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desertroses

02-20-2006, 01:08 PM

Okay, so one thing that I have found pretty consistently among the majority of guys is the lack of maturity. Girls am I right? And perhaps the guys may want to respond to this too (to defend yourselves!!). I mean humour is one thing, and then overkill is another.
Any thoughts on this??

blessed

02-20-2006, 01:19 PM

Well there are a lot of mature guys out there i have to admit, we have some on here like Joe, hotshot,trevor and maybe spamboy..that one is questionable:D
Then there are the immature ones... i have to currently deal with one in church, i suspect that he likes me because he is constantly harassing me, but Puleaseee that is not the way to do it, he is soo imature he just annoys me most of the time, but i try to be polite but i can sense the Blessed "tell him and get over with it" coming on soon...my patience is wearing thin.
Its like a five year old having a crush on me...but i really don't want to say anything to hurt his feelings so i guess i have to wait this one off..

JoeC

02-20-2006, 01:57 PM

Blessed:

My advice? Tell the guy that he is painfully immature and that you are just friends. It best for you and it's best for him - if he doesn't find out sometime soon, he'll set in his ways and go through life trying to figure out why everyone steers away from him. A real friend gives rebuke because they know that, like a spanking, it hurts in the present but heals the potential future.

Desert Roses:

What age group are you referring to? Or is it men in general are immature. Period. :confused:

SpamBoy

02-20-2006, 02:05 PM

Well there are a lot of mature guys out there i have to admit, we have some on here like Joe, hotshot,trevor and maybe spamboy..that one is questionable:D

plz don't lump me in with this lot. :D I stand alone.

I see a lot of immature girls - that think there not.
I feel like Cuzco...
" Hate your hair, let me guess you *think* your mature. " :aaaah:

It's on both sides and is part of growing up.
Can you explain more about "I mean humour is one thing, and then overkill is another." ??

I don't understand...

-SpamBoy
"Seriousness and lack of humor DO NOT constitute spiritual maturity."

BroTrevor

02-20-2006, 02:11 PM

I'm still trying to determine if I want to post any of my thoughts in this thread or just sit back and watch for awhile.

This might really get good...

FreeAtLast

02-20-2006, 02:31 PM

"Seriousness and lack of humor DO NOT constitute spiritual maturity."

true true! :D

JoeC

02-20-2006, 02:37 PM

Humour is like grease - w/o it, the parts of marriage create friction and wear down. :D

desertroses

02-20-2006, 02:46 PM

Yes, all too true! well, I will clarify myself a little... I am talking about early to mid twenties. I feel that many times guys come on a little too strong, and they do this with tacky humour to the extent of being annoying. Is this just a form of trying to impress? or do they really have nothing intelligent to say? I am not talking about ALL guys of course, just ones that I encounter, I guess...I hope you all can shed some light on this

BroTrevor

02-20-2006, 02:49 PM

So then, to clarify...

we're talking about guys, ages 20 - 25, and their respective maturity in their approach to how they communicate their romantic interests to girls?

blessed

02-20-2006, 02:51 PM

Humour is like grease - w/o it, the parts of marriage create friction and wear down. :D
lol i love that one Joe, do i have your permission to use it
btw the guy in question is in his early 20's

desertroses

02-20-2006, 03:45 PM

So then, to clarify...

we're talking about guys, ages 20 - 25, and their respective maturity in their approach to how they communicate their romantic interests to girls?

That's right:) Do you think this is a form of trying to impress girls?

SpamBoy

02-20-2006, 03:47 PM

it's one form...
another "Message" form is to post spiritual stuff on Xanga...except the movies you watch and the books you read... :lmao:

BroTrevor

02-20-2006, 03:55 PM

<side glance at spamboy> huh?

Anyhow...

I think some guys are afraid of rejection...but want to try and "slyly" make their feelings known. You probably intimidate him some.

desertroses

02-20-2006, 04:12 PM

intimidate? heee,heee...well, thanks for the compliment Bro. Trevor
(I think)

Sarah.

JoeC

02-20-2006, 06:04 PM

I really can't help ya on this one. Most of the guys I hang out with are very mature. Don't discount us all though. ;)

desertroses

02-20-2006, 06:35 PM

Oh, don't cha worry, I'm not, just sharing some of my experiences..and wondering why. :)

Mick_Mack89

02-20-2006, 11:28 PM

HAHAHAHAHA. I just read all the posts.
Funny stuff.

