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joris

04-23-2006, 02:40 PM

I have no idea where to post this, so I post here ;-)
It seems most (single) people are looking for someone, or at least look/"see" whenever they come around people they might think they might love to have a relationship with

I find myself in the situation that I hardly notice - I don't know what to look for and in general I'm kind of not even interested in looking; this seems very weird - and I wonder whether it's "ok"; some friend thinks maybe that's somewhere deep I don't believe there is someone (to be honest, in past I was kind of afraid of always being lonely), but I also know some respond in a more positive way, thinking maybe that's just because God wants my focus to be right on Him for now

now I can hardly ask you for the answer but... do people here recognize something like this? or something

SisTrev

04-23-2006, 02:47 PM

i can relate to what you are saying. I too always had a fear of never getting married and being lonely. But the Lord led me to the right person.

When I was 19 I went to some special church meetings in pennsylvania. Most of the young people there came looking for a guy/girl. I went looking to get the Holy Ghost! I didn't care whether or not if i met someone. Well when the meetings were over I had gotten what i went there for. God had answered my prayer. It was only a couple years later that He answered my other desire and sent me a husband. We have now been married for 5 1/2 years and are very happy.

Just be in prayer about this and make sure you are right with the Lord and have the Holy Ghost in your life and God will take care of everything else.

I hope this helps you some.

JoeC

04-23-2006, 05:00 PM

Looking? Nope. Not here. Too busy with other stuff. And if I did find a girl who liked me, what would I do? Drop college to get married and live in a dump 'cause I have no marketable skills? I think not.

Though that's not to say I don't notice girls. I'm simply not pursuing.

BTW, I really like your avatar joris.

joris

04-23-2006, 07:47 PM

you honestly mean that, people going to church to find a date? :012:

I didn't mean I ignore girls by the way, I just don't pay attention at -whether-they-are-pretty-and-nice-enough-so-that-I-could-want-to-date-with-them- (not that they would want to, mind you)
and I care less than nothing about school (though for unknown reason God gave me to be reasonable intelligent) that isn't my excuse either; I guess I sound even weirder now?

blessed

04-23-2006, 11:37 PM

No you don't sound weird just an average person.....

Wait till you hear the rest of them in here :D , you are perfectly fine.

It's character that counts not looks, looks eventually fade away character does not, it grows stronger and stronger each day. So it better be a good one.

JMG

04-23-2006, 11:40 PM

Am I looking? No I am not, the reason being that I already have someone. :)
It was beautiful for at the time that God put she and I together I was not looking and neither was she. It was the hand of God that guided us together.
When I think back it amazes me how beautiful something is when God goes to work,Because there were a few things that God worked out, and I distintcly remember that I had not asked God about them, but they were things that I had thought. They were that she must be in college so that she would understand the time frame of attending college and the work that college requires, and have the paitence to wait.

JoeC

04-24-2006, 12:13 AM

Am I looking? No I am not, the reason being that I already have someone. :)

Joseph! I had no idea! What are you holding out for man?! Can't even tell your bud about something like this till it comes up in a public forum. I'm heart-broken!

HotShot53

04-24-2006, 01:18 AM

Lol, you didn't know Joe? It was obvious on xanga before it became amited... and look at pics from LA camp and you can't miss it ;)

NeedGod

04-24-2006, 02:01 AM

OK,whats his xanga? i wanna see this someone too! uuuh, just coz i am the nosiest person on here! :no:

Babyruth

04-24-2006, 03:17 AM

Well, I think everyone else already knows that I'm definately not looking and am super content being how I am now. I don't intend to get married unless I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God wants me to (ie. God telling me, not someone else telling me). But, the Bible says to be content in all things. So, enjoy where you're at. Being single is better, you have more time. Use your extra time to get closer to God. Have a deeper relationship with Him! That's what this life is about, not about getting married and wondering who likes you. (Not that I think any of you think this, this is how some people I know are.) So, Amen to being Single!:yay: :yay: :yay: :yay: :yay:

JMG

04-24-2006, 08:24 AM

namwacha, I used to have xanga but I shut down the site becasue it was taking to much of my time.
Josiah, I am sorry I thought when we talked on msn you would notice my icon photo and ask.

JoeC

04-24-2006, 09:05 AM

I don't intend to get married unless I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God wants me to
Hopefully when you do get married it will be more than God wanting you to get married. It would probably be a good idea to have some interest in the guy yourself. :yes:

NeedGod

04-24-2006, 09:07 AM

yeah, i am thinking it would be a splendid idea Joe, lol!

Sara

04-24-2006, 12:42 PM

Lol, you didn't know Joe? It was obvious on xanga before it became amited... and look at pics from LA camp and you can't miss it ;)

Hmmm... no comment.

:)

HotShot53

04-24-2006, 03:33 PM

Hmmm... no comment.

:)

Lol, that was all the comment needed ;)

blessed

04-24-2006, 04:17 PM

That was the most interesting no comment i have ever read.

Flyboy

04-24-2006, 05:42 PM

nice..it seems i got to cut and paste to get a gurl in a photo with me:banana:

Babyruth

04-24-2006, 08:14 PM

Hopefully when you do get married it will be more than God wanting you to get married. It would probably be a good idea to have some interest in the guy yourself. :yes:
The only way I would be getting married is if God told me to. Otherwise, I don't care how interested in him I am.

Sara

04-24-2006, 10:04 PM

The only way I would be getting married is if God told me to. Otherwise, I don't care how interested in him I am.

Ruth, that's exactly how i felt about it! -feel.

And you know what? He did. He told me.

Long story...

But He did.

:yay:

Keep it up... there are too many making the mistake of going out and choosing who they want to marry instead of waiting on the Lord to choose for them. Then they wonder why it doesn't work out...

ANYWAY, let's keep it positive.

Wait on the Lord.

He will let you know...

(and if you give me a green, He'll let you know sooner.)

Hahahahaha...

I'm so just kidding.

-duh.

It's cause DJ has so many that...

I vant some tooooo...

:012:

(Jk)

Babyruth

04-25-2006, 02:51 AM

You are funny Sara. I did give you a green, but before that post. I am not waiting for God to tell me anyone. I'm just happy and content being how I am!

NeedGod

04-25-2006, 02:54 AM

BroTrevor

04-25-2006, 06:31 PM

Ha!!

let's get past the front all these single people put up.

"I'm so happy...single is better...I almost don't want to be married...ever..."

as if!! But, I understand the need for denial sometimes...

----- Kidding ---------- <cringe>

Anyhoo...my story...

I had come out of a relationship that wasn't fun, not "bad", but just not fun...ya know? ...and so I wasn't really looking to get back into a relationship. So I was happy enough to just wait...live life a little....go to australia, learn extreme kayaking...things like that.

Then SisTrev started flirting with me...totally unanticipated. (She'll deny it). And...I didn't even try to get into a relationship. Suddenly...our 3rd kid is on the way...maybe even be here tomorrow or something...weird.

But anyhow... don't worry about it man! It's not "weird" to not be interested in persuing relationships at this time...perhaps God has something in store for you.

Perhaps it's even a blessing! Take jtucker's thread for example...the guy likes a girl but doesn't know what to do about it! You could have his problem. <chuckle> From the sounds of it, he'd like to be more neutral on things.

SO... let God lead man! Just keep your eyes totally on Him...

MATTHEW 6:33
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

redeemed

04-25-2006, 08:02 PM

Bro T i think you should write a story on how you and Sis Trev got together! lol jk but i've seen bits and pieces and it really sounds neat!

HotShot53

04-25-2006, 09:19 PM

well, since we are soliciting for greens, do give me one and i wont tell you any more about it...excapt when i want to really bad and when i am eager to and when i have to and when.....oh, ok. i'll stop beating around the bush. i'll ask as directly as sara asked. just gimme more greens! me and sara both

Hey, stop begging for greens.... one or two more and you'll pass me in the ranking, and that wouldn't be fair ;) You already have more posts than me, let me keep the higher ranking ;)

JMG

04-25-2006, 11:09 PM

Tis very cool, begging for greens. :yay: :y14: :chef :)

Sara

04-25-2006, 11:23 PM

Ha!!

let's get past the front all these single people put up.

"I'm so happy...single is better...I almost don't want to be married...ever..."

as if!! But, I understand the need for denial sometimes...

----- Kidding ---------- <cringe>

Hahaha... that was a good one Brother!!!

Well... the same thing sorta happened to me... i was planning to study for the rest of my life. Maybe work. I don't know. Just no more relationships. I know i'm young, just 19, but i did not grow up a Christian and therefore... yeah. I'm happy though, because God knew the desire of my heart and as soon as i was able to surrender my life completely to Him... He was ready to bless me for it...

BUT, even now, i understand that what i have is not for everyone. We are all different! Amen? Like this guy said one day, ( i have no idea who. ) "We are all unique. Just like everyone else."

Brother Joseph, don't get too excited with the smilies AND i was SO NOT begging for greens. No, no, no... you guys give them to me as i earn them. Or deserve them... how does it work again??? Oh yes. If you scratch my back, i'll scratch yours??? Ha. Jk!

:)

Babyruth

04-26-2006, 05:12 AM

NeedGod

04-26-2006, 05:20 AM

actually Ruth, i think its great you want to stay single and serve the Lord. just be very careful so that you dont let Him give you the permisive instead of perfect will in that issue by being so adamant on it. If someone came along and the Lord had sent him, you might be so set in your ways you may not see and follow the perfect will of the Lord. otherwise, sometimes wish i could say the same too. to stay single means all your attention is focused on God. i just dont know if its for me!

Babyruth

04-26-2006, 05:26 AM

Thank you! I'm glad you understand. A couple months ago at a youth service we have on Friday nights, I gave up everything to God. My friend and I both talked about it too. I'm still not wanting to get married in the least and have no idea who I would marry if I did want to get married, but if God wants me to get married, He will have to show me very clearly that's what I'm supposed to do.

