A world of girls (and guys too)

[Christian-Samurai]

Now I dont claim to be any expert on girls mind you, But there is one thing that I have experinced. There is alot of girls out there, and I know you are thinking, well duh we knew that. But did you ever think about all those things you have mentioned in your dream girl?? When you start looking, I bet you that alot of you will meet many many girls who seem to have many of the things you have been seeking. So one of the big questions is, if you have 2 (or more) girls that have the exact qualities you are looking for what makes you choose one over the other??

Many guys date a bunch of girls who all seem to have the main things that they have been looking for till they find that one match that seems to connect with them. while yet others just go with the first one they find that matches the most about of items on their check list. Annnd yet others just quickly choose one cause they have no other to choose from?? I am sure there are other ways to mention but these are some of the few that I have seen.

Now along my own path, I was looking for a series of things that needed to be. It would take to long to go over them all but the one thing that always sticks in my mind is, some of the older sisters I know have asked me, "what is wrong with American girls." LOL, it always makes me laugh when I think of this question. The sisters were always asking me what it was that I looking for in a girl that I couldnt find one in the States. They would say, there are many nice sisters here and I am sure you can probibly find one that looks oriental here also. And when you think about this logic, it is clearly true, So what was it about Hui that made her different? What was it about her that made her stand out when she was so many miles away in china, when the US had Ladies that I am sure could match many of the items on my "dream girl" list.

[Christian-Samurai]

In my journey I have met many many wonderful sisters. Some I have to admit had caught my eye and did make me start to wonder. But in my heart there was something that was still missing. It is in my nature to be someone who many people can get along with very well, and If I had that one sister here that met the things I was seeking, I am sure I could have worked well with her. However, I wouldn't want to do that to her. I don't think it would have been fair to either one of us. So I kept seeking what was in my heart to find. And it is my belief that I have found what I was seeking. Yet I cant clearly give you a clear answer to what makes her stand out among the many other wonderful sisters other than this.

When I was seeking, I did alot of praying. I knew what I was looking for and so I prayed and prayed that God would help me find what was in my heart to find. I wanted also to make sure that it wasn't just my will but also God's will to help me find the right answer. God has many lovely sons and daughters, so he truely would know better than I what would be right for me. Even if I could not see it clearly at first. I can admit I did stumble here and there at times trying to make sure I was following the right path to the one I was seeking, But God was the one who made sure I was going the right way. Knowing how important the role of marriage is in our faith, it is a step that one can not take lightly. And so even though sometimes the person next to you might seem like they match the list, you must make sure you ask God to help you on that path. Because as good and kind and wonderful as that girl you are looking at maybe, putting God's will first, will make sure she is the one for you.

As "easy" (not saying that is THAT easy) it might have been to find a "list matcher" amung those in the US. God knew what was truly in my heart, Because I included him in every step I took and ever desision I made. And it is my belief that God has lead me to the one that Fits my list and my heart and that one thing makes her stand out amung the rest.

It is my hope that you can look beyond your idea of your dream girls, even if they seems out of reach, to where God has that special someone for you. But I hope that you never give up hope on finding her also. Because as much of a "dream" as she might be, God knows your heart and he knows your wants and needs. He would not place you with the one that wasnt right for you. That is something we do ourselves when we dont listen to what God is telling our heart. He allows it to happen to teach us sometimes.

Always remember to put God first in your search and You will find that dream girl that you seek. Even if it takes a while.

[All4Jesus]

Amen to that brother. I am going to pray to God to lead me all the way till i'll come to that stage when someone can choose you as that someone special. I don't want to rush things though as God is my life. He will take care of everything. I get so much pressure from my friends u know just to forget God and just go and enjoy the worldly things. But I can't leave Him. He's done so much things in life even though i'm 15. I'd rather have no friends at all but have the spirit of my God burn in my heart. You reli deserve Hui and may God bless you lots and lots and lots x1000000
You are so sweet :) :) :)

[collegegirl]

Well, Bro. Barry said that if God is put first, then He will lead you to the right one. He has the perfect match for you, and if you let Him lead you, He will get you the right one. I am waiting for that, and in the meantime I am going to make myself ready for when that happens.

