Why do girls get so emotional?

[God'schild]

This has been on my mind for a very very long time.
I've asked my sisters, my mom, some of my girl friends why do we get so emotional at times.
They all gave me the same anwser that because God made us that way.
If you have an idea of why?
please let me know i would really like to know

[collegegirl]

Funny thing is currently, while I am writing this, I am crying.

Have you ever noticed the huge difference between men and women emotionally? Obviously, because you are asking the question. Take a look at a mother. How does she know just how to respond to the child? She is an emotional creature, programmed to respond with emotions, helping understand others. Notice how sometimes you can easily pick up on others emotions, where guys will just blunder through? We have a sensitive nature, and also hormones that add to that problem. Let's take a look at what Bro. Branham has said on the matter:

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E-47 Listen just a minute. "If our heart condemn us not..." But if there's something in your life that condemns you, you'd better make that thing right. I don't care what in the world you... You--you just can't operate right. The Holy Spirit can't deal with you. When you got prejudice, and selfishness, and all those things in you, the Holy Spirit can never bless you. You might get some intellectual emotions, some work-up.
Let me just explain something to you. For instance, when a--a women gets married, and she's afraid that she's not going to have a baby. She won't have it. No. But let her go and adopt a baby, then she'll have one. Now, the books claim that that's nine out of ten will do that. Why? It sets her body into the right emotion. Now, you see if... Ask your doctor if that's not right. Why? It puts her in the right attitude.

Ver interesting point. The emotions help put the woman into a certain type of attitude.


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I remember one time I was preaching at my tabernacle, years ago, and there was... when the... I was a Missionary Baptist, and the First Baptist Church downtown, the Sunday school teacher was up there and standing on the outside. And I always did believe in holiness. I believe that a man, if he's borned of the Spirit of God, and led by the Holy Spirit, he will live right. He has to, because the life of God's in him. And then this little fellow was their Sunday school teacher, and we didn't believe our... Our church didn't have any baseball team. They did down there, because they'd bring them in playing Sunday baseball, and things. We didn't believe in it. So this fellow said, "Billy, I was up to hear you the other night."
I said, "Yes, I didn't see you."
He said, "Oh, I come up; I stood outside." Said, "It was a big crowd inside, and I didn't want to stand in." Said, "I stood outside," but said, "I appreciated your message, but I--I just simply couldn't understand what you were saying, because some woman raised up back there and started crying, run up there to the altar with her hands up, crying." Said, "I didn't get the last part of your message." Said, "And that woman started crying, she said, "I--I just felt..." He said, "I felt like I--I almost froze to death."
I said, "Brother, you better change a whole lot. If you ever get to heaven, you will freeze to death up there, because there's going to be plenty of screaming and shouting up there."
And he said, "Don't you think that's emotion?"
I said, "Sir, anything without emotion, scientifically is dead. And any church or any person that's borned of the Holy Spirit, says God, hasn't got a little emotion about them, is dead."

So how about this? Because we are more emotional, we are more alive. Now I am just teasing there, but emotions are very important. Emotions aren't bad. We are just of a more tender nature, more sensative, having a greater range of feelings, and sometimes with being more sensative, it is easier to set off those feelings. I believe being that sensative is a very intricate part of being a woman because it makes you more in tune with others, making it easier to share their burdens, or sometimes just being there for them, and think about young children. If you didnt' have many of the emotions that you have now, children would be so different, especially with the younger, more tender years, where being sensative to their moods and temperments is very vital. Am I making sense?

[SisTrev]

Very good suggestions collagegirl...

I've got one too....I believe a lot of the reason that girls are so emotional is #1 ...HORMONES!!! Have you ever noticed that during certain times of the month that you are moodier than normal ...? or you cry more often?

Well, that's all from Hormones. And its really bad when you're pregnant! Trust me when i say I'll never complain about a normal monthly again!

