Dream Girl

[Christian-Samurai]

Well since there is a post about dream guys i thought i only fair to start one about girls, You already know about my girl, and since i have pretty much made everyone sick about hearing about her any more lol any other takers??

[collegegirl]

*curious* Yeah, what do guys look for in girls?

[blessed]

this should be very interesting

[Christian-Samurai]

Ok we have Joe asking this same question in the other post, so yes lets get on with it ppl let them know what on your mind, I am of course exment from this :D dont look to for anything

[blessed]

how many guys do we have on this forum?

[Christian-Samurai]

well you should ask how many guys do we have that are acutally posting in the forum threads

[collegegirl]

About 1 main one, (you), Joe pops on and off, occasionally we hear from Philippe, that one brother in another thread about the chat room, Snoopy, umm.....maybe 5 that post, 2 somewhat active ones, and then :rolleyes: samurai.

[Christian-Samurai]

Just doing my part, always has to be aleast one :)

[Philippe]

*curious* Yeah, what do guys look for in girls?

Filled with the Holy Ghost and prepared by God for me.

Philippe

[Christian-Samurai]

well there you go, lol, ok philippe lets ask you this way, what attracts you more so to one girl over the other? bsides the given things, what would make you think to look at one girl who maybe have these requirement over another who might also??

:D

[Philippe]

Here are some things that I may like:

Someone that would listen to me and talks as a friend.
Do not talk too loud or too much for nothing.
Just a little smaller than me.
Younger than me.
Could help me in my calling (complete me).
Gifted.
Pretty and dressing with good taste.
Able to cook better than me.
A part of me (I see myself in her).
Complicity.

[Christian-Samurai]

WOW!! you really have this worked out, hightlighted and bulleted. :D Now see Joe thats how its done, wheres your list Joe?

[JoeC]

I don't quite know what I like to such a degree of specification - but I found it funny how many Philippe mentioned that I have already decided on. I'll start with those first and then add the others.

Able to cook better than me (not an easy thing to do, mind you).

Someone who can speak intelligently and is able to match my arguments and even prove me wrong on things.

She would not be unneccessarily giddy or boisterous (e.g. silly). She would be mature. When she speaks, she has something to say. Not to say I want a quite girl, I like extroverts. :thumbup:

She would be fun to be with and easily engage my introverted self into conversation. Her personality would be such that it loosens me up - instead of letting me keep to my default serious ways all the time.

Of course, if we're talking about a dream girl, she should be pretty. But whoever I marry is going to be pretty in my eyes, so it's all relative anyhow. :)

She would have a zest for God and a zest for life. And of course, she would be filled with the Holy Spirit.


Now I could go into details in the "pretty " category and what I consider pretty. But that's a little personal. I stop now.

[Christian-Samurai]

*cheers for self* OK girls there you have it, I got it out of the Joe man, get your match making books out heh

Only kidding Joe (or am i) :D

[JoeC]

Here are some things that I may like:

...
Complicity.


com·plic·i·ty ( P ) Pronunciation Key (km-pls-t)
n. pl. com·plic·i·ties
Involvement as an accomplice in a questionable act or a crime.

Ummm, did you accidentally mis-spell the word you meant to say?

[Christian-Samurai]

Hmmm interesting, either that or he likes the bad girls :D

[Philippe]

com·plic·i·ty ( P ) Pronunciation Key (km-pls-t)
n. pl. com·plic·i·ties
Involvement as an accomplice in a questionable act or a crime.

Ummm, did you accidentally mis-spell the word you meant to say?

Well, what happened is that the word in french has 2 meanings but only one of them should be translated into complicity. The other one means "deep agreement". So we can uses the same word for "good" and "bad" agreement to do something.

In this context, it would means someone that would generally things and act like me in similar context without the necessity of a loud agreement.

[Christian-Samurai]

Well there ya go, :D he was talking french at us So I guess its ok to use japanese :D

[JoeC]

Now that I've thought of it, my "dream girl" description was rather vague. It should be called my "ideal girl" - a step up from my "absolutely must have traits" list in the ME thread.

Now my dream girl... she would take to long to describe. :thumbup:

[blessed]

*blessed pulls up chair and takes out the popcorn*
Go ahead bro, by the way i liked Phillipe comments on the dream girl

[JoeC]

I think my "dream girl" is a rather personal, subjective concept.