[blessed]

i do believe if you put God first he will lead you to the one he has for you and that is most important because if you rush you will end up in a lot of trouble

[HotShot53]

Yeah, waiting till God shows me the right one before I really persue anyone is what I'm trying to do... I saw my older brother go out with one girl for a year, then a different one for a couple months, etc etc, and someone's heart was always getting broken.... and that's not something I want to go through or put others through.

So for the married ones out there... how did God show you that your spouse was the right one for you?

[JoeC]

When you start looking, I bet you that alot of you will meet many many girls who seem to have many of the things you have been seeking. So one of the big questions is, if you have 2 (or more) girls that have the exact qualities you are looking for what makes you choose one over the other??

Many guys date a bunch of girls who all seem to have the main things that they have been looking for till they find that one match that seems to connect with them. while yet others just go with the first one they find that matches the most about of items on their check list. Annnd yet others just quickly choose one cause they have no other to choose from?? I am sure there are other ways to mention but these are some of the few that I have seen.

Check out Tommy Lewis' blog at http://www.xanga.com/TommyLewis1425. Read the 12/21/05 post.

[Christian-Samurai]

LOL well thats another way of saying lol, although their last part i dont fully agree with though lol cause if you calculate the odds of you matching up with the "memory" of your love on the first shot, I'd say the odds are pretty good :D they make it sound like you have to match up with many ppl to remap your memory of what your true love really is, but whos not to say that if what they were talking about in the first part was true about having the hidden love memory, that your "memory" of love cant be fully bring back the realization of your true love with the sight of but one person :D hmmm lol

[HotShot53]

That was an interesting post of Tommy's... I was considering putting it here but never quite did. It half makes sense, too....

[simple]

So for the married ones out there... how did God show you that your spouse was the right one for you?

he shows your over time with much prayer, mix in your parents advice, a dab of pastor wisdom and spurce it up with Bro Barry Tidbits.
then subtle hints...then you get neutral...then you made the "mistake"...LOL

sometime after your married you get the BOMB SHELL. "Is *this* the right one?" "It can't be." [insert devil thoughts] "It just can't." "All message believers leave the toothpaste cap on..."

I think that is why Bro Branham talked about your marriage tie post == LOVE.
Remembering why you got married.

[JoeC]

thank you for those revealing insights :-)

[NeedGod]

amen to these brothers. i think i will have to show this site to the youth in our church. this topic always comes up in youth meetings. :worthy:

[Christian-Samurai]

There are sometimes we can be serious about things, but if you are serious all the time then it makes me wonder where the love is in your heart, need to let out the joy and happiess that God has provided for us :) not good to be so serious all the time thats why this board is so much fun lol we get a chance to share our love of God and one another and have some fun :)

[NeedGod]

amen to that too samurai. amen to that too

[collegegirl]

Those are all very interesting comments and observations to ponder.....

[NeedGod]

and i also think samurai that if we cant joke around with people who are like us, we have no business joking around with people out there. we are brethren. i love you all

[fredmaina]

i totally agree with you namwacha!!!!!!!!!

[God'schild]

did you know that it is harder to find a HOLY GHOST filled girl in the world today.. There are so many pressures and things pointed toward the girls and how they have to dress and stuff that it is hard to find a HOLY GHOST filled girl..

Guy/Girls be very careful who you date in the message make sure you get a Holy Ghost filled mate.. because if you don't your marriage will be Hell on earth.

And pray before you marry your mate make sure they Want the Leading of God in their lives.. Make sure they beleive what you believe.. Don't marry unequally yoked.

[AlanaH]

So true.....good point there!

[HotShot53]

did you know that it is harder to find a HOLY GHOST filled girl in the world today.. There are so many pressures and things pointed toward the girls and how they have to dress and stuff that it is hard to find a HOLY GHOST filled girl..

Guy/Girls be very careful who you date in the message make sure you get a Holy Ghost filled mate.. because if you don't your marriage will be Hell on earth.

And pray before you marry your mate make sure they Want the Leading of God in their lives.. Make sure they beleive what you believe.. Don't marry unequally yoked.

Lol, Girls aren't the only ones who have pressures... and it's easier to immitate being a good Christian while being a guy, cause you don't have the things like dress and hair to set you apart. So girls have to be careful too ;)

[blessed]

I think girls can be more fooled than guys when it comes to that hotshot.