BroTrevor

04-26-2006, 11:40 AM

is "finding a guy" the only way of rewarding us for being willing to surrender to His will? I don't think so, otherwise Paul would have gotten married. I think it is a blessing to be single, just like Paul! When I get the time, I'll post all the Scriptures that I've found!

Well spoken!

I CORINTHIANS 7:7
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

Paul was not in denial.

Sara

04-26-2006, 11:53 AM

How come you all think single people are hiding something? Just because you guys were desperate? Hm, old married people. :D But, Sara, while that's awesome you are happy and in His will, is "finding a guy" the only way of rewarding us for being willing to surrender to His will? I don't think so...

Actually Ruth, that's not exactly what i meant. First of all... i was not desperate. I didn't even ask the Lord for that...

Well... the same thing sorta happened to me... i was planning to study for the rest of my life. Maybe work. I don't know. Just no more relationships. I know i'm young, just 19, but i did not grow up a Christian and therefore... yeah. I'm happy though, because God knew the desire of my heart and as soon as i was able to surrender my life completely to Him... He was ready to bless me for it...

BUT, even now, i understand that what i have is not for everyone. We are all different! Amen?

So... what i'm trying to say is...

But anyhow... don't worry about it man! It's not "weird" to not be interested in persuing relationships at this time...perhaps God has something in store for you.

Perhaps it's even a blessing!

...

SO... let God lead man! Just keep your eyes totally on Him...

MATTHEW 6:33
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

So...

Yes.

But... i undestand your point of view...

Praise God for people like you!

:)

joris

04-27-2006, 08:50 AM

Ha!!

let's get past the front all these single people put up.

"I'm so happy...single is better...I almost don't want to be married...ever..."
:confused: don't know about others, but... I'm not happy; that'd be a plain lie to say
seems I would not (or hardly) be able to give, in the current state - and taking too much and giving too little, no relation could stand that

azurity

04-27-2006, 09:43 AM

Ha!!

let's get past the front all these single people put up.

"I'm so happy...single is better...I almost don't want to be married...ever..."

as if!! But, I understand the need for denial sometimes...

The need for the front is the fact that everyone assumes that we all have to be and want to be married.

Don't married people remember all the fun they had while they were single?

The married people give me heaps all the time, and no matter what answer I give, they've got a come back.

One brother said to me last weekend:

"Never say never, because never is a very long time."

Wise words.

JoeC

04-27-2006, 09:47 PM

is "finding a guy" the only way of rewarding us for being willing to surrender to His will?

I hope not. I would be very disappointed. :ng_thumbd

Unregistered

04-27-2006, 10:38 PM

Well spoken!

I CORINTHIANS 7:7
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

Paul was not in denial.

We shouldn't really worry about it. If we wait on God then we can be reassured that it'll be a perfect marriage.

And if it gives us confusion and unrest because of the isolation, there is One that knows best and has experienced and will be able to give us strength and comfort.

JMC_785

04-27-2006, 11:47 PM

Me too, especially being a guy.... :smarty:

Babyruth

04-28-2006, 03:39 AM

I hope not. I would be very disappointed. :ng_thumbd
I would be too! You are so strange! Sorry! Didn't mean to start that whole "strange" topic. No more of that!

Sara, I believe you, I was being a bit sarcastic in my response. But, so many people think you should be married and want to get married at 18. It's ridiculous! However, despite my strong desire to be like Paul, I also realize God may have something in store for me. He would have to do a major change in me. But, I don't want to be out of His will. No, I'm not changing my mind about getting married, but I've grown up slightly, ever so slightly, that I realize God may give me what I don't want now. So, I can't say I will never get married, but I can say that as of now and as far down the road as I can see, I don't want to ever get married.

azurity

04-28-2006, 09:29 AM

Ruth, I know what you mean. I've been there.

It used to exasperate me seeing all the desperate people around me. People who thought it was more important to have a boyfriend than to be close to God. Many of them ended up dating unbelievers, or falling by the wayside.

It also annoyed me the way that everyone assumes that you WANT to be married. I know everyone assumes that I do, and I did nothing to indicate my feelings whatsoever.

I CORINTHIANS 7
6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Someone once said to me, we don't know if Paul ever married. Maybe he was married when he was younger. (This was an older, divorced guy. I think he liked the idea that he was like Paul.)

I used to take Paul's example as my ultimate, too. I think it's good for us to have this point of view. But (without playing down what he said) there are also other examples that we need to look at.

Paul was kept single so he could focus on his ministry. Yet for Brother Branham (the messenger for our day) it was very clear that the Lord knew he should have a partner in life, even tho he didn't want to re-marry. God knew what was best for him. He said many times that a wife was the greatest gift God could give a man outside of salvation.

So it isn't the only way God can bless us. No one said that. It is just one of the ways He chooses to bless us. And if it's the greatest gift outside salvation for the guys... surely it must come close for us girls!

We must just be open to His will, His perfect plan for us. At this stage of my life, I don't want to be married. But I think that might be just because I haven't met the one that God has intended for me. Until that happens, I'm going to stay happy & single, and not worry about it. It's all in His time.

Sara

04-28-2006, 10:41 AM

Amen...

That was a beautiful answer Aly.

:)

Sara

04-28-2006, 12:50 PM

http://yqnews.org/forums/showthread.php?t=65

You guys should read what Sister Sara (ME!!!!!!! shesh!!!!!) had to say on July 3, 2005 about this particular issue.

Well, i have to admit that i feel the same way... BUT... it doesn't feel as bad, because i'm the only girl at church... AND there are no guys. PERIOD. THAT'S THAT. So... really, there's no way i could really have one right now... The times i feel left behind are at school when i see that everyone seems to have someone except me. I feel great being single too though! BUT there are those times when i feel... how can i say it... i gues i feel like i (need/want/i don't know) a boyfriend... you know??? Yeah... I don't remember who said this earlier, but she said that she had been looking and waiting for Mr. Right ever since she started "liking" boys... (or something like that!) that is so true! I think that's how we all are... (wait, are we??? or is it just us two???) I've felt the same way. Then we go through a change in which we just give up on the looking and prepare ourselves to be single for the rest of our lives. (just joking, but i think it really happens...) THEN we finally decide that it's never going to happen, UNLESS the Lord performs a miracle or something like that... and when we just leave it all in His hands, that is when He seems to finally bring that special someone around. I bet that if you ask all these people who are getting married right now, they'll let you know that somehow things turned out beautifully once they surrendered it all to the Lord.

UNTIL the lord BLESSES us like that... hehehe... (PRESENT: i still believe it was a blessig to me) We should continue to enjoy the "SINGLE LIFE." (hahahaha....) (not that there is much to that...)

:) Sara

But there is more; i'm afraid i was wrong. I was only around after the second reply i did, i believe. Then i got lost. Like... i lost my password to this thing. But i've been found now. Those were my thoughts then... some of them stand today, others have matured.

I kinda laughed reading some of my previous posts too...

:rollseyes:

azurity

04-29-2006, 06:56 AM

Amen...

That was a beautiful answer Aly.

:)
Thank you, my dear!

I don't think your old posts are that funny. You've always been really thoughtful, encouraging and well... just nice to read!

Tho I have to admit... you have grown since you posted that post!!

Babyruth

04-29-2006, 07:10 PM

Aly, that was a good answer! I agree with you on everything. When I said about God only blessing us with a guy, I was being half sarcastic. I know that's not the only way, it's just that some people think that. I believe God knows who is meant to be single and who is meant to be married. Obviously some are meant to be single, because there are tons of believers who are single and much older, and many who have stayed single. They were good believers, had a wonderful relationship with God, and they never got married. So, like I said before, if it's God's willl, He will have to show me, really truly show me, and He will have to a huge change in me, because I'm not ready for it at all.

Unregistered

05-02-2006, 01:07 AM

I used to really push the Bachelor Brotherhood (support it big time). That is until I had the chance to spend some time with a couple of them (at 50+ years old). I thought us young guys when we got together and talked about girls was bad... but these two took it to a whole new level! I don’t know how, when, where or who, but the Lord willing I’m not going to stay single! I think this was the Lord speaking to me! Hehe. Of course I’m not ready (but I am getting ready... then maybe I’ll go looking just a bit, or at least keep my eyes open). :-)

Babyruth

05-02-2006, 07:42 PM

Well, I'm not like that, thank goodness.

jtucker

05-02-2006, 07:54 PM

being single is more beneficial, but paul said if a man burns in his flesh it is better for him to marry, now that doesn't mean the first female he sees but it does mean he should settle down with a holy Ghost filled women to avoid falling to temptation

HotShot53

05-03-2006, 01:17 AM

azurity

05-03-2006, 08:09 AM

I think this isn't a subject that you can set your mind on and remain unchanged.

How many people do you know that have said "I'm never getting married!"

I could name plenty, and.... you guessed it. They're all married.

NeedGod

05-04-2006, 05:08 AM

in fact, on most subjects, we cant set our minds and remain unchanged. just leave it to God's will. fine, so you want to remain single. good for you. its nice to want that, especially if you want to do it so you can serve God better.Just dont forget to look to God and ask Him if thats what He wants you to do for Him. you dont want to do God a service without His will.
soo..........
...........................................
Always look up and pray,
God will show you the way,
In the darkest cold Day,
Just look up and pray!
...........................................

Sara

05-04-2006, 02:30 PM

Well, I'm not like that, thank goodness.

Ok...

I don't want to be mean or anything...

BUT, i'm so gonna laugh if Ruth gets married like...

Before me.

Or.

You.

:eek:

(i'm not serious Ruth. Really.)

Sara

05-04-2006, 02:30 PM

Lol, so you posted this as anonymous so no-one could see the inconsistencies among your posts ;) I guess I'll leave you as anonymous for now ;)

OH MAN. You are like SO HORRIBLE DJ!

May God have mercy on you child...

:worthy:

jtucker

05-04-2006, 02:53 PM

Who made the unregistered post?

joris

05-04-2006, 06:41 PM

Who made the unregistered post?no idea...