Personal, because if my future wife ever found it, she might feel inadequate - thinking that she doesn't measure up to my concept of the perfect women... not realizing that my concept of a perfect women would surely have changed once I fell in love with her.

Subjective, because my concept of what I like in a female is constantly changing as the number of interactions with varied girls increases. BTW, this is a good reason for not marrying too young - most of us at young ages are too capricious and fickle to really know what we want. Figure out what you can realistically expect from your mate and your marriage before you dive into a relationship.


Questions for Reflection:

What is the purpose of a mate? That is, besides fulfilling my physical and emotional wants, how would a mate make me more effective in my calling?

Do I need a mate? Am I called to be single?

Am I enjoying my singlehood while I have it?

What qualities should my mate possess? (i.e. Holy Ghost, prayer warrior, ladylike, treats others with respect, a gentleman... things that you feel he/she MUST have to even be considered...)

How would my mate complete me? (i.e. financial security, affirmation, providing an outlet to express the unexpressed, challenge you spiritually, etc)


Any other thoughts?

[Philippe]

I think my "dream girl" is a rather personal, subjective concept
Yes... and this is why I would essentially only says things that are generally accepted in such forum. Thus, I present only a part of my opinion.

What is the purpose of a mate? That is, besides fulfilling my physical and emotional wants, how would a mate make me more effective in my calling?Well, the sister should share my vision and want to be a part of it.


Do I need a mate? Am I called to be single?
Well, I believe that very few are called to be single.


Am I enjoying my singlehood while I have it?
Yes... but sometime it's a bit harder. Well, the best way to enjoy life is to consecrate it to the Lord.


What qualities should my mate possess? (i.e. Holy Ghost, prayer warrior, ladylike, treats others with respect, a gentleman... things that you feel he/she MUST have to even be considered...)
Sure there are some must... but I do not have any checklist.


How would my mate complete me? (i.e. financial security, affirmation, providing an outlet to express the unexpressed, challenge you spiritually, etc)
Together, we would make a team looking forward in the direction of God.

[blessed]

i like this guy,look at his response...guys watch and learn

[morning_mist]

yea very very detailed

[JoeC]

i like this guy,look at his response...guys watch and learn

Which guy are you talking about? Philippe or myself? :think:

[Christian-Samurai]

LOL I just love how joe is stuck on this topic HAHAHAHAHA

[morning_mist]

it is philippe :)

[JoeC]

LOL I just love how joe is stuck on this topic HAHAHAHAHA

............ :tongue:

[collegegirl]

I like to hear what guys expect from a girl. It is very downgrading to hear girls say things like they can get a guy just because the fact that they are a girl. To hear people talking about standards....it is just incredable, and appreciated. Keep your standards guys, everyone of you. When you come from hearing people talking or joking dirty, to hear standards it just wonderful.

I have two guys at the restaraunt where I work, Kurt and Jacob. Kurt I really don't care for at all, and this was an aquired feeling. He is just too friendly, and I have started giving him kinda the cold shoulder (as per mom's advice), but he still hasn't gotten the hint. He is engaged already, (met his fiancee, she is not exactly the perfect lady :rolleyes:) and he has made a comment to one of the other servers that I am "kinda cute". That really made me start disliking him, because if someone is already engaged, then he should have eyes only for his girl. When I am doing something, he comes right up to me, very close, or Jacob will say something, and I will reply kinda like, "ookkkaaay" and then Kurt will say something low to Jacob, and I think it is about me. I feel really uncomfortable around Kurt, and almost wish that I had a boyfriend, just to protect myself from him. He hasn't tried anything, but if he does, he will have my dad to reckon with, as well as Tomas, the owner and my boss, who sees my kinda like a daughter.

Jacob, on the other hand, isn't all that bad by himself, but I get really uncomfortable when he and Kurt are together, but he has already made comments like, "Thank you, love", or when I asked him if he needed anything else he replied "just your phone number", to which I promptly replied "that you need to take up with my dad". Part of me thinks that he is just joking around, but the other part kinda senses an underlying current, like a hidden agenda. (any thoughts or comments on that?) They are worldy men, and I don't think that they have any sort of values or morals, especially Kurt, who has this....atmosphere around him to where most of the people who work there really don't care for him. If I have to cause a scene, I will, but I really don't want to.