[collegegirl]

I was going to suggest that as well, but thought I would leave it to someone else....:D

[redeemed]

i agree with the part that guys do seem to "blunder" through whatever it is.
-Kristin

I'm sometimes glad God made us so sensitive, that way we can feel for someone if they are in need of comfort from ladies. Sometimes people need someone to cry with them and men don't like to show emotions like crying, so they're not much for comfort.
- Lyddie

[NeedGod]

also, due to socialization, boys and guys are inclined to suppress their emotions. they think it will make them look weak. also, they are supposed to be strong for the family, so that they find people crying athome, they comfort them, not cry with them. sometimes i think men should supress their emotions, but nota ll the time. they should cry at times, especially if they are really hurt.
i think its alright, seeing as Jesus also wept in public. i dont think its wrong for them to cry in public. its mostly just socialization

[blessed]

Cause we are just girls that's why

God had to find some way to show the world his sensitive side :D

[redeemed]

yes, that's a very good point blessed!:)

[NeedGod]

oh, i love you Blessed. that is so well put.

[blessed]

Well thanks you gals, that's just the way I see it

[alesha19]

I have a question... does it really help to talk to people about stuff you are upset about?? I mean I usually don't and just keep it inside. And I really wouldn't recommend that. But when I do talk to people about it, I usually feel worse and like I should have never said anything. Is it better to just deal with it yourself??

[Sara]

Alesha...

I've been there. To be honest... i've kept it in, i've let it out, and i've learned that the best thing to do is to let it out. Now, WHO to let it out is the question. No matter how great your friends are... or how well you trust your mom, there are certain issues that only God can help us with. Because sometimes we just want to be understood. Someone who knows what it is we are going through, yet no matter how understood we are... it might never feel better because only God can make it feel better. You know? Just being in His presence does it for me. That's my answer to everything of course... a moment in His presence...

[EllyMae]

I totally understand where you are coming from Alesha... A lot of times I do hold my feelings in. But, there are those times when I tell someone and let it out, and usually I regret it later on. I always wish I would have said it differently or not at all. So, here lately I've just been taking my problems to Jesus, because that is where they should go.Yes, it is so nice to have someone there to talk to, especially a sister in Christ who understands. So, if you ever need to talk about anything (and this goes for any of you sisters) I would be more than happy to talk to you!! :) Lord bless!!

[Sara]

Amen... that's great Elly! Me too... i forgot to mention it, but if any of you ever feel like talking... i'll be here. :) God bless you all!

[azurity]

I just found this poem, while looking through files on my computer. I was actually looking for another one, where a little boy asks either his dad or God (I know that's a big difference, but I can't remember.) why his Mum cries so much... it's really sweet. But I can't find it, so here is this one for the time being:

From God:
When I created the heavens and the earth, I spoke them into being.
When I created man, I formed him and breathed life into his nostrils.
But you, woman, I fashioned after I breathed the breath of life into man because your nostrils are too delicate.
I allowed a deep sleep to come over him so I could patiently and
perfectly fashion you.
Man was put to sleep so that he could not interfere with the creativity.
From one bone, I fashioned you. I chose the bone that protects man's life.
I chose the rib, which protects his heart and lungs and supports him, as you are meant to do.
Around this one bone, I shaped you.... I modeled you. I created you perfectly and beautifully.
Your characteristics are as the rib, strong yet delicate and fragile.
You provide protection for the most delicate organ in man, his heart.
His heart is the center of his being; his lungs hold the breath of life.
The rib cage will allow itself to be broken before it will allow damage to the heart.
Support man as the rib cage supports the body.
You were not taken from his feet, to be under him, nor were you taken from his head, to be above him.
You were taken from his side, to stand beside him and be held close to his side.
You are my perfect angel.....
You are my beautiful little girl.
You have grown to be a splendid woman of excellence, and my eyes fill when I see the virtues in your heart.
Your eyes......don't change them.
Your lips -- how lovely when they part in prayer.
Your nose, so perfect in form.
Your hands so gentle to touch.
I've caressed your face in your deepest sleep.
I've held your heart close to mine.
Of all that lives and breathes, you are most like me.
Adam walked with me in the cool of the day, yet he was lonely.
He could not see me or touch me.
He could only feel me.
So everything I wanted Adam to share and experience with me, I fashioned in you; my holiness, my strength, my purity, my love, my protection and support
You are special because you are an extension of me.
Man represents my image, woman my emotions.
Together, you represent the totality of God.
So man...treat woman well.
Love her, respect her, for she is fragile.