I couldn't tell about maturity for 20-25. I don't hang out with anybody that age. And at my age (16) there really aren't "mature" people. There are a few (very few) who are though. And as for me. I am the epitomy of maturity in a young male person. Hahahahahahaha, that made me laugh.

SpamBoy

02-21-2006, 12:56 AM

@Mick - you use big mature words. Teach me. :laugh:

HotShot53

02-21-2006, 01:14 AM

I couldn't tell about maturity for 20-25. I don't hang out with anybody that age.
I guess Sunday afternoons and online doesn't count for you... ;)

Lol, I would love to be able to make a joke once in a while in real conversation... I'm afraid I'm almost the opposite of the people desert roses is talking about, which although doesn't make me anoying, also doesn't make me interesting at all...

NeedGod

02-21-2006, 05:22 AM

oh, matt, they arent immature, you are just abit more mature than guys your age. ok people, dont hold it against me. i had to give him his due, although i can already see his head puffing up

JoeC

02-21-2006, 10:00 AM

And as for me. I am the epitomy of maturity in a young male person. Hahahahahahaha, that made me laugh.

Don't let him fool ya people - he is sixteen after all!

desertroses

02-21-2006, 11:39 AM

Its like a five year old having a crush on me...but i really don't want to say anything to hurt his feelings so i guess i have to wait this one off..

Ha! Ha! I completely know what you mean, blessed!

FreeAtLast

02-21-2006, 11:48 AM

LOL @ Mick_Mack89

Anyways, back to the topic:

In this message guys can be soooo overspiritual when it comes to getting to know a girl until you want to throw up.
While others are way the opposite - soooo frolic and joking - until you want to beat them up.

But why is that?
Why can´t brothers in this message act normal when it comes to approaching a girl?

Of course I am not talking about every guy in this message - but "normal" guys are definitely in the minority!!

Mick_Mack89

02-21-2006, 11:53 AM

And what is normal? Does it even exsist? Normal as best as I understand is only a perception of behavior, and it varies from person to person.
What is your "normal"?

SpamBoy

02-21-2006, 12:24 PM

LOL @ Mick_Mack89
In this message guys can be soooo overspiritual when it comes to getting to know a girl until you want to throw up.

:laugh: -- tickle my ribs...(Bro Trevor didn't get my comment in another post.)

what is "normal" about human nature, the 10 senses :lmao:
I've always said about "common sense" -- what is common to me is not common to you. especially when it comes to different cultures. When I talk to my Eruopean friends I take it for granted they have the same experiences and enviroment I have... :lipsealed:

-SpamBoy
"ANYTHING but common :laugh:"

blessed

02-21-2006, 12:30 PM

Do you ever give a straight answer spamboy

SpamBoy

02-21-2006, 12:44 PM

Do you ever give a straight answer spamboy

:rolleyes: -- I guess in my own way I do. Reference my common sense. :laugh:

FreeAtLast

02-21-2006, 12:58 PM

Overspiritual is definitely NOT normal.
(same goes for over-frolic!)

btw. what european country are your friends from Spamboy?

Sometimes americans have a funny concept about Europe.
Had americans asking us if we knew what a vaccum cleaner was! (while it was actually invented overhere! LOL).
Someone else seriously asked me if Hitler was still alive! haha
and the list goes on...

collegegirl

02-21-2006, 01:01 PM

I don't know too much about boys acting immature around me, unless you count siblings. I have always been the immature one, (I guess that makes me mature...admitting and accepting responsibility :think:) and the only guys that have acted immature around me were worldy boys, and all of us girls know how that is.

I guess it all counts as in are you just having fun and joking around, (almost to the point where immaturity is humorous, or you just act like kids and don't care what others think), or if you are having a serious conversations, and maturity is needed, and then immaturity is frowned on.

AgapZoe

02-21-2006, 01:23 PM

spam boy, i didn't know boys also roll their eyes....:)
lol

SpamBoy

02-21-2006, 01:29 PM

spam boy, i didn't know boys also roll their eyes....:)
lol

sorry I had some spam in them.. :rolleyes: :crazy:

Barry Coffee mentioned the Bible talks about youth rolling their eyes at parents but I can't find the Scripture... anyone remember?

-SpamBoy
"Wishing you were here (http://blog.larrymoore.org/files/earth-42.jpg). :laugh:"

Mick_Mack89

02-21-2006, 03:50 PM

Sometimes americans have a funny concept about Europe.

