Miscommunications...

[hollikins84]

I love my Grandma sooooo much, but when it comes to miscommunications- it always happens with her. I don't know why, but it seems like so often she misunderstands me- for the worst. I'll try to explain myself, but the more I explain, the more she misunderstands me. Everyone else seems to understand except her. She's very intelligent, but she and I cannot seem to have a clear conversation sometimes! It's frustrating. Anybody else have this problem?

Well, I'm just going to have to pray about it. My Grandma is so precious. So, the last thing I wanna do is let Satan drive a wedge between us. I tell ya, Satan sure does like to cause trouble in families!!!

[Sara]

I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN!!! Except mine always happen with my mother. It also happens that she's the kind of mom that no one can prove wrong, you know what i mean? If she says something, that's what goes... you can't go against it, if you do, well, good luck with having her as a friend!!! I mean, it's always just little things that happen here and there... but i guess that's something the Lord has put there to test me day after day. I must admit, i'm getting better at ignoring it and just staying quiet... then again there are those times when she things i'm ignoring her!!! hehehe... so the issue continues... :cool:

*Sara

[hollikins84]

Well, Grandma and I are getting along better lately. I'm so glad! We did have a misunderstanding the other day, but we talked it over and got it worked out. Like I said, it was merely a MISUNDERSTANDING. I think Satan really likes to use those MISUNDERSTANDINGS.

[collegegirl]

I have trouble communicating with two of my sisters. I share a room with my 11 year old sister, and we either get along, or we just DON'T. She's the baby of the family, and we spoil her, but yet we try not to. Does that make sense? Then I have another sister that no matter what I do, I can't do it right. If she is not in a good mood, you'll be warned when you walk in the house. :mad: I have a lot of trouble getting along with her. I can't seem to say or do anything right. I have better success with my younger sister than I do with my older. My other family members, I am cool with. Does any one have any suggestions as to what I can do to help her, besides praying for her and staying out of the way? And any takers on how I can communicate better with my younger sister? She's 6 years younger than me, and can't understand that I have work, and school, and sometimes I am too tired to do something, or that sometimes I just need ME time.

[Christian-Samurai]

me time lol man I know how that goes. oh way maybe i have to much me time. anyway, I am sorry I am unsure how that would work, my only sister and I get along great. maybe she is a little jealous that big sister gets to go out and do all these things?

[poetanna]

I have had the same problem with my older sister...we either get along or well things are really bad....I finally, well it was God not me, but things finally started to be ok after I prayed and asked God for patience to deal with the things that where going on...and for Him to lead me in the right direction as to how to respond when angry words where thrown at me...
When my sister would say something nasty to me, I would become quiet, and try to think of something nice to say to her, it was hard sometimes, but later on I found out that simply by asking her about her day and expressing concern into her life, she would relax and tell me whatever was bothering her. Also, I would always try to go out of my way to be nice to her, putting forth as much extra attention to her, even though for me to do that I well I felt like I was pulling out my own hair....because I thought she's never nice to me, but that's what God wanted me to do.
Some times I would be reading the bible and something in it would strike me...saying share this with your sister...and I would go to her and we would discuss what I had read...I wouldn't tell her "you need to read"..I would say "I was reading today and found this very interesting would you like to read it"....Talking about the bible really helped us grow together too.
Now thanks to God, my sister and I are able to be in the same room together and actually carry on wonderful conversations that aren't filled with hateful remarks.
Sister, just be aware that things don't change overnight unless God wants them too....it takes time and patience and alot of prayers...
I hope this was helpful to you...
DeAnna

[collegegirl]

Thank you so much. I have a really hard time with it, but with the Lord's help, and your advice, I am sure that things will get better. I just wish is something that can happen overnight. But...*sight*

[poetanna]

I know it is tough...but the Lord will not put you through any test that you can not bear...I'll be praying for you and your sisters...that His love will stregthen and guide you...Just remember that He is always by your side and even as times are tough and you don't think you can make it...just lean on Him...He is more than able...
DeAnna

[Christian-Samurai]

I talked Poetanna into joining our fun :D welcome sis gald you could make it :D

[poetanna]

I talked Poetanna into joining our fun :D welcome sis gald you could make it :D

yeah so if i do anything that's crazy or something, he's to blame cause Benjamin talked me into it.... :)

[Christian-Samurai]

ummm riiiiight , actually blame the weee little ppl and their pot o gold :D

[collegegirl]

(rats, he guessed my plan!) heh heh. :D (Note the GREEN smiley face.)