HotShot53

05-04-2006, 10:49 PM

OH MAN. You are like SO HORRIBLE DJ!

May God have mercy on you child...

:worthy:

Lol, at least I won't say who it was ;)

And I agree with you... it'll be soooo funy if Ruth goes and gets swept off her feet and married before any of the rest of us ;)

jordancpeterson

05-05-2006, 12:48 AM

Lol, so you posted this as anonymous so no-one could see the inconsistencies among your posts ;) I guess I'll leave you as anonymous for now ;)

Ok, if you attack me publicly I guess I have to defend myself publicly (lesson learned don’t tell DJ anything you don’t want others to know ;) ).

I used to really push the Bachelor Brotherhood (support it big time). That is until I had the chance to spend some time with a couple of them (at 50+ years old). I thought us young guys when we got together and talked about girls was bad... but these two took it to a whole new level! I don’t know how, when, where or who, but the Lord willing I’m not going to stay single! I think this was the Lord speaking to me! Hehe. Of course I’m not ready (but I am getting ready... then maybe I’ll go looking just a bit, or at least keep my eyes open). :-)

To answer the original question. ‘If’ (and it’s a pretty big ‘if’) I ever get married she better know how to cook (from scratch)! After the latest trip I hate restaurants! (Or at least she better no mind me in the kitchen.)

You have to understand that the Unregistered post is still a totally new concept to me (since last week - not the post but the idea in the post). I’m still not sure about everything and it primarily was supposed to be a joke. You just had to be around those two guys to really understand. It was a really funny. :laugh:

I do have to admit I’m not exactly going around telling people that “I’m never, never, never, ever getting married” like I used too. Now I guess I’m more open to what the Lord has in store for me though. To think that I would ever get married though is still really foreign and weird to me. Sure in the past I talked about girls and I did keep my eyes open (meaning I don’t go around with blinders on). But wasn’t obsessed with it. Still not. (But hey, I think we have some that are... DJ???? ;) )

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 01:19 AM

lol, you went and confessed that it was you? DJ, look what you made him do. you big meany you. :lol:

HotShot53

05-05-2006, 02:58 AM

lesson learned don’t tell DJ anything you don’t want others to know ;)

Did I ever say it was you? Would anyone have guessed if you hadn't admitted it? Or would I even have brought it up if you hadn't tried to sneak around posting as anonymous? I figured since you were posting about it, you didn't consider it all that confidential.

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 03:02 AM

oh but if you hadnt said sth like that then he wouldnt have felt obliged to come up and confess. and you rubbed it in too :harhar1:

jtucker

05-05-2006, 03:08 AM

Kinda confused as to whats going on but a really nice storm is going on outside!

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 03:09 AM

What is going on is that Hotshot was on his mean streak again and this time it was poor Jordan who was in the way :no:

jtucker

05-05-2006, 03:21 AM

why doesn't Hotshot have a title/name yet?

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 03:31 AM

jtucker

05-05-2006, 03:33 AM

:no-no-no: <---- this is halirious

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 03:38 AM

i know. i so love this little guy. he is so contempletive like in a no, no way. :no-no-no:

jtucker

05-05-2006, 03:40 AM

I love how his mouth twitches like he makes a a noise

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 03:48 AM

i think he is saying tsk-tsk! or maybe, depending on the context, he is probably sayin 'whew'

jtucker

05-05-2006, 03:53 AM

LOL that's great!

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 03:58 AM

:yes: i like this one too. i think its coz it reminds me of my mum. like a person who knows it all and is eager to tell it, whether you want to listen or ot. lol

jtucker

05-05-2006, 03:59 AM

LOL sounds like my neighbor

NeedGod

05-05-2006, 04:06 AM

Oh, it can get pretty annoying! and the worst thing is that she is indeed nearly always right. :ranting:

jordancpeterson

05-05-2006, 09:35 AM

i dont know. but i have some reasons lined up in my head
1.Joe hasnt had time to give it to him yet
2.Joe couldnt get down from the rafters where he was dancing after the programming exam...someone please go and check
3.Joe is still waiting for a user name he thinks is appropriate
4.Joe is......well, maybe just.....you know...... lazy??????? :no-no-no:

No the reason is because DJ is mean. :ng_thumbd :012: ;) Hehe. He needs a good mean title (if you know what I mean). ;)

(I'm going to rub this so in... hehe!)

jtucker

05-05-2006, 01:53 PM

do you mean, mean as in like making fun of him or exclaiming his meanness?

HotShot53

05-05-2006, 10:43 PM

NeedGod

05-08-2006, 04:03 AM

aaaah! so now we know! someone prod him to get him on his feet, just be sure someone is there to catch him as he falls off the rafters. after that, i dont think there will be much of a problem!

collegegirl

05-29-2006, 05:31 PM

Maybe I can get this thread back on topic...(Though I will agree that Hotshot can be soooo mean...:012: )

I have heard the whole looking for guys thing referred to as looking over the menu. :drool: <---discusted

And I wish that I could get some of the feeling about not getting married as Ruth has, just enough to make me want to wait more patiently than I am, and willing to serve the Lord better while I am single. Other than that, yes, I would love to get married, keep house, raise children, have a garden, a big kitchen...*shakes self out of public daydream* oops...heh heh. :D

HotShot53

05-29-2006, 11:51 PM

Though I will agree that Hotshot can be soooo mean...:012:

Lol, if you really want to see me be mean... I could make some posts on some of the threads you've been replying to today that others would find very interesting ;) I might not live much longer... but I could do it ;)

On topic, I would think that guys would be more likely to be "looking over the menu", as they are the ones to have to make the first move (not the easiest thing to do...), though I guess girls can do it to, and just drop large hints...

jtucker

05-30-2006, 12:50 AM

HotShot53

05-30-2006, 01:39 AM

it's so very hard for me to make the first step because i'm terribly shy when it comes to making that first step, like so shy i tense up and my stomach hurtsna dn i feel real sick sometimes,

i have no problem being their firends and talking to them in a group sitting or what not but to ask them oh my what a deciison to make, i guess i think to much about it

Lol, I know what you mean about your stomach ;) If I ever eat alone with a girl (even if others are around), I can almost never eat hardly anything without being like sick to my stomach.... even if she is nothing but a friend and will always remain that way....

NeedGod

05-30-2006, 01:44 AM

i find this thread so sweet. like totally. I think that is why you need to be friends first. and friends in the Word. why, when i meet up with my best friend to talk, we used to talk about the Word only so much till we wanted to be together all the time to talk about God.
I think he is also shy though...
Trust me, when you talk about God, you never run out of things to say!:)

BroTrevor

05-30-2006, 10:42 AM

Lol, I know what you mean about your stomach ;) If I ever eat alone with a girl (even if others are around), I can almost never eat hardly anything without being like sick to my stomach.... even if she is nothing but a friend and will always remain that way....

I had a buddy this would happen to all the time. He'd even throw up.

It was really weird.

jtucker

05-30-2006, 02:23 PM

i've always had stomach problems even outside of talking to young ladies, when my stomach hits me hard i'm down for about a week i can't hold anything down and can't hardly even walk the pain is so great. so i spend about a week in bed praying and it finally stops after about 5-6 days.

Angelo

05-30-2006, 04:53 PM

That is what I consider another personal oddity:) ...

HotShot53

05-30-2006, 09:50 PM

I had a buddy this would happen to all the time. He'd even throw up.

It was really weird.

Lol, I learned quickly it's easier to just not eat much ;)

NeedGod

05-31-2006, 09:48 AM

oh dear, thats strange. i used to be shy but i found a way to beat it. still, i wasnt that shy. i wish i lived in the states, i would help you beat it out of your system DJ. I have helped most of my friends become bolder people. i love working with people.

blessed

05-31-2006, 11:20 AM

It would be great to see you work on DJ, make him BOLD :lol:

:rofl:that should be interesting

HotShot53

05-31-2006, 02:00 PM

Lol, fraid I'll never be BOLD in real life ;) I've been working on myself so I'm not quite as shy as I used to be... but I'll never be as outgoing as many are.

blessed

05-31-2006, 04:04 PM

If you would get of the computer and start talking to real ppl you might proceed alot faster.

HotShot53

05-31-2006, 09:12 PM

If you would get of the computer and start talking to real ppl you might proceed alot faster.

The problem is there aren't many real people around here that I would talk to... everyone from church lives like far away...

redeemed

06-01-2006, 02:51 PM

If you would get of the computer and start talking to real ppl you might proceed alot faster.

since when are we not real ppl??:confused:

Sara

06-01-2006, 03:12 PM

I had a buddy this would happen to all the time. He'd even throw up.

It was really weird.

Hehehe, why?????????

I can't stand it when guys are shy.

Personnnnnnnallly, if you know what i mean.

:chris:

(have you wondered why that smiley is called Chris????????? -just wondering, anywho...)

Mainly because i know what it is to be a shy person, i was for a part of my life... back in the day, but when i gave my heart to the Lord, i knew i had to change.

Really, i didn't do much... it just sorta happened.

I mean, it does, when you're the only young person at church, go to public high school... and you have tons of people wondering WHY on earth you changed so much... asking about EVERYTHING, and you have to answer.

And when they embarrass you in front of large crowds...

It happens too...

Little by little, i guess i couldn't be shy anymore.

And then... i didn't care about what people thought anymore.

BUT, if there had never been people around like that to mold me and made me the outgoing person that i am today, then i think i would still be shy.

DJ, we need to throw you OUT THERE, if you know what i mean.

No, jk...

Be who you are...

That's the best you could ever be.

AND BE NICE!!!!!!!!!!! SHEEEEEESHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:agry2:

BroTrevor

06-01-2006, 03:14 PM

I think it was a nerves thing.. He wasn't exactly shy... just nervous... not the best with people.

btw... Good to have you postin again Sara...

collegegirl

06-01-2006, 05:49 PM

I used to have a problem with my stomach. "Nervous Stomach" I called it. I would feel as though I wanted to throw up when I went to restaurants, and I didn't ever eat breakfast out because I wouldn't be able to eat. I was prayed for, and Thank you LOrd, I don't have that problem now.