I believe that they really don't have a standard for the girls that they see. I like the fact that you guys are setting standards, and won't just take any girl that walks by just because she is a girl. I say good for you.

[blessed]

i think ur post scared the guys away ..have not heard from them since

[JoeC]

I... almost wish that I had a boyfriend, just to protect myself from him...


Try Mr. Mace. Good guy.

[collegegirl]

Who?!! Who is Mr. Mace?

[JoeC]

Meet Mr. Mace (http://www.defendingwomen.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=5&products_id=70).

[blessed]

hmmm...nice guy that Mr. Mace :D

[Christian-Samurai]

not really

[blessed]

and why do u think so.. . i think Mr.Mace can become a girls best friend

[Babyruth]

I agree with blessed and Joe. Guys don't really have to worry about things that girls have to worry about. Mace can come in handy, especially when you don't have an older brother or someone to stand up for you. Guys at school are pretty touchy, and so far I've been ok because I don't let them touch me. I've hit a few boys for trying to hug me or something else. Now, they don't try, but Mace could come in handy, especially at night or somewhere where there aren't people to stand up for you. I know God always protects His children, but Mace is a tool that he has allowed to be created that I think is useful. Hey, pepper spray is good too, for dogs as well as "humans."

[collegegirl]

Thank you for introducing me. I have heard of him before. Usually just telling guys that I don't do guy-girl contact gets me a weird look, but they don't mess with me.

[Christian-Samurai]

i ment when for the person getting sprayed its not nice lol

[collegegirl]

Really? I didn't know that. (note the sarcasm in my voice)

[Christian-Samurai]

your sarcasum leaves much to be

[Babyruth]

Hey, if the person gets sprayed, they most likely deserve it.

[collegegirl]

I most definately agree.

[esther]

not really

so have u been sprayed before??? :D :D :D

[Christian-Samurai]

No i have not had it happen to me personally but have seen it used

[collegegirl]

Other than on a commercial, I have never seen it used.

[collegegirl]

your sarcasum leaves much to be
Your spelling leaves much to be.

[Christian-Samurai]

your height leaves much to be.

[HotShot53]

Both of your banter leaves much to be ;)

[blessed]

:rofl: :rofl:

[NeedGod]

i wonder about this whole spray thing. in our college if you spray someone for trying to hug you, it will be a disaster. i have not yet found a way to warn people against that. i am not strong in the word yet but i will do so.

[NeedGod]

i forgot to mention that i have only seen it in movies. never seen it before. they dont even sell those things in kenya. but here, the hugging thing, especially in our university which is an international one, there is lots of contact between the two sexes. people do their thing anywhere, up in an abandoned floor, in the locker room...anywhere. gee, :eek: it is so totally embarassing

[JoeC]

I would not recommend anyone spraying someone for attempting to hug them - forcefully kiss? yes.... but hugging... it's too drastic.

[marichino_freedom]

knowing my luck, if i tried to spray someone, i'd spray myself!

[NeedGod]

knowing my luck, if i tried to spray someone, i'd spray myself!
why would you try to spray yourself. because you would kiss yourself? :think:

[HotShot53]

Marachino meant that with her luck, she would try to spray the other person, and accidently spray herself.

I'm afraid I don't really know what advice to give... other than to make it really obviously known to all that you really don't like it...

[NeedGod]

yeah hotshot, i know but i wanted to tease her. shhh! dont tell her.

[Babyruth]

I would spray anyone that touched me, especially after I told them not too. People at my school are pretty touchy. A few kinda friends, that are guys, tried to hug me a couple times a couple years ago and I hit them, so they have never done it or tried it since. Kids at my school are big on hugging, but no guy tries to hug me anymore, thank the Lord! My friend, a girl, told me that this certain guy in our band class didn't hug me because I wore a skirt, and I told her, "Thank goodness!" Skirts are such good protection! You can hide things, like knifes and stuff under them, not that I do at all though!

[JoeC]

To those that would pepper spray someone for trying to hug them:

The problem with this idea is:

1) You obviously have no idea how much pepper spray hurts.

2) It would be very hard to back yourself up if the person pressed legal charges against you, complained to school authorities, etc. Most any authority would say that the punishment was far out of proportion to the offense.