[Christian-Samurai]

Most of the people i work with are really short and i like to say this alot when i am with them. i ask where they be hidin theur pot o gold :D

[collegegirl]

Well, I'm actually not all that short...:)

[Christian-Samurai]

Yeah so you say, and were be the photo to show use how tall you are?? hmmmm :think:

[collegegirl]

Neiner. :harhar1:

[Christian-Samurai]

she can show us a piano but not herself, or maybe she is the piano, whhhoooa dude thats like far out :D

[collegegirl]

I am a beautiful, highly polished, very expensive baby grand piano, sitting in my best friend's house. I have unique abilities and talents, such as communicating on the computer. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. :D

[Christian-Samurai]

I am a beautiful, highly polished, very expensive baby grand piano, sitting in my best friend's house. I have unique abilities and talents, such as communicating on the computer. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. english translation, she is a new inexperience midget piano who could make it as a real grand piano lol ;)

[collegegirl]

NOOOOO!!! :ranting: I happen to be a piano that fits the needs of others, which right now happens to be space. When was the last time you say a baby grand versus a reguar grand? :tongue:

[Christian-Samurai]

hmm so your filling up space huh hmmm interesting statement, :D lol its ok I am sure you are a nice piano, I was only kidding, i am sure you are the most out of tune...errr beautiful piano anyone has ever seen sis :D

[poetanna]

College Girl I think it's time we teamed up against Christian Samaurai (or however that's spelled) :fencing: .He can never leave well enough alone....always picking on the little people....so yeah we are short big deal....
DeAnna

[collegegirl]

Hey! :ranting: out of tune my petals!

[Christian-Samurai]

well you did say you needed help with your mad piano skillz :D

[collegegirl]

There you go again, putting words in my mouth that I NEVER said. :ranting:

[Christian-Samurai]

you didnt have to say it, you implied it, all the same in this game sis lol

[collegegirl]

So what, are YOU going to help me? You can't even PLAY the piano, much less help me with my "mad skillz". :rolleyes:

[Christian-Samurai]

I have computer mad skillz i can help you with, I'll leave the ummmm playing skillz to someone else lol

[collegegirl]

When I need help, I will ask you brother. Ooooh, you know what? I just remembered. We have an electric piano, (along with our upright), and we can hook it up to the computer and mix songs and such, (only we have never done it). Would you know anything about that? Then I could mix songs and such, and then post them where ever.

[Christian-Samurai]

depends on what the setup is and what the compatiblity is and did it come with its own softarre and it it midi plug in or usb??

[collegegirl]

I am not for sure. I think Midi plug. I know that you have to get something to hook it up to the PC. I will have to check the owner's manual.

[Christian-Samurai]

yeah that might be a good place to start figuring out how it works lol

[collegegirl]

Well, mom currently has the owner's manual. I have used it to figure out a great many functions on the piano.

[Christian-Samurai]

just not how to get it to plug into the PC so you can share your gift with the rest of us, I see how you are

[blessed]

hmm... i guess the nerd confused them with the talk of MIDI or USb connection there i wonder if they had any idea what u were tallking about lol

[Christian-Samurai]

Who knows will see when she shares her music with us

[collegegirl]

I wish I could put songs on the internet so that you could hear. I love to play the piano.

[Christian-Samurai]

Yes and dont make us wait for your photo first :D

[blessed]

I have been thinking about it i might post a pic over the weekend so brace yourself, take out those smelling salts for all those who will faint, and i warn u im just a normal kid nothing fancy just an average girl

[collegegirl]

I can't wait to see who you are. heh heh. :D I promise, I will post a picture. I have a feeling that you are going to get the picture b/f the music, though. Sorry. :p

[Christian-Samurai]

Good this will be awesome then we will know what each one of us look like, hmmmm this gives me any idea

[collegegirl]

Make sure you patent it this time, that way you will get the royalties from it. LOL :D

[Christian-Samurai]

OH you'll see when ppl start posting more photos, its a really good idea too

[blessed]

:aaaah: Should i be worried about your idea Samauri????