As for coming out of your shell, you have to be yourself, but be willing to be bold enough to be yourself. I kindof learned at an early age that if you talk to people, they will talk back. So generally, if you feel shy, then there is that HUGE possibility that the other person feels the same way.

Just as a thought on that, when I took my biology class, there was this one guy that totally broke the ice with the whole class. YOu know how it is, everyone sitting stiff in their seats, no one really knows anyone, not talking to anyone, so he gets up in front of the room and just introduces himself, kinda making a fool out of himself with the "Don't you wish you were as cool as me but I am just kidding" attitude (I would have been embarassed for a week) but it worked, and the next time, more people were talking, and I think that he was the favorite in the class.

JoeC

06-01-2006, 11:59 PM

BUT, if there had never been people around like that to mold me and made me the outgoing person that i am today, then i think i would still be shy.

BOOM! Totally agree. I was as shy as all get out when I was younger.

Example:

Louisiana Camp:

At the time, I attended a church church with no young people. When I went to LA Camp, I knew NO ONE. I would spend the time in between services pacing around the tabernacle, head bent down, not knowing what to do with myself. Finally, the dinner bell would ring and I'd stand in line amidst throngs of people, not saying a word. Eat dinner off to myself where other people weren't sitting. Then off to get ready for service, sit in service, enjoy that, then retire quietly to bed. Repeat until camp was over.

But you have to understand, I HATED this! Wow, did I hate it. On one hand, I didn't want to talk to people because all my past experiences told me that I wouldn't enjoy it. On the other hand, I KNEW there must be something more.

I read self help books (Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends & Influence People was a HUGE help) and I prayed. God sent people and circumstances into my life, usually forcefully, to work on me. I'll let you guys be the judge as to whether or not these things were successful.

jordancpeterson

06-02-2006, 12:04 AM

jordancpeterson

06-02-2006, 12:08 AM

My hard part is starting a conversation. Once I'm into it I'm fine. (and I'm not talking about boy/girl, I'm talking about anyone)

Anyone know Ben J. in Jeffersonville? That guy is quite a guy and isn't shy at all! I wish I could be that comfortable around people like he is.

HotShot53

06-02-2006, 01:13 AM

Ok, so are most people that are shy really not like being shy? In my opinion I think so. At least that is what I've felt a bit in my life for the bit of shyness I've had.

But if people that are really shy don't want to be shy and really deep down after it's all said and done would appreciate someone coming up and talking with them then so be it. I'll talk to shy people. I find I tend to get shy and feeling awkward around shy people so I tend to think they don't want to talk so I'll just leave them alone. But I love it when people come and talk with me.

I'd agree... most shy people don't want to be shy... to be honest, I think it's partially just self-conciousness on our part, that we don't want to do something to embarress ourselves, so we don't do anything at all... outgoing people aren't as scared of making a fool out of themselves, so they do stuff and have fun, and if they do do something that might be embarising, they shrug it off and no-one remembers it anyway, or if they do they think of it in a funny way....

(the above is me trying to convince myself to start doing more stuff even if it could be embarising ;))

joris

06-02-2006, 05:49 AM

Jezz

06-02-2006, 06:58 AM

I'd agree... most shy people don't want to be shy... to be honest, I think it's partially just self-conciousness on our part, that we don't want to do something to embarress ourselves, so we don't do anything at all... outgoing people aren't as scared of making a fool out of themselves, so they do stuff and have fun, and if they do do something that might be embarising, they shrug it off and no-one remembers it anyway, or if they do they think of it in a funny way....

(the above is me trying to convince myself to start doing more stuff even if it could be embarising ;))

“Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people”. - - Andre Dubus

I'm a shy person sometimes and its always out of fear, I know the world won't end if I do make a fool out of myself but then again...

Anyway I just like that quote, it rings true for me. Not everybody is shy for the same reason, I'm not a good conversationalist, if what people are talking about bores me I tend to show it rather than show fake interest. But I do know I can talk more than what I do sometimes because I have things to say, they're in the front of my mind just waiting to be spoken, I just hold back out of fear. 90% of the decisions we make in life are decided out of fear (57% of all statistics are made up on the spot :-p), but perfect love casts out all fear, that will be an amazing day when we can reach that point just like Brother Branham did before the end.

Sorry if I rambled on a bit, my thoughts were very random

BroTrevor

06-02-2006, 01:13 PM

We can look at it from the flip side of the coin on those that are not shy.

I tell you, those that are overly outgoing and "crazy" in a room full of people are not necessarily "secure". Actually they have the same fears that shy people do, they want people to like them. The difference is shy people tend to retract so they don't do anything that will embarras them, in the hopes they wont fend anyone off from liking them. The overly outgoing tend to be all overly outgoing/crazy so that people will like them.

Maybe I'm off a bit on the shy people, but I know the outgoing/crazy type well. Just because soemone is overly outgoing, doesn't necessarily mean they are self-secure at all.

AndrewMichael

06-02-2006, 01:33 PM

Just to put my thoughts in here...

To me, one of the most unattractive things about a girl is being overally outgoing. Not to say a girl should be a brick or anything, but there is a certain level of humility that is to be desired. Outgoing usually ends up as flirtation, the last thing a man of God would be looking for. The balance, yet again, is to be desired. Someone who doesn't talk.. EVER is not quite desirable, but flirtatous down right makes me want to walk away! Of course, this is only my opinion...

I am not really sure about the girl's standpoint, for obvious reasons, but I would say its probably in the same frame work of a balance. In all reality, just be REAL. We are made a certain way, and we should act the way God made us. We need to act like His word said so, absolutely, but we are different and should just be the best US possible. Don't fight who you are, be what God made you.

Andrew's opinion complete.

blessed

06-02-2006, 01:36 PM

Outgoing= flirtatious ... I don't get the math there

AndrewMichael

06-02-2006, 01:37 PM

"overally" outgoing..... to the point of flirtation.....

HotShot53

06-02-2006, 09:31 PM

"overally" outgoing..... to the point of flirtation.....

The problem is telling where the line is between "overly" and normal outgoing....

AndrewMichael

06-03-2006, 12:14 AM

The problem is telling where the line is between "overly" and normal outgoing....

Again, this was only my opinion, thus there is no line to be drawn... Everyone is different and as long as we act like we should by the Word, its all good, just my preference...

JoeC

06-03-2006, 02:27 AM

The problem is telling where the line is between "overly" and normal outgoing....
... and it's a thin line. Totally agree, DJ.

alesha19

06-03-2006, 10:26 PM

yeah... there is a line and it's definitely thin... i think that is where all the confusion comes with, "do they actually like me? or are they just being friendly and outgoing?"

AndrewMichael

06-03-2006, 10:52 PM

yeah... there is a line and it's definitely thin... i think that is where all the confusion comes with, "do they actually like me? or are they just being friendly and outgoing?"

This is probably the most confusing thing in the world to tell the difference in. Trust me, I KNOW! lol That's what I meant by not really being a fan of really outgoing-ness because most people can confuse that for flirting, even though totally unintentional, still isn't something I like. Maybe this is why I have always been attracted to soberity and humbleness, not to say being friendly is wrong! We should be! But I, just Andrew here, believes there should be a way to tell the difference between flirting and friendly... and yet I have not found it!

redeemed

06-04-2006, 01:06 AM

Outgoing= flirtatious ... I don't get the math there

lol, neither do i. i am shy until i get to know someone and then i can talk all day long, is that considered outgoing?? (i mean like to outgoing?)

alesha19

06-04-2006, 11:56 PM

No, I don't think so. I mean when you know someone really well, it would be weird to be just as shy around them as you were on the first day you met them, you know? But... there is still that thin line. Ultimately the best thing we can do is to pray about it. Pray that your actions will be appropriate, and taken as they were meant. :)

EllyMae

06-05-2006, 03:34 AM

yeah... there is a line and it's definitely thin... i think that is where all the confusion comes with, "do they actually like me? or are they just being friendly and outgoing?"

A little bit of advice from Elly...

There is not one definite solution to this (as much as we wish there was lol). There are just some things we can do to make it easier. I think everyone here knows what can appear to be flirting. Even if it isn't intended that way. One thing we can do, is watch ourselves around the opposite sex. Don't be AS friendly and outgoing with them. Also, be careful around people you don't know as well, who could easily confuse friendliness for flirting.

joris

06-05-2006, 05:53 PM

In all reality, just be REAL. We are made a certain way, and we should act the way God made us. We need to act like His word said so, absolutely, but we are different and should just be the best US possible. Don't fight who you are, be what God made you.right... but in practice it can be quite hard to be, really be who you should have been if you don't know who you are. :y10:

collegegirl

06-05-2006, 07:39 PM

Heh, oops........:embarrassed:

:peep:

I am a very customer service oriented person, and sometimes it includes friendly bantering, light teasing, and non-serious flirting, (such as the old men who come in and tease me). People who know my dad tease me that way, and then some customers tease me that way.......

For those of you who know me, or have just met me, and might have seen that in me...:embarrassed:

collegegirl

06-05-2006, 07:41 PM

I can be a very outgoing person, as that is what I have learned to be. I can also be shy, and demure. Not making excuses, (well, I guess I am :D )

But I am a very outgoing person, but I guess that I have to watch that to make sure it doesn't go too far.

alesha19

06-06-2006, 12:08 AM

honestly? i don't think you need to make excuses collegegirl... God made everyone differently, and there is NOTHING wrong with being an extrovert. (and i'm not just saying that because i am one). seriously, examine your motives, and if they are right... most likely you will be acting ok. :)

EllyMae

06-06-2006, 12:50 AM

I don't think there is anything wrong with being friendly or outgoing. I just think we should be careful how friendly we are to people of the opposite sex so we don't give off the wrong impression. We have to be more careful..

