You are looking fly today!

[NeedGod]

is it alright for brothers to say that to sisters before they are married. i never thought about it before until someone asked me about it
http://www.xanga.com/namwacha/465201775/amazing-grace-yay-i-am-a-child-of-god.html
it then got me thinking.
first is it alright to say it?
second, is the choice of words ok?

all these considering how women in general react to compliments. our pastor is always warning brothers to be careful complimenting sisters as it sweeps them away awwwaaaaaaayyyy!
oh, and sisters, be careful of men outside, they know how to use words to woo girls, sweet words that will make us fall if we are not anchored deep in Christ.
Now, someone please answer my questions!

[Unregistered]

" our pastor is always warning brothers to be careful complimenting sisters as it sweeps them away awwwaaaaaaayyyy!" plz tell us more about it.

[JoeC]

sema mrembo(fly).wa!i never thot you were so beeeautiful.the things guys notice attach value!

NB,that was the outside man (joshua)who sed that. He just wants to confuse you.altho its true that you are looking awesome in that photo.which leads me to a question that we should debate on as believers.

should brothers tell sisters that they are fly unless and until they marry them?but before you do that just take another look at that photo and tell me if you can help it(you brothers!)
Posted 3/31/2006 at 9:40 AM by Jowaweru (http://www.xanga.com/Jowaweru)


Our pastor always tell us that you should steer away from compliments that might make a girl emotional. In my opinion, it just adds fluff to the relationship. Get to know each other - save the compliments till you know that you are going to be married. Compliments steal pieces of people's heart, and until you know that you are both forever each others' you should veer away from that. I know I wouldn't want to come before the altar on that wonderful day with bits and pieces of my heart back with flings that I've had along the way.

[SpamBoy]

+1 JoeC
:ok:

for those of us who grew up in the world and didn't have these tidbits on relationships and the instruction on the correct way to interact with the OS (opposite sex) --- there are memories you have to deal with --- even though we had no knowledge of Christ you still have issues to deal with.

I wish I had the chance to "keep pure" -- of course I'm Pure now. :yay:

-SpamBoy
''.................................made........... .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .......................you........................ .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .......look!"

[BroTrevor]

"flirting" is only asking for trouble.

Bro Branham said Samson got in trouble when he started flirting.

It never helps... sure it's fun, it's exciting... But think it through... look at the end result. If you continue flirting and such, where will it lead? It doesn't lead to a serious relationship, because it didn't start in a serious way. It started in a "yay...wooo...pretty!!!...happy!!...heehee...haha" kind of way...will it end in seriousness? No, rather it will continue on but because the reason people flirt is because it's exciting..they will keep getting deeper and deeper into it because every day they want the excitement.

In short...it will not produce a lasting relationship because it isn't built upon the right principles.

Flirting leads to broken hearts, broken dreams, broken "promises", and perhaps even broken purity. Rarely does "flirting" end up with a great relationship being the end result.

Bro Branham said.

THE.CHOOSING.OF.A.BRIDE_ LA.CA V-2 N-28 THURSDAY_ 65-0429E
19-5 And that little queen... And I backed off and looked up. I could see the--the steeple on the top of the other house, and I stood there and looked a few minutes. I thought, "Who is the rich man?" I thought, "If... Bill Branham, if you want to take which place, where would you go?" For me, I'd take, not the--that pretty thing up on top of the hill, but I's take this character down here that is a real homemaker, somebody that loved me and stayed with me, somebody that tried to make a home without bleeding you for everything for fineries, and somebody that was with you--part of you.
THE.CHOOSING.OF.A.BRIDE_ LA.CA V-2 N-28 THURSDAY_ 65-0429E
20-1 That's always stuck with me of how that was. One chose a beautiful girl; the other one chose character. Now, that's the only way you can choose. First look for character, and then if you love her, fine.

He never said anything there about being pretty or not. It should not be a focal point in a relationship.

He also said

THIRST_ TUCSON.AZ V-16 N-6 SUNDAY_ 65-0919
73 Then, we thirst for fellowship. We go, we want fellowship. It's like a young man and a young woman. Now, it's not unnecessary--or not (I mean) unnatural for a young man and a young woman to--to love one another. It is a thirst for love. It's their age, and they--they love one another. And it's not unnatural; that's just a natural thing for them to do that.
Now, we find many things, in the life that we live in the natural body, that we thirst for. It's just something sets in us. We want to do it; we absolutely feel that it's necessary. And it is necessary that we do it.
We find many women in these days thirst for beauty. Now, there isn't a woman... It's a natural thing for a woman to thirst to be pretty. That's--that's her God-given instinct and--and her beauty that God give her for her mate. And now, we find out that women want to be that way. Why is it? It's just because it's something God gave her. And it's not wrong for women to be pretty. They should be.

and 1 paragraph down..

THIRST_ TUCSON.AZ V-16 N-6 SUNDAY_ 65-0919
77 Now, the true thirst that a woman should have, would be to "adorn themselves in modest apparel, and to have a Christ-like spirit," I Timothy 2:9. Now, that's a way the woman should thirst to be. Now, if you want to be pretty, that's the way what makes you pretty (See?) is a Christ-like spirit, and adorn in modest apparel.

[blessed]

OS- operating system :D

Excellent Post Bro Trevor

[HotShot53]

Hmm... think Joe, Spamboy, and Bro. Trevor said it all.... so I'll just say I agree :) I saw my older brother go out with one girl after another.... and there were always hurt feelings afterwards, and he almost married the wrong person....and decided I didn't want to go that same way. Of course, he was getting married at the age I am now, and I'm still completely single.... but whenever God does tell me who the right one is, I won't have any regrets :)

[JoeC]

Really, this all this goes back to emotional purity (http://yqnews.org/forums/showthread.php?t=630). The book "Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1579213405/sr=8-1/qid=1143902564/ref=pd_bbs_1/103-5483269-9911840?%5Fencoding=UTF8)" is highly recommended for this matter. Also, your pastor is a great resource.

[NeedGod]

Thank you a whole lot people. i am going to ask my pastor about it. thanks a whole lot bro. trevor!