[HotShot53]

I think girls can be more fooled than guys when it comes to that hotshot.

Umm... I think that's what I said... unless you meant that girls can fool others more than guys....

[God'schild]

i think we all know how careful us girls have to be, but the guys don't have as many pressures that the girls do..( at least that's the way it seems for me). i could be wrong.. so if i'm wrong please forgive me.

[God'schild]

girls can get decieved 10 times more then guys can.. women got decieved(sp?) at the beinging of time, so there fore it is easier for the women to get decieved(sp?) then the man..

[SisTrev]

how do you mean that girls get decieved 10 x's more than guys? I just dont understand where you are getting this figure from...

[God'schild]

who fell at the beinging?? who did the devil come to at the beinging?? Eve right?? well eve fell frist then adam did..

it's sorta hard to explain, i'm not good at explaining things
sorry please forgive me.

[Philippe]

how do you mean that girls get decieved 10 x's more than guys? I just dont understand where you are getting this figure from...

ADOPTION.4_ JEFF.IN AD.PT.4 SUNDAY_ 60-0522E
135 And you women, Hmm. Devil's just made a... That's what he did in the beginning, and he certainly has made a target out of you sisters. He just does that just to... 'Cause he knows what he can do. He can deceive a woman a thousand times quicker than a man. I know that hurts your feelings, but that's the truth. That's exactly. That's what he done in the garden of Eden. He can make... Now, she was honest; she was sincere, but she was deceived. "Adam was not deceived," the Bible said. He wasn't deceived, but she was deceived. So he can deceive her. And yet pastors will go right out and ordain women preachers, put them out over flongre--congregations like that, and this Bible condemns it from Genesis to Revelation. You say, "Well, it's all right. It's all right. They got... They can preach just the same as any." I know that's right.

[BroTrevor]

wow...

Phillipe... welcome back man. Don't be such a stranger...

I knew the principle was there, but didn't know of the quote.

[joris]

He can deceive a woman a thousand times quicker than a man.uhm; now that's a statement; any bible text to back it up?

[SisTrev]

thanks phillipe for clearing that up for me...

God's child...i know what you're saying about the woman falling first and getting tempted more....i just wasn't sure where you got the 10x's thing. But i see it now...thanks...hope i didn't offend you with my question.

[God'schild]

thanks phillipe for clearing that up for me...

God's child...i know what you're saying about the woman falling first and getting tempted more....i just wasn't sure where you got the 10x's thing. But i see it now...thanks...hope i didn't offend you with my question.

no offence taken...

[God'schild]

thank you phillipe(sp?) for finding the quote...

[AlanaH]

Even though it's true, it's still <gulp> a tough one....;)

[Anna]

Yikes!!! Better stay in prayer for us women, brothers. No wonder it seems like every where I turn somethings pulling at me...
Ok it's time to sick that Devil.

*grrrrrrr

:tank:

[already bought]

hey I know I haven't posted or like an eon but here it goes again.

Girls can so be decived more 1000 time's more then a guy. I know that was already stated. And you know knowing that makes me glad that I can say God you saved me. I don't know where I would be if He hadn't given me the strength to stand. To not be luled in to something, to not just date becasue to date.

But I don't really care what guys think. I mean I do what I do becuase I try to please God not guys. I think personaly maybe we try to get attention from guys or guys from girls but dose that really matter. I mean all that really matter should be what God thinks of us. Don't worry about every one eles opoinoe of you. Like really if God love you and care's about you enough to save you and predestate and to marrie you, give you a home in the sky. Can't we also then expect Him to find the right one for us. I mean we got to do something to.

Sometimes I wonder if guys are scared of rejection. Maybe this has nothing to do with this whole topic but any way. Some times I wonder if guys wait so long because of fear. And well as a girl most don't care how much money you have...... And whats mor is there is never going to be the perfect time to get a girl. There's always going to be something eles. I'm not saying rush in to something no but pray and move. Its like puting a shell in a gun. You don't know if its going to fire but you just pull the triger. If it don't fire you just get a differnt bulet. See so don't be scared to pull the triger because if you don't your never going to hit the target.
Any way sorry for rambling. I guess I do that enoguh

[joris]

Girls can so be decived more 1000 time's more then a guy. I know that was already stated. And you know knowing that makes me glad that I can say God you saved me. I don't know where I would be if He hadn't given me the strength to stand. To not be luled in to something, to not just date becasue to date. Please don't take this wrong -- it's not my words -- but Branham is saying this about christians, even while you are saved you can be "deceived 1000 times more than a guy";
now -- no matter whether your guy or girl, if you're not yet christian there's no less than 100% chance you are deceivedSometimes I wonder if guys are scared of rejection.I definately am, and not just in the context of dating or such

btw glad to hear (uhm... see :)) you "rambling" again

[God'schild]

i sometimes wonder if guys have fears about marriage??