God'schild

06-08-2006, 10:45 PM

lol, neither do i. i am shy until i get to know someone and then i can talk all day long, is that considered outgoing?? (i mean like to outgoing?)

I have to agree i am the same way untill i get to know the person or people then i'm fine. I'm not a very out going person never have been and prob. never be.

AndrewMichael

06-09-2006, 12:18 AM

(sigh)...

I apologize for my vague description of "outgoing" that I believe is causing people to think badly on themselves.

Be who you are. Be what the Word says you should be. Some people God made to talk more, some to talk less, some more comfortable with strangers, others completely shy. Be the way God made you. Flirting, saying unneccessary compliments or phrases is different than just being able to be friendly with everyone. I personally, Andrew here, like someone that has to kind of know a person before they can talk openly, are you understanding me? It isn't that if you are really friendly that you are flirting, it is just that a guy, possible who just came from the world, will take it as such. In the world, if someone of the opposite sex is nice to you, about 90% of the time its flirting, Christians on the other hand are usually very nice people, thus a confusion can be made here...

I went into pretty good detail on my blog a while back, so maybe it will help someone... True temptations of a young man (http://www.xanga.com/andrewmichael22?nextdate=4%2f15%2f2006+11%3a26%3a3 0.233&direction=n). Hope this clears up what I was trying to say...

God'schild

06-09-2006, 12:38 AM

Thank you for clearing that:)

joris

06-09-2006, 09:07 AM

In the world, if someone of the opposite sex is nice to you, about 90% of the time its flirting, Christians on the other hand are usually very nice people, thus a confusion can be made here...hehe, in the world I was so not used to friendship that simple friendship made me long for, well, a relationship; mind you, that also happened when still not being christian and the girl... not either I think; :stupid:

blessed

06-09-2006, 10:08 AM

That was a long post, not through reading it yet, but really good.

collegegirl

06-12-2006, 07:32 PM

I read all of that page. Wow, what a difference it makes to see the inside of a young Christian man's heart, vs. what we know that the world wants. To hear someone screaming out to the girls to be ladies, and to dress like them. It puts a different light on everythings.

Coming from someone who was in a church where modesty was really pushed, (not always followed, but still pushed) to now being in a little youth group, (siblings) and most of the youth around you is worldly, with their worldy morals, it is refreshing, inspiring, and yes, even rebuking to hear something like that. I shall be watching my closet closely. Thank you.

Babyruth

06-13-2006, 09:17 PM

This is for all of you who said it would be funny if I got married before any of you, the chances of that happening are about 0.000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 0000000000000000001%.

EllyMae

06-13-2006, 09:23 PM

I quit counting after the 3rd zero.... lol

God'schild

06-13-2006, 09:44 PM

:yay: lol

it will be funny if it happens:yay:

God'schild

06-13-2006, 09:57 PM

i'm not looking.

I don't i will look ethier i'm leaving it in God's hands and whe he see that the time is right for Mr. Right. God will bring Mr. Right my way.

I'm leaving it in the Lord's hands

HotShot53

06-14-2006, 01:05 AM

It seems that the best matches happen when you aren't looking, and God just brings them along... so maybe those who want to look should instead just start purposely not looking ;)

God'schild

06-14-2006, 01:08 AM

It seems that the best matches happen when you aren't looking, and God just brings them along... so maybe those who want to look should instead just start purposely not looking ;)

I agree

For me it doesn't matter anymore when God choses to bring Mr.Right along my path

jtucker

06-14-2006, 01:14 AM

i'm Glad i'm not together with my soulmate because i'm not ready or we would be together all ready, so if were together it would end up a total mess probably

God'schild

06-14-2006, 01:21 AM

alls i can say is wait on the Lord.

jtucker

06-14-2006, 01:24 AM

Oh trust me i have no problem waiting i have for a couple years now so hey what a couple more or even ten

God'schild

06-14-2006, 01:33 AM

lol...............:yay:

Babyruth

06-14-2006, 01:52 AM

So why does everyone assume that those who don't want to get married will? I don't get it. I think you all should be happy that I'm satisfied with being single.

blessed

06-14-2006, 09:37 AM

They just don't understand Ruth, but we are happy being single :yay:

I totally understand you

jtucker

06-14-2006, 01:06 PM

well it will give you more time with the lord and you will concentrate on him more, and that's good, now the soulmate is the other half of our being, so in a sense we are incomplete without our other half. for the woman was taken out of man. and God saw that it was Good! Just follow the leading of the Spirit and don't feel you shouldn't or don't want to get married, keep a neutral heart and mind about it. and allow God to work on it any which way he pleases

joris

06-14-2006, 01:25 PM

for the woman was taken out of man. and God saw that it was Good!well... bible doesn't explicitly say God saw that was good there (genesis 2), though ... genesis 1 concludes... creation with us, human... somehow it was not only good, it was very good ;)
heh :)

BroTrevor

06-14-2006, 04:12 PM

They just don't understand Ruth, but we are happy being single :yay:

I totally understand you

I was happy being single too...

Then SisTrev came along...started batting her eyes at me... talking sweet to me... ya know, stuff like that.

suddenly I woke up from some dream I was in and I wasn't single anymore...

still haven't figured out how she did that... but I can't say as I mind.

Babyruth

06-14-2006, 08:12 PM

They just don't understand Ruth, but we are happy being single :yay:

I totally understand you
Thank you! You are wonderful! So understanding!

joris

06-15-2006, 02:26 PM

I find, now and then, I feel like, maybe Lord wants me to get married, sometimes; and often there's only on my mind that it's a blessing that at least that thing isn't bugging me anymore; it's just that ;) but I also... I have fears of, relationship like that... me not knowing at all how that would be or so; stuff like that
now; anyway; do more people have that, fears of, like, all that? :confused: I guess it's hard to explain what that is, those fears (will try later on I guess)

God'schild

06-15-2006, 02:55 PM

the best i can say

pray, pray and pray.

Check the word of God if those feelings are just you don't go by them but if they are of God follow them with the Leading of God.

Let God lead you to that right person. Don't try doing it yourself because you will run into trouble if you do.

Blood Washed Bride

06-15-2006, 03:09 PM

Yeah, the whole prospect of marriage used to scare me. C'mon, you only get ONE chance to get it right. And if you mess it up, you're likely to be miserable the rest of your life.

I've seen and heard of too many marriages where either the husband or the wife completely turns their back on God and walks out of the family, leaving the remaining spouse to raise the kids alone. Or worse, influencing that spouse against the Word as well. The idea of that happening really scared me.

I remember dating a guy I was really serious about. We were to the point of discussing marriage and everything. I kept looking for 'signs' that he was 'The One'. Sometimes it would seem like I got a sign that he was, and other times it seemed like everything was pointing in the opposite direction. There wasn't a peace in my heart about the relationship. He felt the same way and we finally ended the relationship and went our seperate ways.

Now I'm with a wonderful Spirit-filled man who I know is the one. And I realize that sounds insane and a bit cliché to just about every single person here. We've all asked married people "How did you know he/she was 'the one'?" and heard the response "I just knew." To which we rolled our eyes and thought "Yeah, right. How did you really know?" But it's true. And when it happens, all your fears will be dispelled. At least, mine were. *huge grin*

God'schild

06-15-2006, 04:37 PM

I was happy being single too...

Then SisTrev came along...started batting her eyes at me... talking sweet to me... ya know, stuff like that.

suddenly I woke up from some dream I was in and I wasn't single anymore...

still haven't figured out how she did that... but I can't say as I mind.

lol..........:yay:

joris

06-15-2006, 07:00 PM

God'schild

06-15-2006, 07:07 PM

no it isn't weird Joris.

Most guys fears are rejection

And girls fears are not being asked out.

HotShot53

06-15-2006, 07:22 PM

heh well I can understand that...
though... that's not really the topic of fears I'm having; I guess I don't exactly feel looking around - in that, feeling afraid of more rejection;
what's more on my mind is, assuming I somehow (say by revelation, or so?) knew like, really truly God wanted me to have... relationship; well; that, the courting/dating/whatever to call it, that too, ow, that seems to be something I have no idea how I could handle that, me being very shy/uncertain/unsure of myself...
guess that's a weird thing right? :embarrassed: :y10:

My advice would just be friends first... and start now trying to be friendly to whomever you know. I used to be way shy too... I've forced myself to start hanging out with others and trying to talk more, which I'll be continuing to do while going to a bunch of camps this year. (I know I don't appear shy online, but in person I am).

If you are friendly to everyone, then once you think you like someone, you can just be friendly with her to start with, and let it go from there....

(Note: I have no real experience past the "friends" stage, so I don't guarantee anything... but that's what I plan to do eventually...)

fredmaina

06-16-2006, 04:04 AM

blessed

06-16-2006, 09:39 AM

Interesting thought there fredmania.

God'schild

07-11-2006, 04:33 PM

i'm not looking

My thought always has been the guy has to come find me.
not me go looking for him.

joris

07-11-2006, 06:53 PM

i'm not looking

My thought always has been the guy has to come find me.
not me go looking for him.what if... "your"... guy is thinking the same? :y10:
except for the fact that it's "traditional", is there any real biblical reason to require the guy to do the searching?

anyway at least if... "my"... girl is not searching... I'm currently not searching either; though I guess... still God could do the searching for us which is a lot better than us trying and messing up
uhm... now why started I writing this? ;)

God'schild

07-11-2006, 07:27 PM

what if... "your"... guy is thinking the same? :y10:
except for the fact that it's "traditional", is there any real biblical reason to require the guy to do the searching?

anyway at least if... "my"... girl is not searching... I'm currently not searching either; though I guess... still God could do the searching for us which is a lot better than us trying and messing up
uhm... now why started I writing this? ;)

I don't know alls i know is that the guy is suspose to find the girl not the girl find the guy.

maybe someone else can find the scripture to back that up.

already bought

07-12-2006, 12:55 AM

as the guy is going to be the head of the home I think its important for him to make the first move. That is why I strongly believe in guys asking the girl not the other way around.
As the head of the home the guy is going to have to take responceabilty for alot of things so it might as well start at the beging
Thats my opione.

