Becoming A Celebrity (or "getting your parents to treat you right")

[editor]

Every other Friday, our pastor, Bro Paul LaFontaine, takes an evening for a youth bible study. This Friday's was on respect. Bro. Paul went into talking about how as young people, we many times aren't treating as the adults we would like to be - especially by our parents.

He went further and said that to receive respect, we must render respect. He then gave us a few examples, such as smiling, treating people like you are glad they're there and just generally making them feel good. He denounced attitude of speaking to people in pasing or greeting like we don't really care (ex "hey, wazzup? better ex: Hey! How are you! Good to see you!)

At the end of the meeting Bro. Paul challenged us to give this kind of honor to our parents for one week and see what transpires. I'm gonna try it and see what transpires. Wish me luck and I'll let you know how it works!

[hollikins84]

That's great advice. It's funny, but I already do a lot of that stuff. I think it's because I'm in a gospel group, and you can't greet strangers like you would your best friend. (Especially if the strangers are about 3 times as old as your BF!)

[editor]

...I'm gonna try it and see what transpires. Wish me luck and I'll let you know how it works!

Yeah, this is gonna take some practice! :rolleyes:

[simple]

After your parents -- try talking to a stranger. After that approach
someone in the church you have not developed a relationship with.
Break the comfort zone. Beat it down and it will never come back!

-simple

[collegegirl]

When I talk to strangers, I will usually use a "hello, how are you?" When I use wazzup, it is usually what's up, and it is with my closest friends, or used politely. (believe it or not, there is a polite way to use it.) Basically, if you want to get treated a certain way, then you need to treat others that way, and that is Biblical. It's called the Golden Rule, and it works.

[blessed]

I think im close to mastering the art of being polite, so i say Hello, how are u Lord Bless u, enjoy the rest of your day, and in my mind im like oh my mouth hurts from smiling this long :D.

But really when i meet strangers especially other believer im at lost for words, after the opening of Lord bless u,where do u fellowship

[JoeC]

yeah. there's a bunch of pointers people give to start a conversation going - but in the end it all comes down to skill. Some people have it and others have to go the hard way by starting from nuthin' and developing the skill. Make for a lot of embarassing moments :( - but I think I'm getting better at it. :)

[collegegirl]

Okay, I think I am known for sticking my foot in my mouth, but I try to talk to them as though I have known them for a little while. I just try to be friendly. (True though, it is easier to talk to complete strangers than it is to talk to other believers.)

[blessed]

i think i need to spend less time in front the computer and more time with people that should improve my communication skills

[collegegirl]

Well sometimes communication with others you can't see is also an important factor in developing good communication skills. Like talking on the telephone. I severly dislike leaving messages on a voice mail or answering machine. :mad:

[NeedGod]

oh dear, i am doing mass communication as a major so if i spend any more time with you i will be doomed. i talk to strangers like we have known each other for ages but i mostly encourage them to talk about themselves more than i do. this helps me learn them. i just ask drawing out questions.

[blessed]

yes but when you don't how will ppl know that u called....i keep telling my friends that leave a message i will not be able to answer the phone all the time

[NeedGod]

yeah, well, that makes sense too. i guess. :think:

[snowwhitedove]

Every other Friday, our pastor, Bro Paul LaFontaine, takes an evening for a youth bible study. This Friday's was on respect. Bro. Paul went into talking about how as young people, we many times aren't treating as the adults we would like to be - especially by our parents.

He went further and said that to receive respect, we must render respect. He then gave us a few examples, such as smiling, treating people like you are glad they're there and just generally making them feel good. He denounced attitude of speaking to people in pasing or greeting like we don't really care (ex "hey, wazzup? better ex: Hey! How are you! Good to see you!)

At the end of the meeting Bro. Paul challenged us to give this kind of honor to our parents for one week and see what transpires. I'm gonna try it and see what transpires. Wish me luck and I'll let you know how it works!
I agree with what Bro. Paul Lafontaine says. In order to receive respect, we must render respect. I already see the affects of that in my 3 yr. old. Even as a 3 year old, they deserve respect. I take time to answer all her "But why mommy - whhyy???" I let her do everything she is capable of doing and if I don't think she is capable of doing whatever it is, I atleast let her try and this is how they learn. I smile at her alot, and let her help me in the kitchen, or whatever it is I am doing. She is always "tagging along" and I love it! In return.. she gives me many smiles, hugs, kisses and " I LOVE YOU MOMMY" - which is the BEST REWARD a mother can get on this earth.

Trying it with your parents will truly bring your relationship a long way - in the right way. A smile alone goes a LONG way! BUT - I must say, I have learned my lesson at smiling at the "elderly" single men. UNLESS, they have an elderly lady with them. (the you're safe)... I was at the grocery store a few days ago, and I smiled at an elderly man out of politeness (as usual) - as he was going by. BIG mistake. He was down every isle, watching me and trying to make eye contact, all the while smiling from ear to ear! eeekk. Needless to say - I was never done grocery shopping so fast!

Welp - must go knead my bread again - God Bless you all!