Solution: Be friendly. If the person makes moves to hug you, step back and hold out your hand for a handshake and calmly, but firmly explain that you do not do hugs. Stiff arm the guy if you have to! If he forces himself, slap him across the face. This is the ladylike thing to do and in most cultures, while not significantly hurting the person, it will be a serious blow to their pride as it clearly communicates to the male that he is acting like an animal. If he has even an ounce of gentleman in him, he will stop.

Now, if a girl tries all of these and the guy continues to advance, then any non-permanent, pain inflicting action can be justified as it is reasonable to assume that the guy may want more than just a hug if he is so intent on touching you... especially if you are in a non-populated spot.

[Babyruth]

Fear not! While I do have access to pepper spray, I don't use it or carry it around. I do dodge hugs, however, sometimes you don't always know they are coming. I am quite good with punching, or at least hitting hard. The same guys have never tried again.

[JoeC]

BTW, check out the law in your area for use of tear gas products (Mace is a brand name, they sell both tear gas sprays and pepper spray). Actually, pepper spray is probably a better choise if are you really are thinking of purchasing some. They actually have more stopping power (cut off everything but neccessary life support) while Mace pretty much just inflicts pain.

Read about the differences and the legalities HERE (http://www.peppersprayinc.com/mace_10%25_peppergard.htm).

[NeedGod]

joe, you seem really worried about this. it must be really illegal to do that at your place then. here, i havent heard of anyone who has tried. but be ressured, i wont do it.

[JoeC]

Use just varies from state to state in the US.

Oh, and btw, my concern is due to the fact that if anyone takes an idea from this forum (even if it was in jest), uses it, and it turns sour on them - I'm partly responsible for providing the medium through which they got the idea. Tough stuff being responsible. :(

[NeedGod]

yeah, that would be a disaster too. a big disaster. yup, it is tough being responsible but it has some advantages.

[NeedGod]

yeah, that would be a disaster too. a big disaster. yup, it is tough being responsible but it has some advantages.

[LittleLamb]

do i hear an echo???? :peep:

[LittleLamb]

do i hear an echo???? :peep:

[NeedGod]

oh look, i am her role model. she wants to be just like me, just like me, just like me, just like me!!

[HotShot53]

Now that you have a follower, you better be careful of what you do namwacha ;)

[NeedGod]

oh, are you trying to say i havent been careful? careful? careful?careful? ok, i'll be more careful, careful careful careful. oh, this is fun! fun! fun! :yay: :yay: :yay:

[LittleLamb]

your right! your right! your right! your right! this is fun!this is fun!this is fun!this is fun! :imslow: :imslow: :imslow: :imslow:

[HotShot53]

Lol.........

[redeemed]

you 2 are nuts!! :harhar1:

[JMG]

Macadamion nuts to be precise! :thumbup:

[LittleLamb]

:taz: i prefer cashew thank you very much :monkey1:

[JoeC]

White Chocholate cookies with Macadamion are delicious! :hungry:

My fav cookies :dft010:

[BroTrevor]

Subway white choc with macadamia nuts...

<dreamy look>

mmmmmmmmm

[HotShot53]

I think I agree with littlelamb, I'll take the cashews. Some chocolate on the side wouldn't be bad...

[blessed]

hmmm...cashew nuts are my favourite had them a day ago

[JoeC]

This thread is waaaaay off topic.

[blessed]

you are right...any more thoughts on what your dream girl is /should be Joe

[HotShot53]

This thread is waaaaay off topic.

Lol, almost all threads 9 pages long are way off topic...

Hmm... maybe I should come up with a more specific "dream girl", my current specifications are probably too broad... and having too many people fit your specifications is almost as bad as having no-one fit them...

[JoeC]

Even if I had very specified traits that I'm looking for in a quote dream girl, I wouldn't post 'em. WHo knows? Maybe some stalker would find them and attempt to mold themselves to it. Or maybe my future wife won't perfectly measure up... all she'd have to do is find this post and feel inadequate. :dft002:

[HotShot53]

Very valid points, Joe...

[NoahL]

I agree that these are valid points. However, if there is no one posting about their idea of a "dream girl", has this thread come to the end of its usefulness?

[Mick_Mack89]

Probably
...........

[JoeC]

Thread being closed then to encourage new thread generation in this forum. THINK OF SOMETHIN' PPL!