Angelo

07-12-2006, 07:47 AM

until some point in life i guess it is good to be single and satisfied.then at some point when you think you are ready to go out,you can be single and searching. if you make any mistake in between you might end up being single and suffering! but let us put evrything to God in prayer.God bless U.
I don't want to look anymore. I give up making mistakes. Let the suffering that will come fear itself for the Lord will be my strength.

joris

07-12-2006, 09:37 AM

as the guy is going to be the head of the home I think its important for him to make the first move. That is why I strongly believe in guys asking the girl not the other way around. maybe it's just that I don't like thatAs the head of the home the guy is going to have to take responceabilty for alot of things so it might as well start at the beging
Thats my opione.and would sure need a lot of time to get used to that one too
;)

God'schild

07-12-2006, 03:47 PM

maybe it's just that I don't like thatand would sure need a lot of time to get used to that one too
;)

prayer is the best way

God'schild

07-12-2006, 04:27 PM

I'm going let the LORD lead me to Mr.Right........ i should say i'm going to wait on the Lord His timing his so perfect it never fails. And when he sees Fit for me to have Mr.Right he will bring Mr.Right down my path.

Angelo

07-14-2006, 06:04 AM

Let the suffering that will come fear itself for the Lord will be my strength.
I think I had a wrong spirit on that, somehow. In thinking so, I was limiting God's credibility on providing me the chance to find someone perfect for me. Maybe, I'm in that stage that fred states "until some point in life i guess it is good to be single and satisfied". To young men, that could be alright, but to my age, I don't think this should be my thoughts. Pardon my misery here. :)

If one is determined to build a family, there are a few things I think he should consider in himself: the fellowship that he will give to his family, how long does he plan to live with them? The things they'll learn together that he'll give to his family (wife, and children) will contribute a lot to mold their person. It'll contribute to their confidence, character, etc. Another thing I think to consider is his credibility. How can one court when he is still unable to give tithes to the house of the Lord? (Not exempting unemployment here ok). Also, hmm, most importantly, If he is really ready to love with half of his heart for his partner. Commitment I think is the right word. Half of his heart to the Lord, and half to his family.
1 Corinthians 7:32-33 (King James Version) But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:

But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.

joris

07-14-2006, 06:44 AM

I don't want to look anymore. I give up making mistakes. Let the suffering that will come fear itself for the Lord will be my strength.no, you don't want the suffering, no, really no
as a teenager, I experienced deep loneliness and longing for love which I could not reach (yeah needing God there ofcourse but I didn't know) ... but; I pray you will never feel like that

joris

07-14-2006, 06:56 AM

erm; regarding some topic that got touched elsewhere...
never had a relationship, like, no nothing; and sometimes that really hurts; it was a lot worse before I became christian (nowadays I don't think of that so much anymore) but... now and then something reminds me and...
especially the fact that I was longing for that and there was never any relationship, that sometimes still makes me feel like something is wrong about me then, like that:(
though... well I know God will heal all wounds and will change wrongs into rights

Angelo

07-14-2006, 10:15 AM

no, you don't want the suffering, no, really no
as a teenager, I experienced deep loneliness and longing for love which I could not reach (yeah needing God there ofcourse but I didn't know) ... but; I pray you will never feel like that
The only suffering I think that may come to a single person is that he will be free from an intimate relation that he'll obtain from another. Also, when old age comes. Who can care for him? Who wil provide when strength ends? We all know that. But Joris, that is a possible reality that I will face if I will not marry, which I can overcome, I think :unsure: .

On the contrary, the benefits is how much time and effort you could spend for the work of the Lord. Investments, one used to say.:)

already bought

07-14-2006, 09:07 PM

I think I had a wrong spirit on that, somehow. In thinking so, I was limiting God's credibility on providing me the chance to find someone perfect for me. Maybe, I'm in that stage that fred states "until some point in life i guess it is good to be single and satisfied". To young men, that could be alright, but to my age, I don't think this should be my thoughts. Pardon my misery here. :)

If one is determined to build a family, there are a few things I think he should consider in himself: the fellowship that he will give to his family, how long does he plan to live with them? The things they'll learn together that he'll give to his family (wife, and children) will contribute a lot to mold their person. It'll contribute to their confidence, character, etc. Another thing I think to consider is his credibility. How can one court when he is still unable to give tithes to the house of the Lord? (Not exempting unemployment here ok). Also, hmm, most importantly, If he is really ready to love with half of his heart for his partner. Commitment I think is the right word. Half of his heart to the Lord, and half to his family.
1 Corinthians 7:32-33 (King James Version)

maybe I need to read that scripture but I don't want to just love God with part of my hear and part to my family. No I think my hear can love both fully and completley But I do love God and hope I always will more then any one or any thing eles. He is my life, my all, my every thing.
any way I think thats enough for now. Other wise I might get started and well it could be really long not that that would really be a bad thing or would it.
Ok by.

God'schild

07-15-2006, 05:38 PM

The best way to find the right one is down on your knees.... Prayer and seeking God......

joris

07-15-2006, 05:47 PM

The best way to find the right one is down on your knees.... Prayer and seeking God......that's all very easy to say but... to just tell you the truth, that really is not an answer
we could come up with that ourselves no problem there

God'schild

07-15-2006, 05:57 PM

that's all very easy to say but... to just tell you the truth, that really is not an answer
we could come up with that ourselves no problem there

Uhhh??? please explian what isn't the answer....
true that we could come up with that ourselfs but i still believe that prayer is the best way to find the right one...

Correct me if i'm wrong....

joris

07-15-2006, 05:59 PM

Uhhh??? please explian what isn't the answer....
true that we could come up with that ourselfs but i still believe that prayer is the best way to find the right one...

Correct me if i'm wrong....you misunderstand; the reply "just pray" is not an answer; that I meant: I surely know I could pray; but hey, this is something... me anyway... prayed way a lot of times about already before ever writing here so... well; maybe I guess I'd long for real answers; guess it's really sad God won't talk more to us/to me

Babyruth

07-15-2006, 06:22 PM

God'schild

07-15-2006, 06:39 PM

I don't know if this will help or not, but there are times in everyone's life where it seems as if God isn't talking or listening. Bro. Branham even went through it, and he was a prophet. I would read "'Be Certain of God." Bro. Byskal, my pastor, just talked about that message on Sunday and mentioned that sometimes God doesn't talk. Sometimes it's to test you. Testing isn't always fun, but God only tests you if you are up to the test. He won't give you anything harder than you can handle. And, if you don't do it right the first time, guess what?! He gives it to you over and over until you get it right. God wants you to win, to pass the test, so He will give you the test as many times as it takes for you to pass it. So, just keep praying, reading your Bible, reading the Message, especially "Be Certain of God." I'll be praying.

AMEN!!!!

i have to agree with you...
God only gives us trials to make us stronger and it is true that he will put us through a trial as many times as we need to go through it. I went through something like that.
And Yes it's true that God sometimes doesn't talk i went through that as well. But by the Grace of God i'm closer to him now then i was when i went through those hard trials...

God'schild

07-15-2006, 06:41 PM

you misunderstand; the reply "just pray" is not an answer; that I meant: I surely know I could pray; but hey, this is something... me anyway... prayed way a lot of times about already before ever writing here so... well; maybe I guess I'd long for real answers; guess it's really sad God won't talk more to us/to me

Thank you for correcting me...
I know it's sad when God won't talk... He is a God that will test us and give us trials to see if we really believe on him... He does it for our benefit even if we don't see it right then...
but always remember That there is a Mountian after every valley.

already bought

07-16-2006, 04:18 PM

that's all very easy to say but... to just tell you the truth, that really is not an answer
we could come up with that ourselves no problem there

I disagree. Praying and asking God to grat us and lead us to that right one is the most important thing we can do. But we also have to be willing to do our part to. We can't sit back and expect God to do it all. We have to do some things to.
And when we try to do it on our own I find that we usauly fail or it takes us alot longer then it would if we would just ask God.
i for one pray about all things, little things, big things, clothes, hair, and the list could go on ...................

Prayer is powerfull only if its being used. (a weapon may be stronge but if its just on a shelf you don't really know how strong it is ontill you take it in your hands and put it to use.)

jordancpeterson

07-17-2006, 12:19 AM

Prayer is so important! Prayer is so very important! That can’t be said enough! Praying, reading the Bible and listening/reading Brother Branham’s sermons has the answers to everything!

If prayer doesn’t seem to be getting anywhere then something is wrong. Not on God’s end but on yours! God is waiting for you. Not the other way around! One reason I have found when prayers are not being answered or even the feeling of not getting anywhere is when the prayer is too selfish. Try praying for someone else! Try getting a burden for someone else! Pray for someone else’s problem, trial, temptation! Spend some real time in prayer over it! It’s amazing what happens! Really amazing!

God'schild

07-17-2006, 12:26 AM

EllyMae

07-17-2006, 12:40 AM

Amen!

Prayer is very important. It should be the first thing we do when we open our eyes in the morning, and the last thing we do before we close our eyes at night. We can't pray enough...

jordancpeterson

07-17-2006, 12:47 AM

Amen!

Prayer is very important. It should be the first thing we do when we open our eyes in the morning, and the last thing we do before we close our eyes at night. We can't pray enough...

Not to mention that personal quiet time with Him. Not just 5 minutes, 15 or even 20. Brother Branham spent 3, 4, even 5 hours in prayer before a meeting for serveral days leading up to that meeting. Not to mention he'd go out in the woods and pray for days (maybe even weeks).

EllyMae

07-17-2006, 12:52 AM

Commitment I think is the right word. Half of his heart to the Lord, and half to his family.

I think we should give our whole heart to both, although I'm sure that is what you mean.

