Fashion Desires

[hollikins84]

Back to school time is returning and so is the pressure to look the "hottest." It's about this time of year that reminds me how grateful I am that I no longer have those desires to find that "hot" look.

I remember a time in school when I was ashamed of my modest dress because I didn't look stylish. But I know that one day that changed for me. The desire of my heart was no longer to draw attention to my figure or stylish clothes, but to look like a lady- a Christian woman. I am so grateful that my desires are changed because a lust for wordly things can never give you the satisfaction that Christ can.

[chocolateismybestfriend]

amen sister :) we should dress like what we are - The Bride of Christ.

[blessed]

.....because a lust for wordly things can never give you the satisfaction that Christ can.

i agree with that 1100% sis

[esther]

:thumbup: and i agree with that a million times over. :thumbup:

[collegegirl]

Totally. Even though I feel conspicuous in a skirt sometimes, I feel safer, because I know that guys are less likely to mess with me because I am not showing anything, thus not giving them an invitation to do it.

[morning_mist]

I have actually influenced a few of my female co-workers to wear skirt. From most of them, they are always conscious when they would wear one. Some of them do not even own a skirt or dress at all. Some wondered if it would be becoming for them to wear one. I told some of them that you are girls/ladies, you are supposed to wear skirts/dresses not jeans.....it is just society who dictates otherwise but in the bible that is not so.

[morning_mist]

Being in the popular group is not always a big issue in the philippines however I do understand how you feel cause during my school days...we were always an oddball, my sisters and I, cause we are wearing skirts or dresses when going to school and having long hairs. What I did was I would normally focus more on the academic side and by God's grace, I excelled in that and they would notice me more for that instead.

I can say right now that I am glad to be an oddball, I am not bothered by it anymore not like when I was still studying cause peer pressure was really frustrating if you would let them upset you.

[collegegirl]

I have actually influenced a few of my female co-workers to wear skirt. From most of them, they are always conscious when they would wear one. Some of them do not even own a skirt or dress at all. Some wondered if it would be becoming for them to wear one. I told some of them that you are girls/ladies, you are supposed to wear skirts/dresses not jeans.....it is just society who dictates otherwise but in the bible that is not so.
There have been many people that I and my sisters have influenced to start wearing skirts. Postitive influence. They start wearing their hair long, and wearing more modest clothing. One of my fellow students showed up to school one day wearing a denim skirt, and she teased me (in a very nice way, she is almost like an older sister), that she was being me that day. It really is more becoming. Skirts hide a lot of flaws that pants would accentuate. Thank you Lord. :D

[blessed]

Skirts hide a lot of flaws that pants would accentuate. Thank you Lord. :D

ha ha right about that one

[marichino_freedom]

i am the only one at my job that wears skirts/dresses, and it is super difficult because the just dont want me too (they feel it is a "safety hazard", although i can hardly see that point valid)

but, i just wear them anyway! i've recently begun transforming all of my pants into skirts....i'm actually getting pretty handy with a sewing machine...i've been decorating and designing too...it's a lot of fun. who knows, maybe i can even sell something!

[blessed]

you go girl..may the Lord be with you ..

[marichino_freedom]

Thanks....(it's actually a lot of fun making clothes and making people roll their eyes)...

[collegegirl]

That is so true!!! :D They are like, "Girl, you are soo good. Will you make me some?" I have to make any of my formal dresses unless they are given to me by another sister.

[marichino_freedom]

i havent made formal dresses before, but sarah (calledout) and i are going to start making jean skirts, other skirts, shirts and stuff and try to sell them....we dont know how well we'll do yet, but it will definately be fun trying!!!!! :thumbup:

[collegegirl]

That sounds interesting. I think that maybe someday I should like to make modest formal dresses to order. We will see how that works out. :D I know of two places that make formal dresses though. www.latterdaybride.com is one, and the other is www.beautifullymodest.com. They usually have some pretty good stuff. Keep in mind, latterdaybride is a mormon site, and so is beautifullymodest. They sure have some pretty dresses though.

[marichino_freedom]

there is a really cool website that i was looking at last night, they have a lot of cute, long jean skirts

www.stylishjeans.com

[vpiper]

formal dresses? where to you wear them, Weddings? I have a few, but no real place to wear them to.

