Pressures of the World...

[Anna]

Well...since we've been talking about split ends it got me thinking about other things.
Have any of you sisters had other problems with people telling you that you need to do anything else that goes against God? And how did you all respond to those people?

[Anna]

Just an example....

While I was in high school, girls I thought were friends would always tell me that I would look so pretty if I just had a little bit of make up on. I'm like "gee thanks I am so ugly now"... to which they would reply "no but guys would find you more attractive"...

I didn't feel the need to be more attractive to those guys. I mean sure some are cute, but none of them had the right spirit.
And I didn't need anymore attention from the guys...especially not that kind of attention.

So, even though those girls would still bug me about it, I just kinda ignored them when they would talk about it.

[leahmb]

Normally I don't have people telling me what I NEED to do. I guess I just seem to have it together ; ) Or maybe I have too much a mind of my own. Is the advice coming from believers or non-believers? For me coming from unbelivers is easier to handle, because you have to understand that we baffle them. A blanket answer could be "I don't believe in that" and a suggestion is try not to put yourself in compromising situations. Distance yourself from unbelievers. If it's coming from other belivers say "everyone has their own convictions they'll answer for and that kind of goes against mine."

[Babyruth]

I've had people tell me I needed to come to their party and would love to see me drunk. I told them there was no way that would happen, so they'd have to wait for a really long time, like forever!

[AlanaH]

I always respond with "And why do I need to do..."
If they don't shut up within a few minutes, tell them they need to get a life and stay out of yours...:)

[Babyruth]

Good stuff!!!

[marichino_freedom]

since i stopped wearing makeup, my stepmom gives me a hard time and says guys wont find me pretty and stuff, but all my guy friends say my eyes are brighter and that i'm prettier without it

funny

out of the horses mouth.....

[Babyruth]

Too funny!!!!!

[collegegirl]

I've had people tell me I needed to come to their party and would love to see me drunk. I told them there was no way that would happen, so they'd have to wait for a really long time, like forever!
No way! They do that to me too!

I just hate it. I am like, yeah, sure, riiiighht. What fun, to go literally out of your mind, and wake up with a splitting headache hours later, not remembering any of the horrendous stuff that went on. Sounds like a GREAT time to me.

But they just kinda laugh.

[Babyruth]

Yeah, no kidding. Do I look like an idiot? Ooops, after my last couple posts, maybe I do. Don't answer that.

But, yeah, I have never had the desire to go to their parties. It sounds like as much fun as having open heart surgery without pain pills or being knocked out.

[marichino_freedom]

the few parties i ever went to were sooooo dull.

all drunk people ever have to talk about is how drunk they are/were/are going to be

fun stuff

[AlanaH]

Yeah, no kidding. Do I look like an idiot? Ooops, after my last couple posts, maybe I do. Don't answer that.

But, yeah, I have never had the desire to go to their parties. It sounds like as much fun as having open heart surgery without pain pills or being knocked out.

I agree...never has been an issue for me, and I do actually get invited to stuff.
Hey Ruth, the <ahem, cute>:)( COMPLETELY KIDDING!) :) guy that works at the Family Christian store in Lynden asked me out the other day when I went in there. I was like, "Well, I don't date, but if you really want to see me more, our Youth Meetings are starting up really soon and I'm sure that you would enjoy them!" He was like, "Well, yeak, ok, I'll think about it."
Who knows???? :)

[Babyruth]

That's awesome Alana! Who knows, maybe you can convert him... :D

[AlanaH]

Hey, maybe..
All I know is that the church could definitely use a cute guy...they are in short supply...and most of the good ones are taken already...but of course, you would say that there are no good ones period...:) :) Oh well.

[Babyruth]

Too true, too true. Still, it could be in God's plans. You never know. :D

[blessed]

All I know is that the church could definitely use a cute guy...they are in short supply...and most of the good ones are taken already...

Lol... that was funny

Be careful dear, don't fall for an unbeliever even if he has intentions of coming to church.

"Guard your heart, only trade it for a Holy Ghost filled man who loves you and your God"

[Babyruth]

I don't think Alana will fall for him unless he's a believer. She's pretty firm in her stand. But, don't worry, I'll be there to knock some sense into her if she does. :beat:

[collegegirl]

HAHA!

You are there to help convince ANYONE who is thinking along those lines.

Be careful, because you can get infatuated very quickly. I thought that I was strong, and the next thing that I knew it was all I could do to keep from thinking of this guy...Not that I am infatuated with boys, but this kinda just happened.

"Maybe I can invite him to church, and then he will convert, and then I will be there ready for him."

Honestly, at one point and time, that is what I though.

Then the Lord removed him and his family from the workplace, and have seen him only once since he left. This was a couple of months ago.

It happens. Not saying that you aren't strong, but things just happen.

[blessed]

That's right sis.

