sibling fights

[babybride]

are we the only ones that fight like cat and dog? my sister and i. she 4years younger than me goes to a goverment school. has a mouth like a rattlesnake, we just had a fight. but i feel so bad about it yet its so her fault coz of how she talks. anybody got these problems?

[NeedGod]

I don't want to sound judgemental BabyBride, but i realised something about the fights i had with my siblings. It was always my fault because i answered back. Look, she may have the tongue of a rattle snake, but when you answer her back, you gain the rattlesnake tongue too. You're the same. She is probably on the thresholds of teenage and is suffering from hormonal changes. Bear with her. Be a good example to her by not answering back... Trust me, i've had my share of arguments, my share of fights, but i was to blame for everyone of them, cause i answered back when provoked... Try and understand... Bear with them. Be the fool, you'll end up looking wise. I learnt this lesson from the strangest place...from my younger brother. He rarely answers anyone back even when he's spitting angry. It works. The silence is a miracle. Just say sorry when you know you're right. Oh yeah, it works

[wwwjer2911]

That's good advice, NeedGod. Too often I am guilty of that same thing :peep:

[NeedGod]

Lol we're all guilty sometimes of that. But we have to start somewhere. Change is a one step at a time thing

[Jezz]

My family is very placid so we all got along very well together growing up, a few fights but they were few and far between , so I can't offer specific advice for dealing with siblings but I do have this advice:

You can only ever control yourself, you can never control other people. You do what is right because it is the right thing to do and let other people do what they want but you don't let your actions to be dictated by those other people. Always remember that other peoples sins are no excuse for your own.

Assigning blame also doesn't help alot, the minute you say "well its not my fault its their fault" you divorce yourself from doing what you can to fix the problem. Maybe they started it and maybe kept it up but if you did anything to make it worse you should acknowledge that first and correct your error.

[NeedGod]

Wow, thats lovely. A placid family... Thats what my family has become lately. But before, we all had boiling hot blood in our veins... And my dad is a gentle gentle man. I wonder where us kids got our ferociousness. Must be adolescence that was bothering us.

[Skirty]

I have been extremely blessed with my family... I can only remember one actual 'fight'. I don't think I have ever heard my mother yell at any of us.

There are of course difference of opinions that could easily turn into full blown 'episodes'... but my parents were always careful to teach us that discussing something is better than arguing about it, and thinking about something gets you alot further than yelling about it.

That's the only advice I can provide... before allowing yourself to get involved, no matter how unreasonable the other person is being, think of it from there side and think of the consequences.

[NeedGod]

Thats true Skirty, no matter how unreasonable the other side of the argument looks, if you look at it from their point of view, you're bound to see their reason for doing it

[Nomes]

Looks like i'm the odd one out..

Me and my sisters fight all the time.

Have been working on it.. When I get some results.. I'll try and give you some advice.

Right now.. I've got none.

[NeedGod]

Act like the fool

[EllyMae]

Growing up my brother and I fought all the time. :D

Even to this day we have disagreements.

As I'm the only Christian in my family, I feel very badly when losing the battle of "not giving in to arguments". Still something I'm working on. Thank God for His grace.

I think it's very important to not point fingers. Even if you did do the right thing, it won't make matters better if you put the blame on one person. The important this is, how can you all resolve it in a Christ-like manner?

[Nate]

I've never fought with my siblings. Ever.
I gave my sister a hug once.
I'm an awesome brother.

[NeedGod]

Like ever ever? Whew, way to go...although you need to do better in the hugging dept. One hug just won't do.

[EllyMae]

I've never fought with my siblings. Ever.
I gave my sister a hug once.
I'm an awesome brother.

Nate, I thought you were an only child? :D

[Nate]

I have four half-siblings. I've only met my sister once. I haven't met any of my brothers. They're in jail, last I heard.

[Noe]

I gave my sister a hug once.


lol....don't over do it ;)

I've only met my sister once

that explains why only once, although you could have given more than one in that meeting:rofl:

[NeedGod]

Actually you're a bad brother. You haven't been concerned about the welfare of your brothers enough to find out where they are. They're your brothers, no matter what they've done. Also, you've met your sister but not made an effort to get closer to her. One meeting is never enough. You need to make an effort, if the sibling story is indeed true...