Last time I checked sometimes europeans have a funny concept about America.:aaaah: :tongue_sm ;)

JMG

02-21-2006, 04:31 PM

Yes, and remember not all Americans, Americans Of The United States to be more precise, do not like super sized things, nor are super sized themselves. :peep:

Also, in this part of the world people in South America consider themselves Americans... Which they are... They are South Americans, we are North Americans. :)

JoeC

02-21-2006, 04:41 PM

Last time I checked sometimes europeans have a funny concept about America...

Yeah, something like this:

:tank: :drool: :gun_banda :cowboy:

Mick_Mack89

02-21-2006, 10:51 PM

hahaha joe! I almost put those exact smiles up. HAHAHAHAHA

JoeC

02-21-2006, 11:02 PM

You did put those exat smilies up. You then edited the message, but I was sent the original via email. I thought it was good enough to post. ;)

Mick_Mack89

02-21-2006, 11:24 PM

Uhuh Joe. Sure go ahead, give me the credit after you've been exposed. You know what I do to plagerists like you (hehe :beat:)

JoeC

02-21-2006, 11:44 PM

I thought maybe you didn't want the credit, since you deleted it. It's like taking something outta a garbage can...

Mick_Mack89

02-22-2006, 12:29 AM

Which I might point out is illegal.:harhar1: I thought the smiles were cool the way I put them, but I didn't think I put it together the way I wanted it to sound. ;)

FreeAtLast

02-22-2006, 07:09 AM

Of course I wasnt talking about ALL amercians.

But the once that said stuff like mentioned before were north-american message believers. :harhar1:

The difference is: I have been to America!
What about you guys? Ever been to Europe?

Anyways,…
The reason why it was all mentioned in the first place because Spamboy said he knows some ppl from Europe.
And it sounded like he things their life was way much different?

Something else: What kind of concept should we get about the USA when american ministers come over and tell us how great George W. Bush is? :2ar15:

JoeC

02-22-2006, 08:54 AM

Something else: What kind of concept should we get about the USA when american ministers come over and tell us how great George W. Bush is? :2ar15:

* chuckles

JoeC

02-22-2006, 08:59 AM

Which I might point out is illegal.

Pulling things out the the garbage is illegal where you come from?! :dft002:

I'd be in big trouble if it was here. Twice a year the area around Sylvania, Ohio has a day where they can throw anything away. The rest of the year they are limited to two garbage cans a week. There's some pretty ritzy area in Sylvania and they throw out some NICE stuff! We're talkin' China hutches, lawn chairs, cameras, monitors, etc here ppl! I guess they think it would be degrading for them to put their possessions in the classifieds. From the looks of it, some take it as a competition.

"Look what I'M throwing out. This nice rolex watch. Don't have any use for it anymore, ya know."

"Well look at me. I'm throwing out my olympic size swimming pool. We had to upgrade, so it's gotta go!"

Oh the treasures you find! :yay:

BroTrevor

02-22-2006, 10:31 AM

Pulling things out the the garbage is illegal where you come from?! :dft002:

I'd be in big trouble if it was here. Twice a year the area around Sylvania, Ohio has a day where they can throw anything away. The rest of the year they are limited to two garbage cans a week. There's some pretty ritzy area in Sylvania and they throw out some NICE stuff! We're talkin' China hutches, lawn chairs, cameras, monitors, etc here ppl! I guess they think it would be degrading for them to put their possessions in the classifieds. From the looks of it, some take it as a competition.

"Look what I'M throwing out. This nice rolex watch. Don't have any use for it anymore, ya know."

"Well look at me. I'm throwing out my olympic size swimming pool. We had to upgrade, so it's gotta go!"

Oh the treasures you find! :yay:

OH, I'd soooo be there.

I guess I lived on my own for too long, poor and alone. So anything that was still good and free (especially food) was taken very appreciatively by me.

Mick_Mack89

02-22-2006, 11:31 AM

Hahahaha, "ritzy" trash. That made me laugh.
Atually Joe I think it's illegaal to trash pick anywhere because technicaly the trash still belongs to the owner of the thing that was thrown in the trash untill the trash company comes and hauls it away. That would be why the police even need to get a warrent to look through your trash.