Yea girls are emontional and have wacked hormones, but in every little girl there is a dream of marriage..

my .2 cents worth.

[HotShot53]

Sometimes I wonder if guys are scared of rejection. Maybe this has nothing to do with this whole topic but any way. Some times I wonder if guys wait so long because of fear. And well as a girl most don't care how much money you have...... And whats mor is there is never going to be the perfect time to get a girl. There's always going to be something eles. I'm not saying rush in to something no but pray and move. Its like puting a shell in a gun. You don't know if its going to fire but you just pull the triger. If it don't fire you just get a differnt bulet. See so don't be scared to pull the triger because if you don't your never going to hit the target.
Any way sorry for rambling. I guess I do that enoguh

Lol, the preacher at the KY banquet last weekend said pretty much the same exact thing ;) However, as a guy, if I don't have at least some leading that some person I know may be "the one", than I'm not going to go trying to "pull the trigger" just to try it out ;)

[Philippe]

i sometimes wonder if guys have fears about marriage??


Maybe more a fears that a girl would answer no as it can really hurt a boy...


Yea girls are emontional and have wacked hormones, but in every little girl there is a dream of marriage..


And probably also in every boy too...

And even though every girl would like to get married... It seems that sometimes girls cannot accept that "this" guy love her or cannot say yes to a boy... So both side have their fears.

[joris]

there isn't much of a "dream of marriage" in me;
(just some vague fears about if and if and if then what if...)

[Philippe]

And whats more is there is never going to be the perfect time to get a girl. There's always going to be something else. I'm not saying rush in to something no but pray and move. Its like puting a shell in a gun. You don't know if its going to fire but you just pull the triger. If it don't fire you just get a differnt bulet. See so don't be scared to pull the triger because if you don't your never going to hit the target.

Well as a boy we want the leading of the Lord in our life and we do pray about it... but sometime it seems that the Lord does not give a clear answer right away or when we thing we might have an answer from the Lord then the sister does not feel that way.

And well, it is hard to look somewhere else if you don't feel the Lord leading you that way particulary if no girls that you might like somehow have any interrest in you.

I knows a few sisters that are nice but I do not thing they were made for me and I don't see myself in them...

[already bought]

But I don't really care what guys think. I mean I do what I do becuase I try to please God not guys. I think personaly maybe we try to get attention from guys or guys from girls but dose that really matter. I mean all that really matter should be what God thinks of us. Don't worry about every one eles opoinoe of you. Like really if God love you and care's about you enough to save you and predestate and to marrie you, give you a home in the sky. Can't we also then expect Him to find the right one for us. I mean we got to do something to.

Sometimes I wonder if guys are scared of rejection. Maybe this has nothing to do with this whole topic but any way. Some times I wonder if guys wait so long because of fear. And well as a girl most don't care how much money you have...... And whats mor is there is never going to be the perfect time to get a girl. There's always going to be something eles. I'm not saying rush in to something no but pray and move. Its like puting a shell in a gun. You don't know if its going to fire but you just pull the triger. If it don't fire you just get a differnt bulet. See so don't be scared to pull the triger because if you don't your never going to hit the target.


OK so I'm quoting my self. I guess I should have made my self more clear. What I ment by pulling the triger is that you are intrested in a girl and you feel Gods leading yet your scared to. Well give it a try. Sorry I should have explained that better. Also Never go and try to find the right one on your own you'll most likly mess up.
If you scared of rejection and you do like this girl find out if she like's you by talking to her brother maybe sister or close friend that would know. And remember you can be a friend even if she's not intersted.

Remember always go with God.
Its always the Best way to go.
Even when it gose against every thing you know.
God's always right no matter what!!