starting out

[NeedGod]

God bless you all
i had some questions i needed help with
1. how do you know when to start dating someone. especially if you both like each other, how do you know when to start dating

2. how should one know if they are in love and how should one differentiate it from infatuation?

3. What are the specifications in the message about courtship and dating. and what is the difference

4. finally, after you have prayed over a person you like and they have prayed over it too, when is the right time to start actual dating.

God bless you all and pray for me!

[blessed]

I would recommend that you talk with your mom or an elderly sister at church, pray alot and seek guidance from the Lord and your pastor. I don't know much about the dating thing.........

[BroTrevor]

1) AFTER MUCH PRAYER

2) I have no idea... but time helps to tell I think.

3) A valuable resource is here (http://literallife.org/youth/ccc/courtship.htm) The courtship, character, and conduct quote book.

4) When the Holy Spirit leads...


My biggest advice in this type of scenario is

I CORINTHIANS 7:32 - 34
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

So, if after you get married you're going to be caring for the things of the world, how you may please your husband, you better have the baptism HOLY GHOST IN YOU before hand, or you may never get the time to think on the things of the Lord enough to get to that stage in your Christian walk. This would be a sad thing.

I think as we enter into "dating" relationships, these scriptures also apply. Our emotions start taking control, we can't think straight, except "when's he going to call". So it becomes really difficult to spend effectual time with the Lord.

That being said, my personal advice is...don't even THINK about DATING until you have the Baptism of the Holy Ghost IN you. It'll only get in the way of what is truly important in your life, and with what will truly make you happy (the Holy Ghost in your life).

If I remember right, you've recently rededicated your life to the Lord. Do you think perhaps you should just date HIM unreservedly for awhile?

[AgapZoe]

Hey cuz,you know you are ever in my prayers and well,will talk to you later!
All I can say now is may God help you in all you do,esp in your request right now.I know what it all means to you!
Love you Es'

God be with you and may He grant you the wisdom you need to make the right decisions in your daily undertakings!

[NeedGod]

Bro Trevor. thank you so much for that advice. i am thinking of it critically and it is true, it has crowded my thinking for a while. i think i will ask God for the strength to do so. its hard to even consider. i wont lie, i am finding all sorts of excuses even now in my head but pray for me.

[fredmaina]

dating, i guess, depends on when you intend to marry or get married and also what your perception of dating really is!!!!!!!!!!

[NeedGod]

Bro. T, that is the best advice i ever got, though i did not follow it at the time. still, sometimes lessons are best learnt by life.
Now i am following it to the latter. Seek ye first.......am seeking..........