FreeAtLast, I would like to point out, in the defense of generalzing about americans, that knowing where the vacum cleaner was invented is not very high up on my need to know list. Using it in a manner that cleans the house is all I really care about. And as for the americans asking if you have vacums over there, well in someplaces in europe you guy's don't have real toilets, it seems after that we could wonder about a lot of what you guys actually have over there.

regarding your comment to Bush, what do you think of him? I know he isn't exactly the most popular guy over there in Germany and Europe. I personally think that I'd rather have him than either Gore, or either of the Clintons.

JoeC

02-22-2006, 11:55 AM

... or Flip-Flops

Anyhow. Trash picking in Sylvania. I've gone up and rummaged through the trash and the people will be sitting out on their prch or in their garage in a lawn chair. Some will even offer to help you get the stuff inside your car. I think it's some sort of pastetime for them. Like watching the Olympics.

FreeAtLast

02-22-2006, 12:15 PM

FreeAtLast, I would like to point out, in the defense of generalzing about americans, that knowing where the vacum cleaner was invented is not very high up on my need to know list. Using it in a manner that cleans the house is all I really care about. And as for the americans asking if you have vacums over there, well in someplaces in europe you guy's don't have real toilets, it seems after that we could wonder about a lot of what you guys actually have over there.

regarding your comment to Bush, what do you think of him? I know he isn't exactly the most popular guy over there in Germany and Europe. I personally think that I'd rather have him than either Gore, or either of the Clintons.

HAHA Mick_Mack89. I was not generalizing. LOL. I was just telling you guys of some experiences I had with some americans.
Glad to know that you care about using the vacuum cleaner in the house! Haha

Where about in Europe are no real toilets? I´d really like to know that.
Of course in some parts in America they also don´t have real toilets. (parts in south-america are very poor!)

I have no big opinion about Bush really. He is just another politician to me. Maybe not as bad as Clinton or Gore but certainly not another Abraham Lincoln!
(It kinda astonished us though a bit when it was preached from the pulpit that he is a born-again christian and other stuff… which I don´t even want to go into!).

Mick_Mack89

02-22-2006, 01:25 PM

By no real toilets I was refering to the ones were there is only a hole in the ground. Although I can only be sure of this rather (I think) odd practice in France, my parents were over there and told me about some of their experiences.

FreeAtLast

02-22-2006, 01:34 PM

some years ago they used to have toilets like that in France. (not anymore). But even then they also had normal toilets too.

Mick_Mack89

02-22-2006, 02:40 PM

My parents were there two years ago. Mutie just told me that that the holes in the ground were still availlable. I think they were in the countryside where they saw them.

FreeAtLast

02-22-2006, 03:46 PM

LOL. must have been some country-side.

Just for those that read this:

These toilets in France or not just some holes in the floor.
they actually function exactly like normal toilets (with a flush... etc) the big difference is only that you can not sit down.

In case somebody wanted to know.
If not... who cares! :harhar1:

Btw Mick_Mack89, I always thought that it was weird too. :D

NeedGod

02-24-2006, 06:15 AM

oh, they arent wierd, we have those here in church. and we also have the normal wcs. what more, in the country side, people dig several feet holes, put a board or covering on top and leave a hole for the works. they usually have a little board to cover the top after wards. so no flushing. :peep:

redeemed_lizzi

03-10-2006, 03:19 PM

People we must be careful about generalisations. But I do find them funny though.I've heard some pretty funny ones about England and Africa. Such as "Oh my gosh your from England? I have a friend in England called Pete.Do you know Pete?".......Yes I do. I happen to know all 10 million Pete's that live in London alone...... Or while listening to the Lion King soundtrack in my sixth form common room " Oh wow I love this music. What are they saying Liz, can you translate?"..........yes of course I'll translate, coz Africa is just a small tiny continent with 100 people and one language......lolol

Back to the original ques. I haven't had the misfortune to encounter such immature bro's in the 20-25 age range. If I did, I don't know how I would cope, as immaturity without wit or constant immaturity, jarrs my brain.

desertroses

03-10-2006, 05:35 PM

Back to the original ques. I haven't had the misfortune to encounter such immature bro's in the 20-25 age range. If I did, I don't know how I would cope, as immaturity without wit or constant immaturity, jarrs my brain.

Couldn't agree with you more :) Fortunately, the guys on this forum are sane..(somewhat)... :)...Lol. Just kidding guys, you've offered me hope that there are Christian brothers that can keep up a conversation :)