I do believe that we should put God first in our lives, and then our family, and then ourselves.

EllyMae

07-17-2006, 12:56 AM

Not to mention that personal quiet time with Him. Not just 5 minutes, 15 or even 20. Brother Branham spent 3, 4, even 5 hours in prayer before a meeting for serveral days leading up to that meeting. Not to mention he'd go out in the woods and pray for days (maybe even weeks).

Praise the Lord for our time of prayer.....

The Lord deserves more than 10 minutes of prayer from us, we could all pray so much more than what we do.

God'schild

07-17-2006, 12:56 AM

i agree with you EllyMae....
I want to love God with my whole heart as well as my family.....
My pastor said today that you can't Love God untill you love those around you..... i think that is so true....

God'schild

07-17-2006, 01:02 AM

Praise the Lord for our time of prayer.....

The Lord deserves more than 10 minutes of prayer from us, we could all pray so much more than what we do.

Amen!!!!

I want to spend as much time as i can with the Lord... I want my heart to be ready when he calls me home....
Cause we never know when God is going to call us home..... I want my heart to be clean and pure when he calls me home..... We are so near his coming..... It is so close......That i want to make sure i'm ready

joris

07-17-2006, 04:54 AM

I disagree. Praying and asking God to grat us and lead us to that right one is the most important thing we can do.you missed my point, I wasn't saying don't mind prayer, I was saying the reply "just pray" is not of so much help as... well on topics like this, oh surely everyone here is already praying on it, you don't need to tell us to

If prayer doesn’t seem to be getting anywhere then something is wrong.you're forgetting God may be letting us people wait on this one
tell us when God's telling you what it is we are doing wrong; speaking for God while God He Himself is not speaking about it isn't really the best way to respond

My pastor said today that you can't Love God untill you love those around you.....I really disagree there;
if people hurt you, really deeply hurt you, only your love of God could help you come over it and love them even though their ways of doing gives you reason to avoid (or hate maybe) them -- anyway they give no reason to love them;
but for His love... and for your love for Him, you can overcome that and try to reach out to them again

EllyMae

07-17-2006, 01:10 PM

I really disagree there;
if people hurt you, really deeply hurt you, only your love of God could help you come over it and love them even though their ways of doing gives you reason to avoid (or hate maybe) them -- anyway they give no reason to love them;
but for His love... and for your love for Him, you can overcome that and try to reach out to them again

Sometimes it is hard for us to forgive people, but only from the love of Christ are we able to do it. Here are some scriptures about forgiveness that I shared on my xanga a couple weeks ago...

St. Matthew 6:14-15
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15) But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."

St. Matthew 18:21-22
"Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? 22)Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven."

Basically what Jesus was saying that right there, is that we need to continually forgive them.

God'schild

07-17-2006, 02:23 PM

How can we love God??? If we don't love our enemies.......
God is love right???

I remember bro:branham say(listened to eat not that long ago in church) that he said you can't love God untill you love those who hate you.... And yes if you have the love of God in you, you will love your enemies....

Joris

i understand when someone hurts you because believe me i was there and i know what deep hurt does..... i had a problem with forgiving and forgetting... But by the Grace of God i now have a forgiving heart that no matter who hurts me (yes it will hurt and does somethimes for a long long time) i can forgive that person and love them.... I also try to see if that person said that to help me out or if they were being mean.....
Sometimes when people hurt you it is to correct you, they don't intently mean to hurt you....
It sometimes the way that we take what people tell us.... i know i sometime take what people tell me that hurts me....
But all in all Jesus will never leave us nor forsake us no matter where we are in life or what trial we're going through...... God knows the pain we're in and he is the only one that can take it if we let him.....
I TOTALY UNDERSTAND YOU

I was there i know what it's like and believe me i know.....
(somethings i just can't share on here.)

joris

09-05-2006, 08:14 AM

How can we love God??? If we don't love our enemies.......
God is love right???
I have that impression you speak about two different things both called "loving"; by that we are agreeing but I talk more on the one you talk more on the other

we can love God because He is... "lovable"... that isn't a word I'm sure; we can love God because how He is, He gives all the reason you could ever need, to love Him, so if you wouldn't love Him it's simply because you don't know Him at all, right?
then there's the other thing - we can... choose not to hate; choose, to forgive, and... wait :y10: there doesn't seem to be a choice to forget at all; but remember Jesus didn't say you must forget, though you should forgive;

yeah, trying all that; trying to choose even in the middle of the nightmare, except that you can't wake up from it because, so very unfortunate, you are already awake. There's no escape (oh there is but, but I'm a coward, remember?) , I'm locked into this life untill Lord has the grace to take me home (see how it feels? see now?)
trying to choose anyway

joris

09-05-2006, 08:24 AM

-- but I wanted to post something else
I now and then feel this strong... this feeling of being less, less than everyone, less because, no one, like, no girl, ever liked me, like, as me never having a girlfriend, as no girl ever wanting me to be boyfriend;
(oh but then, someone once told me she for some time seemed to have certain feelings like that; then that's something I couldn't understand)

why do those feelings, those emotions, why do they keep coming up? I long for it stopping to bug me; like, I long that, if Lord wishes, He may - lead into relationship with a girl -- lead to marriage; but if it's not His wish than it's okay; I long that -- that this longing for? what is it anyway; affection?

I have a strong longing to feel, understood, and, to feel supported, and, ... for someone to help actually getting out of all this, helping in everything, just... I think well should Lord be doing all that? why then isn't He? why then, why do I have that longing then if He is right there to help, why do I feel alone, helpless, why do I feel all that anyway; I feel like, "Lord where are You I long for you to be the Friend You said You are for me? Lord didn't you promise You are the Father that is actually there for me?" :012:

God'schild

09-05-2006, 12:10 PM

i get what your saying Joris...

I love God because he frist loved me..

Joris i will be praying for you. I know all about what your feeling i was there i know all about the emontions..

I'm a very emontional person.. People that really really know me know that i am. but people that hardly know me don't think i am.

God'schild

09-13-2006, 01:31 PM

i heard this a long time ago..

when you pray and it doesn't seem like your prayer is beinging answered remember that the angels(sp?) have to fight through demons and devils in order to bring you the answer to your prayer.. An answer to your prayer is on the way right when you pray about it but it might take a while for you to get the answer or see what the answer is.

And sometimes God is slient(sp?) to see what you will do, if you truely believe..

Philippe

09-13-2006, 03:27 PM

God's child, what is the of meaning of (sp?) that you uses in many post?

One guess that might works in some post does not apply in many others.

BroTrevor

09-13-2006, 03:35 PM

God's child, what is the of meaning of (sp?) that you uses in many post?

One guess that might works in some post does not apply in many others.

It means she is unsure of her spelling. And isn't utilizing the groovy spellchecker this form links to.

AlanaH

09-14-2006, 04:17 AM

I use it occasionally too though....the spellchecker won't work for me....

Anna

09-15-2006, 01:44 PM

I use it once in awhile too, but most of the time I'm sure of my spelling. However, I didn't know there was a spell checker on this site. Ooo and look I found it up in the corner above the smilies. *light bulb moment*

HotShot53

09-15-2006, 03:57 PM

It is a pretty cool spell checker, too :) Very handy.

AlanaH

09-15-2006, 06:30 PM

I don't usually use a spellchecker either....but I'll use it if I have to.

Chelles

09-15-2006, 06:42 PM

I hate spell checker-thingy-ma-bobs....they always tell me my last name is spelled wrong....so I go back and check my drivers lisence...

Stupid spell check thinks it knows everything.

HotShot53

09-15-2006, 10:12 PM

I hate spell checker-thingy-ma-bobs....they always tell me my last name is spelled wrong....so I go back and check my drivers lisence...

Stupid spell check thinks it knows everything.

Lol, that's what the "add" button is for when you spell check... so you can tell the spell checker it's wrong, and to not bother you again about that word ;)

Chelles

09-15-2006, 10:39 PM

*lost look*

HotShot53

09-15-2006, 11:02 PM

*lost look*

Lol, I'll try to explain it to you over MSN ;)

AlanaH

09-16-2006, 07:12 PM

Yeah, I've practically added my own language to my spellchecker. It now thinks that "ain't" is a real word......Haha...:)

HotShot53

09-16-2006, 10:09 PM

Yeah, I've practically added my own language to my spellchecker. It now thinks that "ain't" is a real word......Haha...:)

Lol, but "ain't" is a real word ;) It's in my spell checker, and I don't think I added it either ;)

tadi

01-10-2007, 10:05 AM

They that wait upon the Lord shl renew their strength they shall run n not be weary they shl walk n not faint!He is faithful He who promised!He'll make a way at the ryt tym if we can hold on!Every gd n perfect gift cums from the Lord

BroTrevor

01-10-2007, 10:32 AM

joris

01-10-2007, 10:38 AM

ah!! my eyes!!!!!!!what's wrong, you just read it very slowly, try and read it phonetic if it doesn't look like anything, and wave hands a bit, then it's... you can read it ;)

BroTrevor

01-10-2007, 10:39 AM

what's wrong, you just read it very slowly, try and read it phonetic if it doesn't look like anything, and wave hands a bit, then it's... you can read it ;)

Maybe standing on my head will help too?

Vowels....I crave vowels...

joris

01-10-2007, 10:43 AM

Maybe standing on my head will help too?I haven't yet tried that myself, though if it helps, please tell :)

HotShot53

01-10-2007, 01:42 PM

Lol, I think tadi has used more chat speak and abreviations in his couple posts than has been used on the forums in the past year... are you by any chance typing with phone or something, tadi?

marichino_freedom

01-10-2007, 01:55 PM

i noticed that......:chris:

countrygurl

01-10-2007, 02:37 PM

lol it only took me a couple tries to understand it..:D

countrygurl

01-10-2007, 03:46 PM

Ok...

I don't want to be mean or anything...

BUT, i'm so gonna laugh if Ruth gets married like...

