoulders and go a style!" i did that when i was younger and it looked like a lions mane! my family doesnt get why i do the whole skirt thing either. my sister is taking me out to dinner for my birthday (girls nite) and she said that she could make me look so cute could a where pants just this once "no one would ever find out!" it bothers me when they arent supportive at all.......

Babyruth

11-24-2005, 02:49 PM

We support you though and so does God. That is the most important.

marichino_freedom

11-25-2005, 03:23 AM

i truly appreciate that...especially when no one in my family does

collegegirl

11-26-2005, 02:49 PM

We are the family of Christ. We are supposed to encourage eachother. So sister, if you ever need some encouragement, come on here, and we will help lift you up. (we all get in that valley sometime or another) *sings: you raise me up, so I can stand on mountains, you raise me up, to walk on stormy seas. I am strong when I am on your shoulders. You raise me up, to more that I can be,.*

Any one know that song?

marichino_freedom

11-27-2005, 02:00 PM

josh groban! i love that song (and thanks for the support)

Babyruth

11-28-2005, 03:48 AM

I love that song too!

blessed

12-06-2005, 04:24 PM

*bless swoons at the sound of that sound*

collegegirl

12-12-2005, 12:39 PM

You're welcome. *someone get the smelling salts please*

Babyruth

12-14-2005, 02:16 AM

I was listening to that song yesterday because it was stuck in my head. I love it!!!!! It is encouraging. Sometimes though, songs aren't enough. Right now things are super hard. My family is going crazy. I don't mean like weird, but mean and constantly blaming me for everything. Everyone is in terrible moods, and they are all taking it out on me. It's really tough.

collegegirl

12-14-2005, 05:52 PM

I will pray for you. I feel like that sometimes. Remember, God won't give you more than you can bear, so long as you know who to share your burden with. If you share it with Him, there is not a problem, and He will make it light. If you try to bear it alone, it will be overwhelming. I am talking to myself right now as well.

marichino_freedom

12-14-2005, 08:38 PM

i've been feeling like that lately....i'm searching for a new job and trying to get through finals....its very stressful, but i'm almost through finals week....i guess i am strong enough

:banana:

collegegirl

12-15-2005, 11:32 AM

You can do it!!!! If I can, than you can, and We both have the LOrd to help us through, so that is even more of a reason that we can make it through.

blessed

12-15-2005, 07:11 PM

Babyruth

12-17-2005, 03:18 AM

Thank you both for the encouragement and support. I'm doing a little better, but it's not a thing that ever ends. Things cool down, I feel better, I do better, and then my dad gets in one of his moods or my mom gets mad at me instead of my brother and then it starts all over again. My dad is having trouble, he has for a while and it's getting worse and worse but he doesn't think so, so it makes everything tougher. However, I'm trusting God, it's going rough, but then again, if it's easy, I must be doing something wrong. God bless you!!!!