[Christian-Samurai]

when it comes to these things NOPE :) so lets get those photos up

[collegegirl]

Give me an opportunity to get some pictures to get them up. But don't worry. I have an album, and I will get some up.

[blessed]

:cry: :cry: i got my pics back from the studio and they are horrible i mean horrible like in terrible :cry:

[Christian-Samurai]

awww let us see :D

[blessed]

nope!!!!!!

[Christian-Samurai]

sorry to hear you didnt like them sis, maybe next time

[collegegirl]

Why didn't you like them? :confused:

[blessed]

cause they were pics we took one night we went for pizza, there is one with me eating pizza a real close up one as i was putting the pizza in my mouth.....those were fun pics you know the type u never let anyone see

[Christian-Samurai]

i let ppl see mine all the time

[collegegirl]

Well, then again, you are a guy. :rolleyes:

Speaking of food in mouth, I have a really rediculous one of me with one of the turkey's drumstick in my mouth. (Just the bone). I think that will be a pay-to-see picture, as I have no intention of putting it in my album. :D

[blessed]

aww come on collgegirl share the joy with us..im sure we we'll just love to see that

[Christian-Samurai]

so ??? my dad is a guy to and he doesnt like to have his photo taken, i think you are just scared let us see cause you think you are to nice for us simple people lol

[collegegirl]

No, I am just too plain and simple for you wonderful people.

[blessed]

so ??? my dad is a guy to and he doesnt like to have his photo taken, i think you are just scared let us see cause you think you are to nice for us simple people lol
do u think that is the reason why

[NeedGod]

oh dear, samurai is at it again. i had better post my picture too before he goes at me too.

[Babyruth]

I'm going to bring this thread back on topic.

Maybe it's because my mom gives every sign of not caring about my feelings, or maybe it's because my dad does the same, or maybe it's because everyone in my house does that, but there is a lot of miscommunication going on. It's so annoying. Why am I always the bad one? Is it because I'm the oldest? Is it because I'm deffective? Because I'm not wanted? Because I'm always wrong? Is that it? I don't know. Everything I say if somehow twisted quite radically by each family member to suit them and their mood. Why is it like that? Is it because we aren't doing well spiritually? That must be it. But how do we fix that? Yes, we get into the Word and pray, but how do we do that? We can pretend, but we certainly can't keep that facade up at home. Maybe it's not all of us, maybe it's just one that's having a huge affect on the rest. Blessed, I think you probably have an idea of what I'm talking about. What do I do? How do I fix it?

[redeemed_lizzi]

When I was around your age (I feel like a dinosaur saying that ;)) the relationship I had with my parents and one of my siblings was...well... it wasn't good. I felt totally used, under appreciated and because I am the oldest it felt like everything was always my fault. One day things came to a head. Actually it was a Sunday and I remember ironing my clothes for church and dad coming down and he asked me about something and I thought that what he asked was totally unfair. In that brief period I managed to unburden quite a few years of greivances. It was a very tense but in those moments I came to understand some things about my parents and they came to understand how I was feeling. I now know that my parents never know that I had been feeling that way for all that time. I'm not going to lie and say that I prayed about it because I didn't, but I know that God was with me when we had that conversation. Things could have gotten bitter but they didn't and that was only God's grace. Amazingly prayer didn't cross my mind through those years and I think that if I had committed it into God's hands then maybe things could have been resolved a lot sooner. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you can, speak to your family and make them aware of your feelings. Above all do what I didn't do and pray.

[AlanaH]

I agree, pray first, but if the proper time comes and you need to speak out, then do so, but in love. I came to one point like that with my dad, and he honestly hadn't known what I needed from him. Once we had talked, the situation cleared up rather nicely. So there may be an alternative to just keeping things bottled up for years on end. But definitely pray about it first because it may not be the proper thing at that particular time.