[EllyMae]

Wow, that's a really great poem!! :) Praise the Lord

[desertroses]

I haven't been on here for a long time, so I do not know some of you. Anyways, here's my take on it: Both guys and girls have emotions. We are humans, social creatures. As young girls we are taught by our mothers and other authorative figures to talk, dress and act a certain way to fit into the norms of general society. The same goes for boys. If a boy cries 'cause he got hurt, he's seen as a sissy or 'less' than a boy, and not seen as a human being who is feeling pain. Therefore, it is encouraged for girls/women to express emotions and for boys/men not to - we follow this rule until we believe it and hence act accordingly.

It is never wise to keep feelings bottled up - it only causes destruction in the long run. Once our feelings/thoughts are expressed (written or verbal), they no longer trouble us as they did. If you don't want to tell anyone about what you're going through, write it down - get it out, you'll feel a lot better.

Hope this makes some sense and is helpful.

[redeemed]

i never thought of writing it down. good suggestion. i know i go through a lot (not having a mom) that i keep botteled up and i've cried myself to sleep i've done basically everything yet i have a hard time when i keep it botteled up but i feel like i have no choice. i know my problem is that i need to trust Jesus more but sometimes i just wish that i had a mom to talk to. does that just mean i'm being selfish?

[marichino_freedom]

that is a beautiful poem!!

of course that isn't selfish...daughters crave for their mothers, especially in their times of need. Why? a mothers love is so strong and i know it makes me feel better just knowing that my mom is there to talk to, even if i dont talk. i used to hold everything in, now it seem like i have an overflow of emotions sometimes. writing helps a lot.

[blessed]

WOW i just read the poem absolutely wonderful!!!!!!!!!! splendid i am definetly sharing that with my friends.

Redeemed if you want someone to talk to I am always here.

[Babyruth]

Most of the time I have no one to talk to except for God, and it's hard for me to talk out loud sometimes, so I write it out. I write out prayers sometimes because it helps. If it's something that you don't want to be reminded of by writing it down, you can burn it after and be done with it.

[EllyMae]

It's definitely hard for me to share my feelings with others... Has gotten me into trouble a few times too. The only one I feel comfortable to let myself out to is Jesus :)

[God'schild]

Elly Mae i have to agree with you a 100%

[EllyMae]

It is definitely a challenge... It seems like everytime I do actually let my feelings out to someone, they come out all wrong. That's something I'm trying to work on.

[collegegirl]

Writing down prayers also helps. Talk to Jesus about it, because He is supposed to be your Best Friend, and He will help you with it. I have left quite a few things in His hands, and it has helped. And even though you may not quite know how to get it out right, or not even know what you mean, He does and He will still help you, because He created you, and He loves you, and wants to help you.

[redeemed]

Redeemed if you want someone to talk to I am always here.

thanks blessed!:)

[alesha19]

yeah... if i keep a diary of my thoughts,and feelings?
sometimes that helps...
thanks collegegirl :)

[EllyMae]

I've never been able to keep a diary.. I do good for about a week, and then I just say, Ohh forget about it... LOL

[collegegirl]

Yeah, then you come back months later, and there is too much to catch up on, so you really don't write....I know how that goes.

[God'schild]

I keep a journal. It helps me to let out everything. And everything i let out is between God and me. it also helps me if i pray about everything. I talk to myself sometimes.
But the best thing is to pray about it and find someone that you can talk to. Someone that you can trust. Someone that will help you and understand. Someone that knows or has gone through what you have gone through or are going through.

[alesha19]

I keep a journal. It helps me to let out everything. And everything i let out is between God and me. it also helps me if i pray about everything. I talk to myself sometimes.
But the best thing is to pray about it and find someone that you can talk to. Someone that you can trust. Someone that will help you and understand. Someone that knows or has gone through what you have gone through or are going through.

Yeah... it's hard for me to talk to someone - even if they've gone through it as well. But praying really helps me. :)

[God'schild]

Yeah... it's hard for me to talk to someone - even if they've gone through it as well. But praying really helps me. :)

I used to be that way and with prayer God brought someone into my life that i could talk to. I will be praying for you Alesha19.
Praying is the best thing any one can do.

[already bought]

it can be fear that keeps you from talking to someone. I know for me I had that to. And i found someone who I really trusted and I began to talk to that person. It was one of the best things becuase it helped me heal.