[blessed]

well i have an idea...when your hubby goes out to work, you can fix him a nice meal ,put flowers on the table and put on your formal dress just as if you were going out to a restaurant or some fancy dinner ... and lay out a suit for him to wear when he gets home to make it more grand......doing little things like these once in a while should be lots of fun

[marichino_freedom]

I have a couple of formal dresses, they are just old bridesmaid dresses, and prom dresses....I probably wont ever wear them again, though.

[blessed]

some of them i don't think that i can fit in :sad:

[marichino_freedom]

I suppose i could scrap them.

[blessed]

i saw this lady on the street yesterday and she had on a jeans skirt with a different piece of cloth down the center and i smiled cause i rememberd marichino

[collegegirl]

SCRAP THEM?!!!! JUST THROW THEM AWAY?!!!! Give them to me, or re-do them. Or see if there is another sister in your church that might like them.

I like the idea of setting up a nice dinner. That is a smart idea. Just make sure he knows first, so that he can look forward to it. If you have kids, give them to a babysitter for the evening, so you can have a nice quiet evening alone.

[marichino_freedom]

nonono! i didnnt mean SCRAP them, i mean just use them in something else...

:rofl:

[blessed]

i was wondering about that one :D

[marichino_freedom]

okay...recycle would be a better word!

[vpiper]

The dinner Idea sounds like a good one, but to buy a dress just for a night like that, hmmm. I would have to find a sitter or my dress would have baby food all over it.

I bought a really nice dress for $1 at the Goodwill and haven't been able to wear it cause I'm still nurseing and it would be hard to do it in that dress.

[blessed]

maybe you can find a sitter and wear something you already have, don't buy a new dress im sure that there is some grand dress that you have put away there

[marichino_freedom]

i cleaned out my closet today and i have a whole garbage bag full of clothes that i dont want (some are just not appropriate things, others i just dont wear)

[Babyruth]

I bet that felt good! It made me feel good this Christmas break when I did it.

[NeedGod]

i guess it feels good to throw away clothes that are inappropriate. i buy second hand clothes and i have a hard time getting nice fitting clothes as the choice is not vast. and skirts are usually too short. this is since new clothes are so expensive. but believe it or not, i find it fun to shop because i get more joy when i find something which fits me than someone who can buy new clothes or than someone who buys second hand ttrousers and miniskirts which are in plenty.

[vpiper]

it's hard to get rid of the inapproprate clothes, I feel bad giving them to an unbeliever or even just the goodwill(thrift store). But to just throw clothes away is hard too, what to do.

[marichino_freedom]

i agree. it felt good to get rid of it, but at the same time, i wanted to hold onto it...even if i didnt wear it. it's still hard for me to change all of my jeans and pants into skirts too.

[Babyruth]

I don't have anything innapropriate, I didn't before either because I have been in the Message. Also, my mom buys most of my clothes, so I wouldn't have any anyways. But I help package clothing to send overseas for my church and we get a lot of innapropriate stuff from donations from others in the community. We don't send them overseas, but we hate to give them to Goodwill because we don't want someone else to wear them. I agree, it's a tough decision.

[NeedGod]

oh give your clothes to go overseas. that way, we get to buy them here in kenya. they comne as second hand clothes for the normal person and they arent as expensive as new clohes. i buy from such places as there is variety. give them out people, give them out. :thumbup:

[marichino_freedom]

sure thing!!!!

you know what i thought would be kind of cool....taking old graphic tee shirts that dont fit or something and making them into a "quilt"....

[blessed]

I think that if you have something that is inappropriate it should be thrown away if it cannot be altered into something decent...look at it this way why would i want to hold on to something from the world which Christ had already delivered me from

[marichino_freedom]

these are just shirts that are too small with cute stuff like frogs and rainbows and stuff

[Babyruth]

That would be really cool!

[marichino_freedom]

i'm going to start going through them this weekend i think..i dunno, just something different to do i guess.

[NeedGod]

sure thing!!!!

you know what i thought would be kind of cool....taking old graphic tee shirts that dont fit or something and making them into a "quilt"....
wow, brilliant idea.

[collegegirl]

*rolls eys* We have so many old graphic T's. My dad has a print shop, so we have hundreds of old T's leftover from the jobs. But I am going to try to start quilting from the scraps of materials that I have leftover from outfits that I have made, or from scraps from my sister's outfits.

[collegegirl]

oh give your clothes to go overseas. that way, we get to buy them here in kenya. they comne as second hand clothes for the normal person and they arent as expensive as new clohes. i buy from such places as there is variety. give them out people, give them out. :thumbup:
What size are you? I mean, maybe some of us on here have some old clothes that we want to get rid of, (by old, I mean been in the closet, not necessarily very worn and ratty), and maybe we could get together a package and send it over to you. Would you be interested? I'll bet me and ruth are about the same size....and probaby the same with a few others.