[jordancpeterson]

All though I feel the relationship I have with my parents and siblings is good I have seen where my parents (especially my dad) didn’t realize things that were bothering us. Talking to them really helped work things out. Usually, unfortunately it usually happened when things were coming to a head. Talk it over though. It really helps even if they don’t understand just to still talk to them. And if you are scared or nervous or for some other reasons don’t want to bring the issue up in person, write them a letter. I’ve done that. I know its better to talk to someone in person about things but I think its better to let them know then not at all and a letter was easier at times to do (not to mention I wrote them at times when they weren’t available to talk to me). Will be praying for you.

[Only One Life, Live 4 GOD]

writing a letter brings more conversations and I just cant tell anyone whats going on I find it easier to keep it all bottled up inside then there are no confrontaions no yelling and no public tears... though of course somtimes you just feel like your about to burst but I few quite moments lying in the grass in a park can elevate the pressure ... But somtimes it just doesnt work if you collect so much for so long you feel like you breaking up inside... You can elivate that feeling by going for a long walk ... at least you know you will never give up on yourself... well anyway thats what I do

[Only One Life, Live 4 GOD]

I'm going to bring this thread back on topic.

Maybe it's because my mom gives every sign of not caring about my feelings, or maybe it's because my dad does the same, or maybe it's because everyone in my house does that, but there is a lot of miscommunication going on. It's so annoying. Why am I always the bad one? Is it because I'm the oldest? Is it because I'm deffective? Because I'm not wanted? Because I'm always wrong? Is that it? I don't know. Everything I say if somehow twisted quite radically by each family member to suit them and their mood. Why is it like that? Is it because we aren't doing well spiritually? That must be it. But how do we fix that? Yes, we get into the Word and pray, but how do we do that? We can pretend, but we certainly can't keep that facade up at home. Maybe it's not all of us, maybe it's just one that's having a huge affect on the rest. Blessed, I think you probably have an idea of what I'm talking about. What do I do? How do I fix it?
well I have the same problem I was always punished more if I did somthing wrong and I was always expected to get top marks I was expected to be a lady and to grow up I never wanted to do any of that... But now come to think of it ... It would have been terrible for my sister she was older and smarter and all she was expected to do was do her best not achieve the unachievable ... I mean when my older sister died Rebekah looked after me while dad spent all day at work and mum locked herself away... she was the one that kept me afloat I was 6 and she was 8 she did the cooking everything I owe my life to her almost she's the one that never told on me when I did really bad stuff and lost my temper she's the one that pulled me out of my addiction and she didnt even know it. I wish I could just call her up right now and tell her how much she actually means to me I have never thought about it before but it never was her fault that I felt so alianated she provbably would have reached mum and dads expectations if they had given her some stars to reach for.

All I wanted to be was normal but I wasnt even alowed friends... even mum still scoffs when I mention friends... is it right that I stick up fro my friends or should I agree with Mum??? Is it right that I tell the truth and get into deeper trouble insteed of lieing and making Mum happy ??? is it me or what... everything seems to be my fault but WHY ME even before Bec got married everything always had to be my fault and if mum thought it was bec she'd get of lighter than I would but WHY?????


And dont even tell me to talk to my parents about it we dont talk about anything important and if we do we do our best to skirt it... PLEASE HELP ME... TELL ME HOW TO FIX MYSELF... ITS OBVIOUSLY MY FAULT EVEN IF i DONT KNOW WHAT I DID IT HAS TO BE ME ... WHO ELSE

[Only One Life, Live 4 GOD]

I cant beilive I just wrote that I've never told ANYONE that before but ... I feel slightly better... as if part of my insides are coming back together....

[redeemed_lizzi]

All I can say is, I'll be praying for you and God bless your sister

[redeemed_lizzi]

Oh and ...... NEVER lie. It's just not worth the hassle. More often than not you will be caught out and whatever trust your parents had in you will be broken. Let your parents know where they stand with you. Let your no mean no and your yes, yes. Then at least what ever happens, they know the kind of character you have. A lie makes things a whole lot worse than they were bfore (speaking from experience here) ALWAYS tell the truth, even if you think that a lie will be less harsher than the truth, or that a lie is what they want to hear.

[BroTrevor]

I'm going to bring this thread back on topic.