[AlanaH]

Just to clear up....
I am not even seriously thinking of trying to convert this guy, on all of my other posts, I am sooo joking...
I would NEVER fall for an unbeliever or someone that hasn't been in the Message for at least a few years..

Thanks for the encouragement, Ruth :) LOL

[Babyruth]

See, I told you. She's safe. :D

[AlanaH]

Yup, completely safe...:)

[Babyruth]

:yay: :yay:

[AlanaH]

Why, are you like happy that I'll be single for awhile???

[Babyruth]

Yes, of course! What would I do if you weren't? We wouldn't have much fun together if you weren't single.

[AlanaH]

True enough, but I could always run away for a few hours at least...

[collegegirl]

Well...since we've been talking about split ends it got me thinking about other things.
Have any of you sisters had other problems with people telling you that you need to do anything else that goes against God? And how did you all respond to those people?
I have people all of the time tell me that I need to move out. I tell them dad doesn't want me to, and I am much happier at home. I have actually had someone ask me if I was brainwashed.

The funny thing is, all of the youth are the ones telling me I need to go out and to do this and that and that I am 18 and I can think for myself, and all of the adults that I talk to (who are around my parents age) are like "I wish that my kids had listened to me like that" and "don't ever change".

Makes me wonder who I should l listen too...the kids with their limited view, or the adults who have actually seen way more of the real world, and know what is actually out there. Toughie...:think: <sarcasm>

[AlanaH]

I have people all of the time tell me that I need to move out. I tell them dad doesn't want me to, and I am much happier at home. I have actually had someone ask me if I was brainwashed.


Yeah, me too.
I'm not moving out until I either get married or I turn 40, whichever happens first.:)

[Anna]

If my family life was like you gals' then I wouldn't have a problem staying at home. Surround by people that are in the message and following God with their whole hearts, that set good examples for me. But my life isn't so picture perfect....so I am moving out in the next couple weeks. Not because I want to have freedom to do what I want as many people try to tell you to try to convince you to move out. But I am moving out so I can live the life fully. I am exposed to too much living at home, that isn't good for my spirit and that constantly makes me have to battle within myself. Anyways just thought I'd share that....

[AlanaH]

Well, good luck on moving out, I don't blame you as I would probably do the same if I was in that kind of situation...all the best to you....

[Babyruth]

I wouldn't mind moving out, but I'm fine too. I don't mind living at home, just not for long. Sometime soon, like in 4 years, or maybe less, I'll move out.

[marichino_freedom]

i plan on living at home for the next two and a half years to get done with school (ok, its really more like a year and a half, but as far as semesters go.....)

[blessed]

I would not mind moving out, because of family issues but then my pastor gave a very good argument as to why I should not seeing how out there is not to safe for young unmarried lady and so forth . So he won for now :D

But if I turn 30 and is still single I am definetly moving out.

[Babyruth]

That is very true. I will have to move out in 4 years though, because I live too far from my college. I'll probably move in with a sister from our church. She lives close to the college and is really nice.

[blessed]

That's great. you'll save on rent :)

[AlanaH]

You're going to WWU right? I don't know who lives out there...

[leahmb]

I think she means when she is done @ WWU and is going to school in Canada.

[Babyruth]

Yeah, that's what I mean. I will still pay some rent, but probably not as expensive.

[marichino_freedom]

i live with my mom and i pay 300 dollars in rent a month, so it definately is cheaper than being in my own apartment!

[collegegirl]

Right now I just couldn't imagine moving out of my parents home.

Anna, I will be praying for you, as I would be scared to death.

[AlanaH]

Yeah, that's what I mean. I will still pay some rent, but probably not as expensive.

Oh, ok...I was just wondering. I'll have to ask you who later.

[Babyruth]

She lives by UBC and has people stay with her all the time. I'm sure you know who she is. :D

[AlanaH]

I'm sure I do too, but my mind is coming up blank....PM me...

[Babyruth]

Speaking of college, college is a pressure. I wouldn't be going if I didn't want to be, but it is a huge pressure, at least here in the States. I'm all for it, and I'm going, but it's not for some people and that's fine, but it shouldn't be a pressure. Now I don't agree with people lazing around doing nothing, but if they just want a job and not college, that's fine, as long as they can provide for themselves and in the case of guys, for a family.

So, I guess what I'm trying to say is that while college is necessary and very useful for most people, I don't think it's right to be pressured into it. I know people tried to do that to me, and I refused. I am going to college, but it's because I think that's what God wants me to be doing for the moment. Anyone understand what I am trying to say? I don't think I do, but I'm trying. :)

[AlanaH]

Yeah, i know what you're saying. A lot of people are trying to pressure me into doing something, but I just don't feel that it's God's will.

[Anna]

sure....You just keep doing what it is God wants you to do. Cause once you start listening to everyone else or even just following your own desires, without consulting God, you are bound for trouble. So keep on going sisters!