[Babyruth]

I have four half-siblings. I've only met my sister once. I haven't met any of my brothers. They're in jail, last I heard.
My dad has 2 half-brothers. One he's never met, the other tried to choke him when my dad was a baby. He's 10 years older than my dad. Now, they have a great relationship, and he's a multi-millionaire+. Their family history is crazy.

[redeemed_lizzi]

Actually you're a bad brother. You haven't been concerned about the welfare of your brothers enough to find out where they are. They're your brothers, no matter what they've done. Also, you've met your sister but not made an effort to get closer to her. One meeting is never enough. You need to make an effort, if the sibling story is indeed true...

That is harsh. We have no idea of the situation with Nate's family, and I think to call him a bad brother is out of order (if the sibling story is true) and we have no right to judge. Sorry if this comes across strong, but I know all too well about dysfunctional families, and why sometimes people should be left to their own devices.
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I always fought with my brother and always thought it was his fault. As I grew older I reaslied that a lot of it was my fault. The one things I have learned to do, is to truely apologise when things are my fault. And even when it seems like it's not my fault, I try and be the first person to break the ice (being the elsdest is soo not fun sometimes) and apologise for my behaviour in the argument/fight. You know how married couples sometimes say that they try not to go to bed angry with each other, well I believe that should be our philosophy with our family.
Ephesians 4:26-27
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27 Neither give place to the devil.

[Nate]

Actually you're a bad brother. You haven't been concerned about the welfare of your brothers enough to find out where they are. They're your brothers, no matter what they've done. Also, you've met your sister but not made an effort to get closer to her. One meeting is never enough. You need to make an effort, if the sibling story is indeed true...

Thank you for jumping to conclusions and making hasty judgements about my personal life.
Why would I make this stuff up? Why are you calling me a liar?

I just deleted a huge post detailing my life story. It's not worth it. You aren't worth describing the dysfuntion that is my family.
Just send me an IM if you really feel like understanding where I'm coming from.
For the record, I'm really angry with you right now. I'll probably call you a few choice names before I get around to answering any of your questions. And yes, you deserve them at this point. The names. Not the answers.

[EllyMae]

Kids, quit acting like siblings! :D


In all seriousness...

I think, unless you know the person well, it's best to not make comments about their personal lives. So, lets all get along. :)

[Babyruth]

Kids, quit acting like siblings! :D


In all seriousness...

I think, unless you know the person well, it's best to not make comments about their personal lives. So, lets all get along. :)
True. It's also important to remember, not everyone is blessed with a Christian home or background. My dad wasn't and it's different for us, because we were raised in the Message and as Christians. Families differ country to country as well. In America, we have way different and difficult situations than other countries. We have cultural differences and familial differences. I'm sure no one meant to offend or be rude though. Try to keep that in mind, although I know it's tough with family issues.

[TommyLewis]

I am the oldest of six brothers...all within roughly ten years of each other...All of us are pretty much the stubborn, my way or no way, always right, alpha male types...Needless to say, we had our battles, from dirty looks to arguments to fist fights to rocks to the head...I like to say it is a miracle we all made it to adult-hood...We love each other though, we really do...and we have some great memories from growing up...and honestly, in retrospect even the fights make for funny stories...

[marichino_freedom]

i only have two older stepsisters.....one's 13 years older, one's 11 years older.

its tough sometimes.....they all think i'm crazy.....

and they dont ever call me. or invite me to do stuff.

sort of like cinderella....lol

[Noe]

i have always fought with my siblings although we have grown up a bit and don't fight, but me and my sis still have mega disagreements, she has a habit of going a bit to far with sarcassam. lol....anyone seen the clip of mark lowry 'momma's had enough'?? i think it's on youtube, well he says on there about his brother walked in to the room with a look on his face that said 'slap me', so he did. Both my sis' have that tempting look or speach that says 'slap me'. ;) it can be hard to resist temptation.....lol.
i don't argue with my bro's as i rarely see them now a days.
The younger ones fight a lot with each other

[NeedGod]