Before me.

Or.

You.

:eek:

(i'm not serious Ruth. Really.)

HAHAHA As a close friend...I could totally see this happening!!! :D

leahmb

01-10-2007, 04:08 PM

HAHAHA As a close friend...I could totally see this happening!!! :D

I'd take cover :peep:

blessed

01-10-2007, 04:38 PM

How did i miss that post!!!!!

You're serious countrygirl :D

AlanaH

01-10-2007, 05:13 PM

How did blessed get a whole 10 rep power ahead of Bro T??? I don't get it.
Just thought I'd throw that in.

BroTrevor

01-10-2007, 05:29 PM

How did blessed get a whole 10 rep power ahead of Bro T??? I don't get it.
Just thought I'd throw that in.

DId you mean "throw" that in?? Or "rub" that in?

leahmb

01-10-2007, 05:32 PM

How did i miss that post!!!!!

You're serious countrygirl :D

I think it was from a while ago......

Did you mean "throw" that in?? Or "rub" that in?

Hmm...I'm going with the latter :)

countrygurl

01-10-2007, 08:18 PM

How did i miss that post!!!!!

It was waaaaaaaay back at the start of the thread... :D

Babyruth

01-10-2007, 09:26 PM

HAHAHA As a close friend...I could totally see this happening!!! :D
Um, Kristin...not a chance.

HotShot53

01-10-2007, 10:02 PM

HAHAHA As a close friend...I could totally see this happening!!! :D

Sorry skirty... but as Sara just recently got engaged, I'm afraid she'll be probably married first... though she does plan to wait like a year before actually getting married, so there is still a chance ;)

Skirty

01-10-2007, 10:04 PM

Sorry skirty... but as Sara just recently got engaged, I'm afraid she'll be probably married first... though she does plan to wait like a year before actually getting married, so there is still a chance ;)
ummmm, why apologize to me? lol

Ruth won't be getting married anytime soon, eventually though... mwa ha ha....

HotShot53

01-10-2007, 10:21 PM

ummmm, why apologize to me? lol.

Whoops, I thought you said it... but it was countrygirl... my mistake.

Skirty

01-10-2007, 10:34 PM

Whoops, I thought you said it... but it was countrygirl... my mistake.
oh, I thought I'd said soemthign without realising it :D Happens to me all the time, lol.

Babyruth

01-10-2007, 11:00 PM

ummmm, why apologize to me? lol

Ruth won't be getting married anytime soon, eventually though... mwa ha ha....
How do you know? Hm.......

Skirty

01-10-2007, 11:02 PM

How do you know? Hm.......
I just do... :D
I had a 'dream'! lol

Babyruth

01-10-2007, 11:06 PM

I just do... :D
I had a 'dream'! lol
Um hmm.... suuuuuuuuuuure. You are making it up. At least mine was real. :D

countrygurl

01-11-2007, 12:53 AM

hehe...I love it..Hotshot thought Skirty was me..............My life is fulfulled...ok not really, but yeah...:D

Skirty however is sooooooooooo right..that Ruth will eventually get married...I know this because I am "plotting" and its gonna be a good one..I'm not even gonna lie....MWA HAHAHAHAHHAA

countrygurl

01-11-2007, 12:55 AM

Sorry skirty... but as Sara just recently got engaged, I'm afraid she'll be probably married first... though she does plan to wait like a year before actually getting married, so there is still a chance ;)
It's ok that Sara got engaged...it was the concept she was sharing..Ruth will be the first of Leah, Skirty and I...:D

Forgive me, Ruth?:juggle:

AlanaH

01-11-2007, 01:33 AM

I concur...
How many times have I seen that happen where someone who says they will never get married ends up getting married first??? Too many!!!

Babyruth

01-11-2007, 01:45 AM

It's ok that Sara got engaged...it was the concept she was sharing..Ruth will be the first of Leah, Skirty and I...:D

Forgive me, Ruth?:juggle:
Hm, probably not. So, why are you so consumed with gettting me married? I am in college for the next 6 years, and then I'm for sure working for at least 10 years, so at least the next 16 years. After that, if the Lord reveals it to me, or sooner, but I don't think that's going to happen. So, Kristin, I'd watch your back if I were you...:chris:

:D

Skirty

01-11-2007, 02:09 AM

It's ok that Sara got engaged...it was the concept she was sharing..Ruth will be the first of Leah, Skirty and I...:D

Forgive me, Ruth?:juggle:
Speak for yourself... I'm 21 now... I don't have much longer left... LOL

(I was not serious, just for the record)

leahmb

01-11-2007, 04:26 AM

Hm, probably not. So, why are you so consumed with gettting me married? I am in college for the next 6 years, and then I'm for sure working for at least 10 years, so at least the next 16 years. After that, if the Lord reveals it to me, or sooner, but I don't think that's going to happen. So, Kristin, I'd watch your back if I were you...:chris:

:D

Yeah, but we 3 made a pact that we won't for the next 18 years or right after you do, just to prove our word :D

Babyruth

01-11-2007, 04:47 AM

Yeah, but we 3 made a pact that we won't for the next 18 years or right after you do, just to prove our word :D
I made a pact? What kind of pact? I'm confused.

jordancpeterson

01-11-2007, 04:58 AM

Ah! Now it all makes sense! :D

Babyruth

01-11-2007, 05:05 AM

Yeah, but we 3 made a pact that we won't for the next 18 years or right after you do, just to prove our word :D
You mean you, Krista, and Kristin made a pact? Lol, well then, I'd start buying Old Maid stuff cause it ain't going to happen for a long time sister. :D

Babyruth

01-11-2007, 05:05 AM

Ah! Now it all makes sense! :D
What makes sense?

BroTrevor

01-11-2007, 10:45 AM

It's ok that Sara got engaged...it was the concept she was sharing..Ruth will be the first of Leah, Skirty and I...:D

Sara?? the one in Texas??

Coolness...

Congrats!!! (like she'll ever see this post)

JMG

01-11-2007, 03:20 PM

Sorry skirty... but as Sara just recently got engaged, I'm afraid she'll be probably married first... though she does plan to wait like a year before actually getting married, so there is still a chance ;)

Hmmmmm... I wonder who she got engaged to? A fellow forumer? :peep: :dft002: :chef :bigsmile:

BroTrevor

01-11-2007, 03:22 PM

Hmmmmm... I wonder who she got engaged to? A fellow forumer? :peep: :chef :dft002: :bigsmile:

You appear to maybe have inside knowledge on this??

countrygurl

01-11-2007, 03:23 PM

Yeah, but we 3 made a pact that we won't for the next 18 years or right after you do, just to prove our word :D

Can I recant on that ? :lol:

Skirty

01-11-2007, 03:25 PM

Can I recant on that ? :lol:
lol, I don't seem to remember being in on that one?!?! But you know me, I'll agree to anything :D

JMG

01-11-2007, 03:26 PM

You appear to maybe have inside knowledge on this??

But of course Brother Trevor, I do have inside knowledge on this.
Because I am the one whom she is engaged to. :)

HotShot53

01-11-2007, 03:27 PM

You appear to maybe have inside knowledge on this??

Being as he's the one she's engaged to.... I would hope he does ;)

Skirty

01-11-2007, 03:27 PM

But of course Brother Trevor, I do have inside knowledge on this situation.
Because I am the one whom she is engaged to. :)

Congratulations!!!!

Are you the ones on Genesis' xanga page?

BroTrevor

01-11-2007, 03:27 PM

But of course Brother Trevor, I do have inside knowledge on this situation.
Because I am the one whom she is engaged to. :)

AH ha!!

I didn't know this!!

It's because I missed the last few camps or something I'm sure.

CONGRATS!!

Well done, I've never met her...or you for that matter... but judging from her Xanga....you've made an excellent choice.

When's the date?

JMG

01-11-2007, 03:28 PM

Congratulations!!!!

Are you the ones on Genesis' xanga page?

Yes, that is us... :)

JMG

01-11-2007, 03:31 PM

AH ha!!

I didn't know this!!

It's because I missed the last few camps or something I'm sure.

CONGRATS!!

Well done, I've never met her...or you for that matter... but judging from her Xanga....you've made an excellent choice.

When's the date?

The date is in early 2009. By that time she will be out of nursing school and I will have already completed a semester of graduate school.
:)

BroTrevor

01-11-2007, 03:33 PM

The date is in early 2009. At that time she will be out of nursing school and I will have already completed a semester of graduate school.
:)

Ah...

I had wondered about that. I remember her saying something on Xanga I think about finishing school, and her boyfriend being ok with that.

Go claim your land bro!!

countrygurl

01-11-2007, 03:53 PM

Congrats!!! :D

blessed

01-11-2007, 04:21 PM

Congrats JMG!!!!!

You sir are a man with great patience.. I must commend you on that one!!

AlanaH

01-11-2007, 07:11 PM

That is awesome!!! Congrats!!!!

marichino_freedom

01-11-2007, 07:54 PM

yay!!!!!! :yay: :yay: :yay: cheers!!!!!!!!

countrygurl

01-12-2007, 02:06 AM

lol, I don't seem to remember being in on that one?!?! But you know me, I'll agree to anything :D

Oh goodie!! I have "plans" for your visit....:D Mwa haha

joris

01-12-2007, 06:28 AM

Congrats JMG!!!!!

You sir are a man with great patience.. I must commend you on that one!!yeah, sounds like that
oh, she must feel very special you waiting on her school...:)

Sara

01-23-2007, 10:54 PM

Well,

It's not like he can get away now. :yay:

Hehehe... Just kidding!!!

Yes, i feel very very VERY special.

Thanks for all for the congratulations!!!

I have to go for now, unfortunately.

Just came by quickly to read the new YQ news letter.

Please remember to keep Joseph and I in your prayers.

-and my school experience this semester.

It's getting harder to get up in the mornings!!!

I'm getting OOOOOOOOLD...

Hehehe, jk!

God bless you all.

:)