Maybe it's because my mom gives every sign of not caring about my feelings, or maybe it's because my dad does the same, or maybe it's because everyone in my house does that, but there is a lot of miscommunication going on. It's so annoying. Why am I always the bad one? Is it because I'm the oldest? Is it because I'm deffective? Because I'm not wanted? Because I'm always wrong? Is that it? I don't know. Everything I say if somehow twisted quite radically by each family member to suit them and their mood. Why is it like that? Is it because we aren't doing well spiritually? That must be it. But how do we fix that? Yes, we get into the Word and pray, but how do we do that? We can pretend, but we certainly can't keep that facade up at home. Maybe it's not all of us, maybe it's just one that's having a huge affect on the rest. Blessed, I think you probably have an idea of what I'm talking about. What do I do? How do I fix it?

Babyruth, if you think you family is not doing well spiritually, I would say that is most likely it.

The bible tells us there is one thing that causes "war and fightings"

JAMES 4:1
1 ¶ From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?

It's a self thing. Selfishness is clost to the very core of sin. As Christians, we are to live for others, not for self. So if there is fightings amongst you all, it's because there are "lusts that war in your members".

What can you do? What can this other sister (Only one life for God) who are in situations at home that are less than desireable? It's a tough question, and there probably not going to be a magical switch. You may not see the change for some time...but here is what I recommend.

Be a true Christian. (easy right?) But what I mean by that is, lets reflect back to the story Bro Branham tells about how there was a drunk man talking with his friends.


QUESTIONS.AND.ANSWERS.3_ JEFF.IN COD SUNDAY_ 64-0830M
1086-117 So, hanging around down there, and the first thing you know, one night come up a question about church and about Christians. One of the old drunks setting there said, "There ain't no such a thing as Christians any more." Said, "There is no such a thing. All this bunch of hypocrites," said, "you see them out here smoking, drinking, doing the same thing that we do," and said, "call themselves Christians. There is no such."
This one drunk raised up and said, "Just a minute. There's one that I know about. "
Said, "Who is it?"
Said, "It's my wife." See? She'd become salty. He was catching it all the time.
He said, "I bet if she was put to a squeeze..."
He said, "No, she's still a Christian; I'll prove it to you." Said, "I tell you what let's do; let's go up home, and I'll show you whether she's a Christian or not." Said, "Let's go up home, and now, let's really be drunk. We're going to act like we're really drunk." Knocked at the door, come in staggering over everything and--and... "Why don't you set around this a-way," and everything. And she set them all a chair and (his guests, you know)--and tried to make them just as welcome as could be. Said, "I want you to fix us some supper." And so they--she went out and fixed some. Said, "we want ham and eggs." He knowed they had it, so they fixed the ham and eggs. When he got there at the table, he looked at them like that, picked up his plate, and slammed the stuff on the floor, said, "You know, I don't like my eggs like that. Come on boys let's get out of here anyhow," like that--like that.

QUESTIONS.AND.ANSWERS.3_ JEFF.IN COD SUNDAY_ 64-0830M
1087-119 They went out and set down like that, you know. And she come out; she said, "Dear, I'm--I'm sorry I didn't get them fixed; I'll fix some more for you."
"Oh, nonsense, you knowed I didn't want them that way in the first place," just carrying on like that. They went out there, and set down, and act like they was drunk. They heard her in there kind of snubbing to herself, singing real low voice:
Must Jesus bear the cross alone,
All the world go free?
There's a cross for every one,
And there's a cross for me.
This consecrated cross I'll bear,
Till death shall set me free,
One drunk looked at the other one, said, "She's a Christian; she's got it." And that little woman led her husband, plus these others to Christ that night. See? Why? See? Just be real sweet. Just remember, He knows all about it.
So, sister, or brother, whoever it might be, or brother, it is here, 'cause he asked about his wife, you just be salty; she'll get thirsty if there's anything in her to thirst for.


When those men were faced with the reality before them, it convicted them. If you live that kind of life, and create that kind of atmosphere, it will have an affect upon those around you. Remember we are little creators. We CAN create an atmosphere.

The question then becomes HOW? How can I do this?

Do I read the Bible more?
Do I pray more?
DO I listen to tapes more?