I'm sorry for what i said on Nate's post. I honestly thought he was joking. I did not realise the story was indeed true. I apologise. Although i hope you don't call me any, I deserve every name that you call me Nate. That was insensitive of me. I'll do anything to make amends, even if i have to leave the forums for a while to let it all rest. I did not mean to hurt anyone at all. That was a stupid insensitive thing to say but i did not say it to hurt anyone. I simply said it because i thought the story was just a story. I'm sorry. Please somehow find it in your heart to forgive me, although i definitely don't deserve it. And i would understand if you did not. Once again. I'm sorry

[leahmb]

Hmmm....I don't think my siblings and I 'fight,' per se, but we discuss loudly, but it's normally over with in a few minutes and we don't really hold grudges against each other. It probably was worse when we were younger, but I don't really remember any major ones. To the outsider it sounds like we argue alot, but I've decided our 'discussion' times are better than the people who have no communication with their families at all.

[Cherith F.]

Hhmmmmm.... Sibling rivalry huh? I have five siblings and we are quite hot headed and hot blooded. We do have a lot of *discussions* (which my Dad usually claims "You're fighting") Normally we are all (each one individually) *right* and everyone else is *wrong*. My brothers did alot of tusseling when they were younger but, one was usually laughing which made the other more upset. My sisters and I have got along quite well. We do have VERY LOUD discussions which can become quite heated but they are rare. For anyone with a bigger family you can catch this statement... We generally get along unless someone starts an arguement. There really are some families that always get along, I just don't know to many of them. Like the story on Odyssey, where Sam Johnson is *fighting* with his sister about whether or not he's going to join the choir. And the rest of us go ***huh????****

Despite everything growing up though, We really love each other.

It is true though.... This comes from experience. If you want to stop a arguement or verbal discussion or whatever, answer not again. I know it is hard... when someone says "The only reason your not saying anything is because you know you're wrong" Just state what you believe to be right *once* and then be quiet.

[HotShot53]

me and my siblings have always gotten along pretty good... both my sister and I have the quieter non-fighting temperament, so it's hard for either of us to get into fights, and my older and younger brother are 9 years apart in age, so they didn't have much to fight over. Besides, my older brother was always boss... whatever he said, went. That's what happens when the oldest is a boy and has the commanding personality...

[TommyLewis]

Besides, my older brother was always boss... whatever he said, went.

Hear, hear...

As a first child, I love this...haha...

[Babyruth]

Besides, my older brother was always boss... whatever he said, went.

Hear, hear...

As a first child, I love this...haha...
I'm the oldest child, but my siblings never listen to me. Unless I "help" them want to. :D

[TommyLewis]

I'm the oldest child, but my siblings never listen to me. Unless I "help" them want to. :D

Mine listened to me when we were younger...as we got older...well, like I said earlier, we are pretty much all quite strong-willed...

The oldest still has an influence though...

[Babyruth]

Mine listened to me when we were younger...as we got older...well, like I said earlier, we are pretty much all quite strong-willed...

The oldest still has an influence though...
The middle child in my family is extremely strong-willed and usually gets their way in every situation. That mumbo jumbo about the middle child being overlooked is not true in regards to my family. I'm a soft-spoken sweet individual and the middle child is quite the opposite. lol Only part of that is true, and I do love the middle child in my family. The "sibling positions" in our family are just a lot different than the "typical family." Although, my siblings and I have all gotten a lot closer due to different situations in our lives. I thank God for that, although the situations seem bad, they have done some good. :)

[leahmb]

I think we all are 'special in our own ways.' :D I'm the oldest and proudly bear that title and duely bear its responsibilities and entitlements....

My brother is not shy, nor overlooked. But he's the only boy, so that gets him plenty of attention. And my sister is the typical youngest child.

I always say I would never want to trade my place in the birth order and never have wanted older siblings. Although, this year I 'adopted' 2 people as older sisters. But they don't live with me or boss me around, so it's ok.

[Skirty]

And my sister is the typical youngest child.

I resent that... :D

[leahmb]

Resemble? :D

[joris]

Used to now and then fight with my sister, as a child, sorta. Not anymore

[TommyLewis]

If I had sisters I doubt I would have fought with them...argue maybe, but not actually fight...but being all guys...we had some all-out wars...

