The terrrifying exes

[NeedGod]

*shiver* I have a case of exes recently that God just helped me through. I had a case where several ex boyfriends resurfaced sudenly, all with the intention of taking up where we left off, including one who is already married. Um, kinda interesting, but now after its over, I can look back and say, eek, where did they all come from? Come on, fess up... Who sent them all a memo???
Just kidding. How many of you have situations like this???

[Nomes]

No, sorry, can't say I've been in that situation..

[AgapZoe]

Hm, Nomes, don't even try getting yourself there, it aint a great experience at all.
Now, it gets worse when some men decide that you are the only decent girl left on planet earth and so they are out to actually marry you! Hmph! 'shreek'
I had a bf* for less than a month, a few weeks after my high school and yea he's back to my life. Then in the campus am in, there's this guy who also has decided that coincidence just doesn't happen like that-my path with his crossing meant smth. And yea there's this neghbour, who happens to be a Kenyan international athlete and well, he too can't believe a decent girl, without earrings, with long skirts and natural hair still exists and so my path and his crossing meant that he is about to meet his mum's requirement of marrying a girl since he is getting old! And he offeres to buy me a whole kg of meat! I STAY ALONE! Ofcourse I couldn't tk it. I was from the evening fellowship-on my way home! Oh no! my life is in God's Hands, thank God. And yea,I have decided I will jst try my best to ignore them. And pray for them.
Then, been having this wierd dreams about a near ex, tho we didn't go out as such! lol
You see exes are a nuisance always! Unless of course you guys are meant to be or smth.

[redeemed]

lol AgapZoe....I've had problems with that recently....:ng_thumbd
it is terrible when someone, many times someone that is not even Christian, tries to become "friends" with you because you dress modestly and you don't constantly think...hmm...should I wear rose blush or pink blush,(no...I don't even know if those are blushes....I was just making up a couple because I don't wear them therefore don't know the names of them lol), lol, or other things, that was just one of the first examples that came to my mind.
Someone told me recently (not sure who...) that many times a guy will see someone that is dressed modestly and that it will actually attract him rather than turn him off because it is almost refreshing to see something besides skin.
I think that it was a study that I read (it could have just been an observation though) said that most men say that they would like to use the immodest girl but when it comes to marriage they want a modest girl...that could be another reason for guys getting "liking you," simply because you are modest.

[NeedGod]

I agree with you Redeemed. In the office I work in, they tell me the same, the guys I work with. They are fun to work with too. They always say its so refreshing to see a decent girl

[AgapZoe]

I think that it was a study that I read (it could have just been an observation though) said that most men say that they would like to use the immodest girl but when it comes to marriage they want a modest girl...that could be another reason for guys getting "liking you," simply because you are modest.
It's not only a study but a fact too.

[redeemed]

lol yeah that's the truth

[NeedGod]

well, I do not want them to like me. Lol. I would sooner have them like someone else. Guys liking you is too complicated. Gaaah! I wish people could be born with tags such that you know who you will marry before hand. Guys hitting on me is too taxing :)

[leahmb]

Ignore them all.................

[collegegirl]

well, I do not want them to like me. Lol. I would sooner have them like someone else. Guys liking you is too complicated. Gaaah! I wish people could be born with tags such that you know who you will marry before hand. Guys hitting on me is too taxing :)
:rofl:

Wouldn't THAT be nice...

[HotShot53]

:rofl:

Wouldn't THAT be nice...
Lol, for sure... it's no easier for the guy than the girl, you know... it's probably actually harder

[leahmb]

Lol, for sure... it's no easier for the guy than the girl, you know... it's probably actually harder

Good point! Thank you for the male imput on the subject...it's something we all have to deal with in someway or another...

[fredmaina]

actually i support hotshot. it is actually harder for the guys when a lady hits on them coz they are mostly not used to it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jezz]

And guys are just naturally dumber when it comes to love

[HotShot53]

And guys are just naturally dumber when it comes to love

No question there... girls spend their whole childhood studying it, while guys study how to blow stuff up instead ;)

[NeedGod]

Thankfully, there's an allowance for adult education, for those interested enough to want to learn it. Problem is, most guys want t jump in without an education

[Jezz]

But who will teach it?

[AgapZoe]

I have a Manual. :tongue: PM if you need it.

[NeedGod]

But who will teach it?
i'm the match maker. Of course I teach too. I give crash courses all the time. :lol:

[leahmb]

Note the 'CRASH' part :D




(sorry, I couldn't resist)

[NeedGod]

Are girls confusing? I'm begining to think so. And i'm a girl. I've gone and confused myself.
Anyhow, I pride myself in knowing when guys are interested in girls. I feel I can nearly always tell when a guy is interested in a girl. Only, I find when a guy directs the same kinda interest to me, i get super confused. So how do you know when a guy is interested in you? And why on earth is it that the right guy, one you'd actually like, is so confusing while the rest of them just come out and say it? I mean, I can always read through the interest of guys I really don't like, but when its a guy i like, same signs, but I can't read them like. Bah, i take that back, i'm not confusing. Guys are confusing.

[Jezz]

Are girls confusing? I'm begining to think so. And i'm a girl. I've gone and confused myself.
Anyhow, I pride myself in knowing when guys are interested in girls. I feel I can nearly always tell when a guy is interested in a girl. Only, I find when a guy directs the same kinda interest to me, i get super confused. So how do you know when a guy is interested in you? And why on earth is it that the right guy, one you'd actually like, is so confusing while the rest of them just come out and say it? I mean, I can always read through the interest of guys I really don't like, but when its a guy i like, same signs, but I can't read them like. Bah, i take that back, i'm not confusing. Guys are confusing.

The answer is simple:

When a guy likes you but you don't like him back you've no personal investment in the relationship... you stand to lose nothing, you don't stand to get hurt. Therefore you are able to think clearly and rationally about it.

When you however like the guy back you've become emotionally invested, there is now a lot more for you to lose should he not like you. So you over analyse what they say and do and get confused. Boy do I know what that is like :-p

So until this guy tells you explicity how he feels, then you'll be confused... and you may even get confused from time to time after that as well :-p

[joris]

Are girls confusing? I'm begining to think so. And i'm a girl. I've gone and confused myself.Most guys tend to say so - but that may well be exactly for the same reason ;)

[NeedGod]

So until this guy tells you explicity how he feels, then you'll be confused... and you may even get confused from time to time after that as well :-p
why don't i find that comforting?

[joris]

Esther, I think, you need His guidance, you need His rest.
-- Yea right, what an advice. I know
Still, try and pray and, share your heart with God, and try to have that time with Him together, and all that. In His rest the confusion will be less.

Wish I knew something to tell you, but I only know this, what you already knew anyway. Anyway, may God bless you and give you His rest above all understanding