All those things are fine, and sure they might help. But just increasing that isn't going to help. It's the attitude and approach behind it.

I want to point out something, and I don't intend this to hurt. I say this in love and to help you. Do you notice the difference between your reactions and the little wife in the story there? She was singing, "must Jesus bear the cross alone, and all the world go free"

Her attitude was one of humility, and service to God. She wasn't saying... "Why me? What did I do? I can't take this anymore!" (I understand we don't always say that, and that you all were/are frustrated) This is a natural thing to say, but look at her attitude towards it. She counted it as suffering for Him. She was, undeniably humble. A proud person would say "fix your own eggs!" or "get out of my house you lazy lout!" but no, she did what he asked, and when she was reviled, reviled not again. (sound familiar?)

Bro Branham told us also that "the secret to power is through humility" He also says "we need power". Because ultimately it will take the power of God to change the situations you all are in. There really is nothing you can do...no amount of politics Ruth will change how your family views what you say. It's going to take the power of God.

So, we find if the secret to power is through humility, the question then becomes, how do I become humble? As the scripture says...

JAMES 4:10
10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.

Many times we just take that and run with it. We just "humble ourselves" I submit to you that if you try to just "become humble" you will have pride in the fact that YOU did it. So somehow you must humble yourself, without being prideful about it.

You see, we don't really look at the context of what it is talking about. This scripture (vs10) is 9 verses AFTER the first one I started this post with. He's talking about fightings, about worldliness...and what is his answer?

JAMES 4:8 - 10
8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.

Dry night to God. Cleanse your hands, purify your hearts, be afflicted, mourn and weep!

My, quite the picture isn't it? This is not just praying more, or reading your Bible more that he's talking about. But it's a desperation and sincereity. It's realizing you live in a desperate age, and the devil is all around pressing in. This is the final times.

What is it going to take to humble yourself? It's going to take getting into the presence of God. It's going to take a sincere thought and realization of who YOU are, and how you compare to God. Because ultimately, when we come into His Holy presence, we can see our unholy nature. You talk about humility!! God's prophet Isaiah came into the presence of God once...it caused Him to cry out "Woe is me, for I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell amongst a people of unclean lips!" There's when God can use someone. There's when the power of God can do something through your life...is when you realize who you are. Because when you come to that spot, you know it's no longer about making things good and ok for you, but it's ALL ABOUT HIM!! All about His love...all about HIS holiness.

And if you must bear the cross, you will say so be it. If God chooses to work in you, like he worked in the little wife in Bro Branham's story, then so be it. Not my will by thine O Lord.

You realize your position in God's economy and He can work HIS will in your life. It's not about how good of a life we can live until Jesus takes us home. It's a life of service.

THINGS.THAT.ARE.TO.BE_ RIALTO.CA V-4 N-6 SUNDAY_ 65-1205
14 Now, we know that this is the day of salvation, where God is calling man from the world, from a life of sin unto a life of service.

But in order to serve with power, you must get into HIS presence. You must do what James tells us in chapter 4. We must come to a place where we recognize the presence of God, and where we stand. We must come to humility. We must get into HIS presence.

Then, we have power. Only, it wont just work at our whim, but that's ok, because it'll work on God's time, and in HIS plan.

Humble yourself sisters. Be real sweet, humble, and kind. Pray earnestly for those around you that need change or even healing over a pain of a lossed child. Let God in the situation through your humility.


(just looked at this again, I know it's long...but, I could hardly condense such a thought)

[azurity]

But in order to serve with power, you must get into HIS presence. You must do what James tells us in chapter 4. We must come to a place where we recognize the presence of God, and where we stand. We must come to humility. We must get into HIS presence.

Then, we have power. Only, it wont just work at our whim, but that's ok, because it'll work on God's time, and in HIS plan.
Amen!! That was awesome. Great post.

Renee, I'll be praying for you and your family!!

Sometimes God puts us in situations to drive us closer to Him. It is really hard while you're going through it, but when there is no one else to turn to, it forces you to turn to Him, and to trust Him alone.

I know you love the Lord, because I can see it in your life. Keep looking to Him, and all things will work for good.

*hugs* God bless you!