[AgapZoe]

Wow, I had never sat down to read thru this thread but now that today I have time,I decided to read thru it. It's a great thread with great a discussion! Well, all I can say is that, all relationships, whether sibling relationships, parent-sibling, or parent to parent, call for Emphathy, and to some extents, sympathy. How do this come about? Scientific research will tell you conditioning or something. Well, it works and it's great but then, since we all are potential parents, if we aren't already, we should bring up children in the ways of the Lord and when they grow up,they'll not depart from these ways.
Well, how was Jesus' childhood? Was it aggressive and all that? Well,maybe this may sound a bit on the extreme and all that,but seriously consider that fact.
Sibling rivalry/fights at times are just a physical venting of some kind of character the children have learnt over their developmental period; physical, social, emotional, or what have you! Why do I say so? It's because, kids are born with primitive instincts (for example, a child can't drown, it knows how to swim)..they can detect if there's a strain of some kind;depression, stress or anything you can think of, amongst or between the people in it's environment.
Children also may be aggressive because of their temperament and therefore it calls for keen observation from the care-taker* to identify this and help the child shape up and learn a new temperament to counter it's current one, while she/he can. (Since, a child is not yet accountable and all that.) But then, when he/she has reached an accountable age and, say he/she is a teenager, as much as hormonal confusion is there, if you have brought up that child the best way,with wisdom and in the way of the Lord, a child can never depart from those ways! Even if they do, they'll feel guilty and ask for forgiveness or smth.
Children ape their parents'/guardians' ways. Also, society has a great impact on kids' aggressive behavior. Some may be gentle and all that while others may be aggressive. Soem kids, however, may be aggressive as a way of defense or letting out pressure that has built up over time, maybe jealousy coz of the older/youger siblilng getting all the attention and all that...
I could go on and on..but you get the drift, I figure...
So,some of us faced all the negative side of a developing child and hence ended up venting our pressure thru sibling fights and all that...but thank God for Grace that has brought us safe thus far.
God bless you all and I hope I haven't stumbled anyone.

[HotShot53]

I think Halima has had a few too many psychology classes... ;)

[collegegirl]

Being #5 our of 7, and number #4 in the girl line-up, (out of 5 girls, and two boys...), you learn survival techniques, (such as avoiding and ignoring). There are many things I would never change about my family, and some things I would alter if I could. We have had our share of arguments, though rarely did it ever come to physical blows.

As Bro Branham put it, "We fought in the back yard, but in the front yard, don't any one pick on one of us, because he would have the rest of us to deal with." (paraphrasing.)

Fighting hard, but loving hard.

Though it is funny how age changes things, because I have noticed how the older we get, the more we get along. I suppose that when we get grey haired and aged...you won't be able to separate us...(though it might be by distance only.)

[BroTrevor]

JAMES 4:1
1 ¶ From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?


Well, this has been an interesting thread. I never fought much with my brother and sisters that I can remember. If I did, then I don't remember it, and it just must not have been that bad.

I remember whipping my bro once with a weeping willow branch. It hurt him, he was mad, I think he wanted to hurt me back... I can't remember if he did or not, which means he either knocked me cold, or did nothing.

I remember feeling really bad, I didn't mean to hurt him.

Anyhoo...

But then, my bro and sisters were the cream of the crop, the ideal believers, every line crossed, every i dotted... skirts plenty long, very modest, church, prayer meetings, etc were the priority...

so they probably weren't the fighters anyways... I was the rebellious one... but with such "perfect" siblings...who was there to fight with?

Too bad legalism doesn't hold like you'd want it too...

Which is all to say, read the above scripture...and really really ask God to bring out some of it's meaning to you.

[TommyLewis]

Too bad legalism doesn't hold like you'd want it too...

It never does...


JAMES 4:1
1 ¶ From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?

Fights between my brothers and I definetly were the results of the desires of our flesh. Every one of us desired to be in charge and to get his own way...
haha...sad...but true...

[Cherith F.]

I think Halima has had a few too many psychology classes... ;)


I agree with Hotshot, I read the info there and went HUH????? Does Halima have any siblings?? Seems like they missed a few childhood experiences. hummmmmm.... LOL

[Megs]

hmm sibling fights.. shall we say the bulk of my childhood mems? i am the second child and only girl... like tommylewis's bros mine all believe themselves to be alpha males, ... but when a kid thats 5 years younger than you is trying to be domineering? ... lol... i am pretty strong willed myself and ahem, well... we're all rather loud, violent and just plain nuts. and none of us can take being pushed... except Numbers. He used to just sit and stare with his big green eyes (he was the cutest little guy) while us other three scrapped... ok .. me and the eldest, and the baby just sunk his teeth into whatever flesh was available... literally.