[alesha19]

oh dear, i am doing mass communication as a major so if i spend any more time with you i will be doomed. i talk to strangers like we have known each other for ages but i mostly encourage them to talk about themselves more than i do. this helps me learn them. i just ask drawing out questions.
I do the same thing!! I am an extrovert, and I really enjoy talking to people for the first time. It helps to keep people talking if you seem interested in what they are saying. Like saying more than, "Oh, yeah." "ok" I think people really appreciate it if you will actually listen to them, you know?

[jtucker]

i hate talking on the phone and am a huge introvert when at home but a huge extrovert when at church or doing something with friends,

[joris]

I thought introvert/extrovert were really character things, not things to change by the hour? :confused:
sorry if this sounds dumb - I mean it anyway :D

[jtucker]

well yes it's a type of character but it can also be a type of mood one is in.

[joris]

who is more extrovert, a introvert girl with a extrovert mood, or a extrovert guy with a introvert mood? :)

[Angelo]

none, but the extrovert guy with the extrovert mood after an introvert mood? I think.:)

[NeedGod]

this is confusing :misli:
i am both introvert and extrovert. i am an extrovert in church mostly and in school(although this is going down). i think i am mostly an extrovert than an introvert but it all depends.

[joris]

I'm very introvert :sad:

[joris]

none, but the extrovert guy with the extrovert mood after an introvert mood? I think.:)that's for sure ;)

[jtucker]

i've found myself withdrawing from thing alot lately, for about the past 3 months or so i have just been shutting myself in form the world!

[joris]

i've found myself withdrawing from thing alot lately, for about the past 3 months or so i have just been shutting myself in form the world!as long as you have enough contact with christians, that shouldn't be too much of a problem I think?
hmm, speaking of that, I could have some more contact... I find that not so easy though :(

[jtucker]

well here's my e-mail if you ever want to talk and i'm sure if you talk to your youth group at church you will find doors open up! and stay in prayer most importantly!

sahmihd002@yahoo.com

this e-mail address is open to anyone within good reasons
please no forwards nor chain letters
i would suggest you go to your pastor first before you come to me for anything. but i am here if you need encouragement or mayeb a little e-mail fellowship!
and keep it Godly

[marichino_freedom]

i'm pretty extroverted, but sometimes i must force myself to be friendly and outgoing....sometimes there are situations that make me uncomfortable, no matter how innocent they are.

[jtucker]

i'm finding more and more i just want to be alone, because that's when i love to sing praises and glory to God and read mybible and get in touch with the almighty

[God'schild]

When I talk to strangers, I will usually use a "hello, how are you?" When I use wazzup, it is usually what's up, and it is with my closest friends, or used politely. (believe it or not, there is a polite way to use it.) Basically, if you want to get treated a certain way, then you need to treat others that way, and that is Biblical. It's called the Golden Rule, and it works.

Amen!!!!!

"DO UNTO OTHER AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DONE TO YOU"
If we treat people with respect people will treat us with respect.

[God'schild]

i'm finding more and more i just want to be alone, because that's when i love to sing praises and glory to God and read mybible and get in touch with the almighty

I love beinging alone, that's when i get close to God that's when i block everything out and just concentrate on God.

Some People is that it's not good beinging alone but i have to disagree. It may be true in some cases but in mine it's different.

When i'm alone is the best time i have with God.

[already bought]

it depends on your reason for being alone

[joris]

title --> sometimes (often?) I feel like, why would I even bother trying to be open/friendly/nice to parents, they make me feel miserable all the time anyway :012:

[Angelo]

That's difficult, but if you want to be blessed and have good days, you'll do right. :)

[already bought]

title --> sometimes (often?) I feel like, why would I even bother trying to be open/friendly/nice to parents, they make me feel miserable all the time anyway :012:

Why do they make you feel that way??

[jtucker]

we will pray fr you Brother Joris, when God comes on the scene all things change

[God'schild]

we will pray fr you Brother Joris, when God comes on the scene all things change

Amen that is so true that God changes the situation when he comes on the scene

And Joris i will be praying for you........

[AgapZoe]

sure thing God's Child...........

[Angellica]

Amen!!!!!

"DO UNTO OTHER AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DONE TO YOU"
If we treat people with respect people will treat us with respect.

Oh, I really do this a lot till I think "why can't other people treat me the way I do to them?" I am a kind of extrovert and feel real at ease with anyone!;-) I treat strangers as if they were friends! And since It takes me very few muscles to smile, I'm always smiling!:D

This other day I had a row with a class mate, when I was still in school. Well, they wanted me to reach a point where I'd go like "Hey, just leave me alone." or something rude. But I defeated them by smiling all the time, till they just left defeated!! With me well, noone finds trouble blending in! I like to make people feel they were "one in a million".

Talk about family, however, I am yet to learn this skill on them!! We are a kind of introvert group, at home. We have to force a conversation, you know what I mean? In short, we are bad communicators, alone!! But yet we talk when other people are around!;) We love each other and respect each other but we just can't get to talk like Family!!!:012: