Spiritualising Dating

[TimRick]

Ok,

Question:I gues these is something that happens commonly amongst believers.Well,ever heard of people who spritualise Dating and marriage so much till it looses lustre.Is these good honestly,
E.g. I have a buddie of mine who is a sister.And during her first times in meeting the brother out,she was told to carry the seven seals book.How good is that?The Married ones did thasame happen for you?
I know there are boundaries but spiritualising it so much just kills the whole romance thing.Owing to the fact that ladies need to be stimulated emotionally unless am getting it wrong.Some one tell why is that happening?Am open for correction.

[AgapZoe]

Ok,
E.g. I have a buddie of mine who is a sister.And during her first times in meeting the brother out,she was told to carry the seven seals book
Huh....................................? :confused:

[NeedGod]

Oh, I do not know, as believers, we need toput God in everything. That is true. However, I also feel that it would depend on the reasons the guy had for asking her to carry the book with her. Did he want to show off his spiritualness(because I have encountered a few who do) or did he honestly want to discuss the Seals with her. Was it a 'get to know you' date, or was it a bible study. If a guy is interested in me, I have to be honest and say, that I would love to discuss the message on a date. I have been in a relationship once where we used to discuss the message and it was lovely. The love of God just makes the love between two people sweeter. And I have to say, the thing missing in most relationships is God. With God, everything somehow glows more....
But some people just do it to appear spiritual. And this can be a problem.
Uh, I haven't realy got an opinion about your friend and the Seals book scenario, because I might judge too hastily.

[AgapZoe]

Yea, judging others is not our position I guess.
You see, as long as he wasn't showing off his spiritual prowess, I believe that was a good kick off. Maybe he was testing the lady anyhow. You see ... you really can't reach a conclusion about them and it's best if we do not talk about them.

BAck to the topic at hand: If only relationships were based on the Word, andGod was the main character in them...instead of some sweet words that get the girl emotionally thrown of guard and consequently leading to mis-judgement of the guy's character hence ending up with wrong mates- we'd have more solid marriages, based on the principless of the Word.
E.g, look at how our parents found their eternal mates! :)

[Megs]

wow that is interesting Timrick... definitley nothing i have heard of before... however i must say that a couple i admire quite a bit are VERY romantic, and at the same time VERY spiritual. He is pretty quiet ... and i didnt see much of them while they were dating, but i do know that they both have been known to sit in a small group and have prayer that lasts all day long. (That doesnt define being spiritual, but that was one of the things about them that had me super impressed.)

When I watched them together they were model believers. In public they kept respectful distance of eachother but you could tell when they looked at one another they were very much in love. He is very sweet, and she is also quite romantic, and while not everything they did was so blatantly involving the prophets message, their conduct was a reflection of christ by itself.

hmm what i am trying to say is the character of christ in the two individuals will sufficiently spiritualise a relationship. As christians you cant help talking about God, but as humans romance is VERY important in falling in love. one would think anyhow. lol. not that i would know from experience!!!

[BroTrevor]

For clarification, because I took this differently than some others did here.

Who told the girl to carry the seals book? Was it her parents? Or was it the guy that wanted to date her?

[shasta-daisy]

Ok,

Question:I gues these is something that happens commonly amongst believers.Well,ever heard of people who spritualise Dating and marriage so much till it looses lustre.Is these good honestly,
E.g. I have a buddie of mine who is a sister.And during her first times in meeting the brother out,she was told to carry the seven seals book.How good is that?The Married ones did thasame happen for you?
I know there are boundaries but spiritualising it so much just kills the whole romance thing.Owing to the fact that ladies need to be stimulated emotionally unless am getting it wrong.Some one tell why is that happening?Am open for correction.

Am I the only one that is really lost? Don't quite understand. ummm what? Explain.

[vpiper]

For clarification, because I took this differently than some others did here.

Who told the girl to carry the seals book? Was it her parents? Or was it the guy that wanted to date her?

I'm with you this is not clear.

and are they getting to know each other alone? cause groups are important