[Megs]

o wait... please note that Numbers USED to be passive ... adolesence has since kicked in... i first noticed that he had become like the rest of the guys when i ordered him to go do chores while i was babysitting and he just turned around and looked at me and said "make me"

it caught me flatfooted, but i figured i could wrestle him into it... i could the other guys... but then i sized him up... my baby bro wasnt so little anymore... he weighed a little less than me but has shoulders like a football player, and apparently was just waiting until he stood 0.5inches taller... he fills the hallway when his arms are crossed, ... and when i ran at him to push him downstairs...where chores were waiting... he picked me up by my waist, tossed me over his shoulder, carried me the length of the house and dumped me on my bed ... let me reiterate.. i am not light

i didnt know what to say but he did " like i said... make me"
but then he laughed and did what he was told... i think he just wanted shock value

[Babyruth]

I remember many "discussions" at your house when we were little. :P They made you all better people, right? :D

[God'schild]

I don't want to sound judgemental BabyBride, but i realised something about the fights i had with my siblings. It was always my fault because i answered back. Look, she may have the tongue of a rattle snake, but when you answer her back, you gain the rattlesnake tongue too. You're the same. She is probably on the thresholds of teenage and is suffering from hormonal changes. Bear with her. Be a good example to her by not answering back... Trust me, i've had my share of arguments, my share of fights, but i was to blame for everyone of them, cause i answered back when provoked... Try and understand... Bear with them. Be the fool, you'll end up looking wise. I learnt this lesson from the strangest place...from my younger brother. He rarely answers anyone back even when he's spitting angry. It works. The silence is a miracle. Just say sorry when you know you're right. Oh yeah, it works

Your just feeding the fire if you answer her back.
I know i used to fight with my younger sister all the time, Someone once told me that if i answer in the same tone she using i'm just feeding the fire and the more i answer her the more she would keep going. so now when she trys i just keep my mouth shut(which sometimes is very hard to do) When you fight with your sister your just feeding the FIRE

[Megs]

I remember many "discussions" at your house when we were little. :P They made you all better people, right? :D

hmm better?? that is debatable... in completely the wrong context "faithful are the wounds of a friend" ... lol... we all have scars from our loved ones.... lol lol

[Babyruth]

hmm better?? that is debatable... in completely the wrong context "faithful are the wounds of a friend" ... lol... we all have scars from our loved ones.... lol lol
Lol. Yeah, I do. My sis was vicious with pinching and scraping with her evil nails. She'd cry if my mom cut her nails, so sometimes my mom would leave them and she'd have looong sharp nails.

[Skirty]

Lol. Yeah, I do. My sis was vicious with pinching and scraping with her evil nails. She'd cry if my mom cut her nails, so sometimes my mom would leave them and she'd have looong sharp nails.

wow, I am starting to appreciate my sister alot more :D

[AgapZoe]

I agree with Hotshot, I read the info there and went HUH????? Does Halima have any siblings?? Seems like they missed a few childhood experiences. hummmmmm.... LOL

Hmm,don't be too sure about that ;-) LOL

[NeedGod]

lol, i am Halima's sibling. Grew up with her from the age 4 and she was a nightmare... hehe. Just kidding. Halima is actually very moderate. She has her tantrums and her moodswings but she is very moderate. She is wise cause she is usually prefers to be quiet. My wise guru sister. Lovable chit.

[AgapZoe]

lol, i am Halima's sibling. Grew up with her from the age 4 and she was a nightmare... hehe. Just kidding. Halima is actually very moderate. She has her tantrums and her moodswings but she is very moderate. She is wise cause she is usually prefers to be quiet. My wise guru sister. Lovable chit.

