why can't i just be a mom??

[Embee]

ok why can't i just be a mom? i was talking to a lady i work with the other day and she asked me was i going to go back to school and do some thing with my life .i tolled he no i was going to stay where i'm at and work till i got marryed and then i was going to be a full time stay at home mom. she looked at me like i was nuts.i tolled her that has alway been some thing i have wonted to be . now don't get me wrong if i have to work a little to help with bills or what not i will. she thought i was making a joke when i tolled her that to be a mother is the hightest calling that any women could have . she was like i work so i can get a way from my kids . that when i said that i think that is wrong with so many kids is that thay did not have a mom that was there to care for them and give them the love thay needed. they where so tired after working that they just did not care. now agen do get me wrong there are mom that can do both . but i know i could not.
i went on to tell her all i wont is me own house ,kids and a man that love me so mutch that he would wont me to stay home and care for his kids.

[simple]

...your nuts. But that is a Good Thing (TM). Because the more nuts you are (to the world) the more pleasing you will be to God. I hope you understand where I'm coming from.

I congradulate you on your momentous decision.

-simply a robot
got electric?

[hollikins84]

You go, girl! lol I sooo agree. People think that I'm nuts for not going to college, getting married, and having a baby. But this is what I WANT to do. I WANT to stay home, clean house, take care of baby, and have supper on the table for my husband. I WANT to be what the world calls boring.

I'm sure that I have a lot of family and aquaintances who think I'm wasting my life. Well, if this is wasting my life, then I can't wait to waste the rest of it!!!

[Sara]

I agree with all of you!!! I can't wait to waste my life either! When i started college (not because i wanted too, but because i had to) i realized that what i wanted to do for the rest of my life was not study, go to school, work, but be a mom. THAT is to me the most wonderful thing on planet earth. I can't wait to be one!!! We need more moms like those that stay home and live for their family. I want to be one of those. It's a great thing to be a Christian! The world may not understand the greatness of it, but eh, who cares! =) You be a mom Embee, i'll be one too, (just like holly!!!) and then when we get to heaven we can talk about all the wonderful time we wasted! AND the wonderful kids we raised in the Lord. Maybe when that lady who got away from her children through work can talk about her time and her kids with, well, with whoever she ends up with in eternity!!!! :rolleyes: (just kidding!!! :D )

*Sara

[Bekah]

I know where you are coming form hollie,
my aunt is on me all the time why don't you go to
collage? when are you going to go to collage???
all i want is to be a good wife to my husband
and good mama to my baby! My sister graduated
sat. and my aunt told her you need to go to collage!!
(witch she is) but i was like could you chill
and let us make up our own mind's LoL

[Shelleigh]

I agree with everyone totally....and man I thought I was the only one who felt that way anymore. Not that I am married or anything yet, but I worked one job just before I finished high school, and my main manager there drove me nuts about going to college and getting a "real job". Her whole family had money dripping off of them, because they had went to college, one was a bank executive, one a diamond and gold such and such, and the list went on. I finally quit my job because I knew I wasn't going to enroll in college at all or for a few years at least, and I didn't want to have her harrassing me every day I went to work. I would always think, what is wrong with just being a mom when I get married and have kids. :confused: I always thought that the guy (husband) was supposed to be the breadwinner, and if bills were too high then I would go out and help. I want to stay home and live with my kids, like my mom always did with us. Well I am glad y'all feel the same way I do!! :D

[marichino_freedom]

sheesh....it's hard for me to feel like that. I'm in college now (my third year) and some day i would like to have a family....but it's hard for me to not think of my "career" as a veteranarian. i love animals so much and thats what i want SO BADLY is to be able to take care of them.....but i like kids too. It's very hard for me to accept the fact that some day i will have to take care of children....it makes me sad sometimes to think of sacrifices i have to make (either sacrifice a family and pursue my dream, or sacrifice my dream for a family....a dream for a dream)

mary

:fencing:

[collegegirl]

I would love to go through school, and get a good job and such, but I think that when it comes down to it, I would much rather raise a family. Until I get married, I will continue on in school.

[blessed]

I think being a vet is not that bad, u can have a family and keep your job..like a home practice or something

[collegegirl]

Very true. I could do catering on the side if I wanted to. I could still stay at home, but yet do what I like to do.

[marichino_freedom]

yeah, ive been thinking a lot about that...i mean, i love kids and would love to have them, and if a i had a home practice, they could "help mommy" work....i guess thats just one way to think about it

[blessed]

pray on it i am sure the Lord will work out something

[marichino_freedom]

you betcha!