[blessed]

what size are u namwacha....you might want to send that info in private message..just incase :D

[chocolateismybestfriend]

you can get some of the best clothes at second hand stores.
Some girls die at the thought of wearing clothes other people have owned, second hand doesnt mean torn with holes fit to be a rag,- a lot of them have so much character, and hey vintage is totally in.

[chocolateismybestfriend]

the #2 best place - EBAY!!
Loads of cute skirts on there! and shirts, and jackets and shoes and pretty much anything.

[NeedGod]

i am size 8. oh my goodness, you people got me crying and now i cant stop. wow, i love you guys.

[NeedGod]

and i would give some to people here. there are so many poor belivers here who would even appreciate a rag to put on.

[collegegirl]

Well, it sure beats giving perfectly fine clothes to unbelievers who are probably going to abuse them and not even wear them.

[NeedGod]

yeah, or cut them to short things.

[blessed]

this is giving me an idea ...need to think about it some more

[marichino_freedom]

i live at the second hand stores!!! they have some of the funkiest stuff....its great and cheap too

[Blood Washed Bride]

I like the love package idea. I have several skirts I never seem to wear. And I'm a size 8.

[vpiper]

oh give your clothes to go overseas. that way, we get to buy them here in kenya. they comne as second hand clothes for the normal person and they arent as expensive as new clohes. i buy from such places as there is variety. give them out people, give them out. :thumbup:


or we could just mail them to you and you don't have to buy them

[vpiper]

great minds think a like, I just posted right after I read the comment.

now I feel fat, Just kidding, I was a 14 right after Zippa was born, but now I'm back down to a 10-12 depending on the cut. if you have any larger friends I can send you some of my unwanted apporiate clothes.

[chocolateismybestfriend]

american size 8?

[marichino_freedom]

i am as well...an 8 i mean

i just made a new skirt today...it was a pair of blue pants, that i sewed front and back, and then cut across around the knee area and sewed in a piece of blue "snakeskin" and then reattatched the bottom

its pretty cool

[collegegirl]

PLease send your measurements, plus your mailing address in a private message to me or whomever if you are interested in some clothes. I just cleaned out my closet and have a basketful of clothes that I am going to get rid of, plus I have 2 older sisters who periodically give me their stuff and sometimes I don't like it, and they have made it. I would love to give them to someone who would appreciate them.

[marichino_freedom]

the other day i was strolling around the mall and i saw this child with the ugliest boots on...they were horrible! my family might think i dress boring, but i would rather look "silly" in a long skirt than ugly boots!

oh, and does anyone watch american idol? i love watching the tryouts and laughing at some of these crazy people....there was one girl on there who was 17 and had a horrible shoe leather tan, bleached hair, and some sort of strange , show-a-lot-of-skin shirt...but the worst part was that her mother was trying to dress the same! she probably could barely walk in the tiny skirt she had on, and there was so much makeup on both of them you couldnt even see their eyes....is that fashion or what?!

[NeedGod]

american size 8?
i dont know exactly. my waist is 25 inches. well, so many people here offered to send me clothes and i appreciate. i will give most of them to brethren in church anyway. there are so many people here who sleep hungry and dont have money to buy clothes. people here are so poor i feel blessed to have the few clothes i have. i guess you could send them to this address. i posted it here so that whoever wanted could send. i told my someone and she said it was a good idea. i was unsure at first but it is a good idea as i saw people in church on sunday who needed clothes and that made me change my mind pronto.

Esther Namwacha M.
P.O. Box 56878, Nairobi, 00200
Kenya, East Arica


God Bless You all!

[chocolateismybestfriend]

25 inches??
Well you'd be much smaller than an 8.

From your picture you look smaller than me (albeit taller) and i'm an american 4/5.

Google it :) it'll come up with measurements from different sizes and you can compare.

[NeedGod]

i dont know what an american 4'5 is but i am 5 feet 1 or 2 inches. i am shorter than most people here. i am shorter even than everyone in our house. except my mum. my mum is so short and my dad is so tall. cute huh? :)

[marichino_freedom]

i was at my sisters baby shower the other day and my neice looked at me and told me i needed to get with the fashion of the day....apparently, my socks were TOO colorful, my shoes were ugly, and i needed to wear some jeans (thank you miss fashionista). i told her i didnt care and why does it bother her if it doesnt bother me. it was pretty funny, cuz she looked at me and said "Duh, aunt mary! fashion is life! it's just ..... LIFE, okay! i'm going to help you!".

thanks, but no thanks

:cool:

[NeedGod]

ha, i like the fact that we have LIFE so we dont have to look for it in fashion:yay: :yay:

[Babyruth]

I like it that everyone feels the need to tell you what's wrong with you and how to fix it, as if they are certain you are unhappy with your life. If I was so unhappy, wouldn't I complain about it? I don't get it. Then, you tell them they should dress like a lady, and they aren't interested. Interesting, no?

[marichino_freedom]

its a funny little circle, i'm perfectly happy with my life right now! actually, couldnt be happier!

:yay:

[blessed]

I was just thinking...its pretty strange how by doing the right thing it bothers so many people..that they cannot be at peace with themselves

[NeedGod]

and when you do the wrong thing you dont get half as many repremands. why, you might even get praised for it.:confused:

[blessed]

People out there can be pretty wierd.

[marichino_freedom]

i know this is an older thread, but i was in disneyworld about a week ago (not quite) and the way some (or shall i say most) of the people there just dress horribly...too tight things with their fat hanging out (litteraly) and no support...if you get my drift....it was a sight NOT to see....and they were perfectly happy

[redeemed_lizzi]

i know this is an older thread, but i was in disneyworld about a week ago (not quite) and the way some (or shall i say most) of the people there just dress horribly...too tight things with their fat hanging out (litteraly) and no support...if you get my drift....it was a sight NOT to see....and they were perfectly happy

I know what u mean. The sun came out last week, and with the sun came the flesh. Ewwwww is all I can say!!

[redeemed]

yup! that's the truth! my dad loves the heat but he would rather have it winter all year round than see the girls dressing like they do! tis disgusting!:y10:

[Lyddie]

Yea Redeemed that's right it is discusting!! It's too bad that girls can't be more modest. It makes me sad to see all the girls with their flubber hanging out and them thinking that their so beautiful looking like that. I feel sorry for them. Seeing them like that makes me long to go home.

[redeemed]

ooohhh flubber, i like that!!

[blessed]

Yea Redeemed that's right it is discusting!! It's too bad that girls can't be more modest. It makes me sad to see all the girls with their flubber hanging out and them thinking that their so beautiful looking like that. I feel sorry for them. Seeing them like that makes me long to go home.

Me too sis i long to go home

[marichino_freedom]

no flubber there.....:yay:

[NeedGod]

i like that. Flubber....lol. too true though.

[blessed]

no flubber there.....:yay:
Sure right sis

[chocolateismybestfriend]

i know this is an older thread, but i was in disneyworld about a week ago (not quite) and the way some (or shall i say most) of the people there just dress horribly...too tight things with their fat hanging out (litteraly) and no support...if you get my drift....it was a sight NOT to see....and they were perfectly happy

they may appear to be happy, and if they are its only on the surface.

Thank God for real substance, real joy and happiness.

[God'schild]

they may appear to be happy, and if they are its only on the surface.

Thank God for real substance, real joy and happiness.

Amen to that.

[already bought]

[quote=namwacha i will give most of them to brethren in church anyway. there are so many people here who sleep hungry and dont have money to buy clothes. people here are so poor i feel blessed to have the few clothes i have. i guess you could send them to this address. i posted it here so that whoever wanted could send. i told my someone and she said it was a good idea. i was unsure at first but it is a good idea as i saw people in church on sunday who needed clothes and that made me change my mind pronto.quote]

You made me relise how blessed I really am. I come from canada and well for a canadian family my family is not rich. Sometimes we have a tuff time paying all the bills and stuff. But what I'm going to say I hope dose not sound like I'm lifting my self up. But I have a closet full of clothes and alot of shirts and there is this wedding coming up and I thought of getting a new top but you made me relise how blessed I am to have what I have. And just to see your careing additude of wanting others in you church to have some nicer clothes is really sweet. I don't know what it would be like to go to bed hungry or wonder where the food was going to come from the next day or that kind of a thing.
Just in church the other night which would have been wendesday my paster said something ( thought I can't remember what) and it made me think. I think God knew what each one could handle. Like in africa I don't know what your trials are or battles for that matter. It would be really neat to hear some of the things you have to battle there.