Hm, don't even mention the wise part about me...rem when we(you and I) used to fight over mangoes? ;-) hehehe :P

As for my moderate part, it goes without saying that am a Melancholy dominantly and a Sanguine as a secondaryu temperament! (You can look up for the traits that come with this two) - But by God's grace, am overcoming my temperaments and becoming more and more like Him! :yay:

And oh, as for the tantrums and moodswings, trust me you'll be saying something different when you come for the holidays...your being away for an year has helped me grow over them..they are a bit more of the teens stuff y'know! lol ok ok,so let's say God's still working on me,to make me what I ought to be. Imagine, He hasn't given up on me yet...oh what manner of Love!

[NeedGod]

Lol so you're saying the only reason you were temperamental and mood swingy is because i was there? Hehe! But how come you rarely stayed angry at me? See, i was good influence. Annoying to the core but you love me anyhow. Ne ne ne ne ne. But i assure y'all. Halima is a nightmare. Hehe. She used to bully me, although i'm older than her. Simply because i look younger, she'd bully me left right center. Oh, i'm glad i escaped alive. Lol. :harhar1:

[AgapZoe]

You know, the problem with tiny people is that they talk too much, I don't know why? Is it a way of compensating for their size/height or is it a way of venting some stored up energy? I have no idea ... and oh, most of the claims they make are a little bit distorted ... they exxagerate a little bit too much too ... :P

And oh, NeedGod, ain't you glad that you are coming back alive as well hehehe
Oh,btw,was/am I a nightmare coz you just couldn't/can't pick a quarrel/fight with me anymore, ;-) if that's so, then Merci beaucoup madamoiselle! tee hee

[NeedGod]

Honey i didn't try to pick quarrels with you the last couple of years, but you were still a nightmare. You traumatised me on purpose by showing everyone nasty baby pictures of me in ugly monster glasses. You told everyone embarrassing stories. Sob! I don't want to go back home. Its a nightmare. Hehe, jus kidding. I miss home. By the way, i can't quite log onto Gmail.

[AgapZoe]

Honey i didn't try to pick quarrels with you the last couple of years, but you were still a nightmare. You traumatised me on purpose by showing everyone nasty baby pictures of me in ugly monster glasses. You told everyone embarrassing stories. Sob! I don't want to go back home. Its a nightmare. Hehe, jus kidding. I miss home. By the way, i can't quite log onto Gmail.
LOL U make me happy - now look who's talking - who used to tell those stories? (Atleast I don't rem any of us telling them tho -but well..;-)) I only had the pics of my lovely big sis in my album and was just proud of her despite the Glasses that must have had wipers and a side mirror - hehe (j/k) (we miss you too you know that don't you? :P)

-& too bad you can't log on to gmail coz I can't chat with you anywhere else but gmail - all the other chat-whatevers have been disabled in the school labs but they've not yet figured out how to disable gmail's chat!

[joris]

are you fighting now? ;) sounds like a family thing anyway :)

[NeedGod]

See how cruel she is. She put those ugly pictures in her album on purpose to torment me. Oh she's cruel. I've never met anyone more cruel. How do you explain her showing her friends pictures of me in ugly glasses.

[Megs]

seeking advice on how to help rid you of the glasses??? <jk> or maybe the glasses were your only flaw so she had to convince people you WERENT perfect? or is that stretching it?

[NeedGod]

no no no Megs, you are right on cue...I dare say you might even be a genius. :D

[AgapZoe]

LOL - ever wondered why the term GENIUS at times is relative? ;-) You see, the thing is, no matter how much flaws she had, I loved her and was proud of her, anyway! :)

[Megs]

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[Megs]

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[Megs]

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[Megs]

awwwwwwwww < it has to have 10 characters to post apparently>

[Megs]

woooow GIMPY

[NeedGod]

Lol Megs. That could get you in some serious trouble with your online brothers and sisters(read siblings) who might be quick with the red spear.

[AgapZoe]

woooow GIMPY
Silly(j/k).........................................lol

[Megs]

i dont know what happened.. but all of a sudden while i was typing it was posting!! lol.. that is what was gimpy.. i think my computer did something wierd.. lol.. i know it wasnt my fault:angel:

[Cherith F.]