[Unregistered]

When I got out of highschool I went to college, there was no guy in my life at the time and I was not in the message either. I met my husband, converted, got married and continued school. I wanted to drop out, but since I was halfway through and in debt I had to finish. A number of different Men in the message looked down on the fact that I was in school. Now I'm out of school, with a degree, raising my beautiful baby girl, just like I wanted to be when I got married, only it took 3 years to get here.

What ever you do just make sure it's God's will for you life and things will turn out great.

God bless,
Vanessa

[blessed]

What ever you do just make sure it's God's will for you life and things will turn out great.
God bless,
Vanessa
i totally agree with that as long as it is God's will everything will turn out ok

[All4Jesus]

if God's permits i want to have as many children as possible. Even 14!

[All4Jesus]

well i need to get married first (to a very godly man who loves children) when the time comes and with God's will

[blessed]

if God's permits i want to have as many children as possible. Even 14!

FOURTEEN???????? I WOULD LIKE TO BELIEVE THAT IS A TYPO

[All4Jesus]

No! I mean it :)

[Babyruth]

What are you thinking???????????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!! 14 is way too many!!!!!! If you had that many, you wouldn't be able to take care of them all and give them the attention they each deserve.

[blessed]

do u have any experience in raising kids all4jesus cause i have and its not easy, now its so much different from long ago.....its really diffficult to raise kids now apart from being expensive, kids have so much to go through you need to give them alot of attention and with fourteen i think that may be a bit difficult

[All4Jesus]

Oh I would be able to do it by the grace of God. I saw a t.v program on discovery health about a woman who had fourteen kids and one on the way. She was christian as well. She had time for all of them and the household was so organised. I was just like o I want that. If I raise them in a good gogly way they won't be that much trouble. I would spend 2h each day teaching them about God. I would home school them so that they don't meet the worldly ppl. I can do it with God!!!! :) It would be very hard but it will be fun

[vpiper]

All4Jesus, That sounds like a great plan, a friend of mine's sister is working on number 13 right now. I hope God blesses you with the patience.

Homeschool them so they don't meet worldly people? I believe that homeschooling could be the way to go, but you can't shelter them their whole lives. may be homeschool them so they can learn to live in the world with worldly people, but still be as Godly as they should be. I would want to do anything to cause them to feel the need to rebel

[All4Jesus]

Thank you sis for the great advice. :) I hope that if I can teach them about God when they are still young, be prayerful with them and read the spoken word-they will grow up repending their lives to God and following His rules that they wont need me to watch or tell them what to or not to do. Hopefully they'll know this they can or can't do from reading the spoken words, bible and asking. Yes, maybe when they go into the world for school or work it wont be easy but at least they will be going the right way from a godly family. But I will not force them to follow God-it must be their choice but i'll do my best to lead them the right way.

[vpiper]

I'm sure you will do a good job, but getting that Godly husband is the first right step.

[blessed]

getting that Godly husband is the first right step.
:D how old are u all4jesus

[All4Jesus]

hmmm......15 years old!!!!!!! Ye i know i've got a long way to go :)

[blessed]

:D are u in school

[All4Jesus]

yep!!!!! Still at school

[Babyruth]

Stay at it. I think once you get married a have some children, you probably won't want 14. If you do, then good for you and I hope you have the patience for them all!

[blessed]

:rofl: im sure after the first three she will change her mind :D

[vpiper]

yeah well 15 is young, I know some people get married that young, but I believe it's better not. At 15 I thought I wouldn't get married or have any babies.

[All4Jesus]

I want to get married at about 23-25. If God permits. I don't want to rush things. I can wait for as long God wants me to. I'm just gonna stay clean and keep worshiping my God. I want to be a dentist when I grow up so I must work hard in school.

[vpiper]

dentist? I couldn't do that, getting into people's mouths,

I know one thing for sure you will not have time for your practice and 15 kids

[blessed]

unless her kids are her clients :D

[All4Jesus]

hmm....yes! I didn't think of that :think:

[marichino_freedom]

14 kids is an awful lot, but a cousin of mine adopted a baby boy from a crack head woman (litterally) who is now working on her 17th child (yes thats right, 17th). He truly was a miracle baby though....when he was born, there was just enough drug in him to be taken away from his mother (i know that sounds crazy, but he wouldnt have been well off with her...and besides, my cousins wanted another child sooo badly). the first few weeks he went through some terrible withdrawls, but now, he is about 10, smart, and loves God....he never would have known him if it werent for my cousins..

[Babyruth]

That is amazing!!!!! That's wonderful that he is ok! People like his birth mother should not be able to have kids. There are things they can do to her, the state or government, and should. She should not be able to have kids that are going to be disadvantaged like that. But, it's a blessing that one can be saved!

[All4Jesus]

ok, yes it's an awful lot. So i'll want from 1-6 kids. I've come to my senses

[marichino_freedom]

Thats good to hear....as for his birth mother, the government (i think) tried to get her to tie her tubes, but she refuses....

[blessed]

Thats sad...but thank God at least one was saved by a good family...what about the others

[marichino_freedom]

I'm not entirely sure...I know some of the others got adopted. but Isaac (my cousins son) asks why his real mom didnt want him...so my cousins just tell him that God created him especially for them and that his birth mother was very sick...which is true. you have to have some sort of sickness to live that kind of life

[Babyruth]

I think the government can make her have that surgery. I know they did with a woman near where I live.

[marichino_freedom]

I have no idea why they havent, then.

[Babyruth]

Me either. :think:

[collegegirl]

That is wonderful that they were able to get the baby. Sometimes children that are born to people who do drugs have severe problems. It is a miracle that he doesn't have anything wrong with him.

[blessed]

It really is a miracle, most kids born in that condition usually have some sort of defect or abnormality

[All4Jesus]

Yes that's true. Where I live in Kent it's terrible. I don't even know how to explain it. The other day we had a woman dumb her baby in the letter box just after the baby was born. :confused: How so cruel.Poor child. Anyway we live near the sea so many drugs and things like that get to our place very fast and easily. My school friends(used to be-a very long time ago) which I have tried to help and tell about the message are only 15 but they have taken cocaine, dope, skunk and weed. One of them was in prison at the age of ten. They have very difficult family lives. You must be wondering how I could have once caught the train with them but my whole class except me and my best friend who is chinese (sam would love this!) don't take drugs, mess about and don't smoke. I was always feeling guilty watching them drinking vodka every morning as we caught the train to school together. That was before they started getting reli serious and I had to just stop. And what on earth am I doing hanging around with ppl who take drugs and have s*x at such a young age. It's not safe to catch the train on your own espeacially when you are a girl. The skirts they wear are so short-it's like a belt!!!!!! I did not want anything to do with these girls at all so I told my parents and they told me to catch the train in a place where it's crowded and on my own. The whole community is horrible espeacially the woman. DISCRACEFUL!!!!! I can't even think of a word that could describe such filthyness. They have children and just take them to foster homes and reli ignore them.

That was long!!!!! VERY LONG :D

[vpiper]

all4jesus-That's really too bad. Sounds like my friends from junior high school(7-8 grade). my best friend at the time didn't want to go to high school a virgin and in High school she was going to sleep with all the virgins she could find. She was pretty messed up, her mom was Wicken, anyway.

I'm proud of you for staying pure. hang in there, there are lots of people out there that are staying clean too. Keep your head up.

[blessed]

what's a wicken

[marichino_freedom]

i used to have a couple of friends who were wiccan...now i realise that that wasnt the best choice for me to be hanging around them. wiccans are into "father sun", "mother earth", nature-stuff. they also practice "witchcraft". not exactly the people i want to hang around anymore.

[blessed]

im really happy for you marichino, that the Lord brought you to his truth

[vpiper]

wicken is really spelled wiccan I guess, I wouldn't know, but Mary is right, not something you want to get into

[marichino_freedom]

no, even then, i was uncomfortable around them when they would talk about it. one even tried to give me a "spell book", but i threw it away when i got home.

scary stuff

[vpiper]

I don't think that she thought you(mary) was into that stuff, but being around it is not good, I'm glad we both cam,e to the truth :)

[marichino_freedom]

absolutely...i have no contact with those people (even though one "claimed" to be best friends with me at one point)

[blessed]

it is good to stay away from them, cause they have opened up themselves to be tools in the hands of the devil and you don't want to be around that

[marichino_freedom]

absolutely. i remember this one time during a play rehersal, a couple of people decided to "call the corners" to get rid of the so-called ghost, Gus, they thought haunted the theatre....it kindof creeped me out that they did that. thinking back on it, if i would have been there today i would have been terrified (but, i would've had more sense to leave than to stay and compromise myself for devil's play.