I guess most everyone goes thru a time when a sibling tells an embarrassing family story to liven up the conversation... :aaaah:*sigh* well we all live thru it huh? lol

[HotShot53]

I guess most everyone goes thru a time when a sibling tells an embarrassing family story to liven up the conversation... :aaaah:*sigh* well we all live thru it huh? lol

Yep... unless of course you've never had an embarrassing event happen to you... which doesn't exactly happen either ;)

[wwwjer2911]

I guess most everyone goes thru a time when a sibling tells an embarrassing family story to liven up the conversation... :aaaah:*sigh* well we all live thru it huh? lol

Or many times.... lol I don't suppose you wanna tell the story?? ;)

j/k:D

[AgapZoe]

Yep... unless of course you've never had an embarrassing event happen to you... which doesn't exactly happen either ;)
yea and unless you are ... ahem ... ME! (j/k)

[Cherith F.]

Or many times.... lol I don't suppose you wanna tell the story?? ;)

j/k:D


WHICH ONE?????:surrender I HAVE 5 SIBLINGS SO I LACK NONE IN THAT AREA. *grin*

[wwwjer2911]

WHICH ONE?????:surrender I HAVE 5 SIBLINGS SO I LACK NONE IN THAT AREA. *grin*

Hahaha...Same here. :D

BTW you don't have to tell any if you don't want - I was just razzin' you b/c generally if your sibs tell an embarrassing story about you it's not one you're gonna wanna be telling everyone about..... lol

[AlanaH]

I guess most everyone goes thru a time when a sibling tells an embarrassing family story to liven up the conversation... :aaaah:*sigh* well we all live thru it huh? lol

Or your parents.

"Remember that time when you..."

<hides head in sheer embarrassment>

[collegegirl]

you just laugh it off, or in my case, hope they tell a story on a DIFFERENT sibling. :D

[Noe]

or friends

i had a friend tell about an embarrassing situation to their whole family on christmas day. It was to do with the fact that someone we know thought i had dated a member of their family and they decided to talk about it. i was quite embarrassed

[AlanaH]

It's worse when it's a minister over the pulpit...<shudder> :peep:

[Noe]

haha it did happen to be a minister and i'm glad he decided to talk with my friends instead of talking about it to the whole church

[andynbooth]

I don't think sibling fights are too serious, I mean your fighting one minute but normally best friends the next. I don't cause my brother much trouble, I think he finds me quite annoying at times hehe. I've got along with my brother a lot better as I've got older, we used to fight alot when we were young, I was quite naughty though like I've punched him in the face a couple of times and spat on him once, but none of that sort of thing happens now, (which my parents will be glad about).

[Noe]

Me and my sis still don't get on. Since we've moved we seem to spend so much time in the car with each other. It is usually in utter silence or a really big arguement.
I think we both have problems with each other my problem with her is she seems to be so much more immature than i was at her age, it drives me insane.

[Megs]

Me and my sis still don't get on. Since we've moved we seem to spend so much time in the car with each other. It is usually in utter silence or a really big arguement.
I think we both have problems with each other my problem with her is she seems to be so much more immature than i was at her age, it drives me insane.

the beauty of it is... we all grow up eventually. :)

[redeemed]

Hrmm...can't wait til that day comes :)

[Megs]

i have one sitting beside me that makes me totally agree!!

[redeemed]

hahaha where two shall agree...xD

[emy_faithgurl]

My siblings are either alot older than me or younger, so I never fought with them (acually, I sadly don't truly know them) but got teased and annoyed by the older ones :012: (I think we get along nicely now, lol:) )
But on second thought, my neighbours lead me to the Lord and had a large family of 11 children, so I became extremely close to them, and I have had many fights and dissagreements with all of them before. But now that most of us are older, so we don't fight much, and I've learnt to turn the other cheek when conflicts arise... And they are often solved within minutes... God has taught me alot through the close relationship I've had with them, which now I am most grateful for!

[redeemed]

I'm really glad to hear you have such a strong relationship with them! I know how much of a difference that can make in your life...I honestly don't know what I'd do without my second 'family'

[zeeba]

You grow out of sibling fights eventually. I used to fight all the time with my sister, who is 4 years younger. We used to share a room and didn't get our own space until after my older brothers all finished moving out when I was 17. We still have disagreements once in a while but now we simply walk away instead of talking back and before it starts to get out of hand. It took a lot of growing up for us both to get to that point, but now I'm glad to say we're good friends. :) So don't give up, no matter how bad it is! It just takes time! And some prayer helps, too. :ok: